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is she a friend worth keeping?
14/f;I've got this friend, im naming her "ashley", well i've known her since kindergarten. And she & i have been fighting a lot lately, bcuz we've changed and stuff.well i found she talks about me behind my back a little bit. well she wrote me a letter telling me that i dont care about our friendship and that we are no longer friends. Well she cries about it a lot and sometimes she cuts herself.her and my b/f dont get a long, so it makes it hard for me to spend time with them;plus i have a job. wut do i do? cuz she can b really really bitchy and mean, but then again i love her to death!but shes threatend to stop being my friend before... & shes trying to make me choose between her & my b/f.
point is wut she i do just stop being friends with her?Or try to work things out?
P.S. if you have any questions write it in an answer and ill post additional info.
Thanx in advance!
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Start by getting her help. Self-mutilation is not something to be taken lightly. After that, spend some time with her and decide if you want to be around her more. Then decide for youself whether to stick with her or move on. If you're just sticking with her out of a sense of duty, she'll probably notice and it can make things much worse. If, on the other hand, you find out that when you're together she can let down her guard and be the friend you've loved "to death" for years then absolutely, do what you can to make it work, and she'll probably start to respond.
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I would try to work things out.
When you're not working, make time for your boyfriend, and make time for Ashley. That way, you can do everything you'd like to do, and no one will be jumping down your throat about it.
In the mean time, get her some help for her cutting because that's not a safe or healthy thing for her to do, and she might end up taking it too far.
Try not to fight with her though. I know she can be mean & bitchy, but you just need to stick it out. But confront her about it also. Although you're her friend, you don't have to take her shit.
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If you care about her a lot, I would give her another chance but explain to her that what she is doing trying to make you choose between her and your bf is wrong and isnt making things any better, that she is making things worse.
However, it's strange how she is saying that your friendship isnt imporant to her. Like you said, people change and she has changed, so maybe you love the girl that you were friends with during elementary school, but she has changed and you have to. People move on and make better friends and meet new people. There are very lucky ones that stay with their friends from childhood until forever. Do you want to fight for your friendship? And if you do, do you think that "Ashley" will to? It's your call. I can't tell you to stop being friends with her because she might need you, since she cuts herself and stuff. You should really think about it. Good luck with everything! :)
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