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Hello -- I'm Becky. I am here for you, to help you with anything you need help with. I'll try my hardest to answer your questions. It may not always be what you want to here, but know that I always put my time and effort into each answer. I'm not here to gain points from you, when you rate my advice... I don't long for a 5 as my rating. All I care about is helping you. It's ridiculous how people basically go on this website to see if what they is justified and right, and if advice columnists state otherwise, they rate your advice low. For example, a 13 year old girl asking how to give oral sex. First of all, it's not bad if someone warns you to put what you're doing into deep thought and consideration. They are just trying to give you their opinion on the situation. Isn't that the whole point of this website? Exactly. Anywhoooo, I'm 15 years old. Yes, 15. Too young? No! I'm very mature for my age. If you dont want to get advice from a 15 year old, then don't listen to it... However, I'm still going to give you my opinion :)
Florida -- Yes the hot sun, all the variety of people, and the beaches is all here. I love Miami, I've been here all my life and I dont intend on leaving any time soon. I've actually had no choice, since I've never even left the state :0 But that will chance this summer. :) Hmmm... (And it did!)
I go to High School and I am a Freshman. :0
What else? Well, I play the guitar and I have been playing since I was in 4th grade. I love everything about music -- it's my life. Seriously, I either have my iPod to jamm to, iHome, computer... I basically need music anywhere I go, because I really can't live without it. I mean I could, but it would be a very depressing and boring life 0.o
I've gone through so much drama the past few years of my life and I'm not even in highschool. Each time I go through a horrible situation, I learn from it for the next one. It's hard, but that's life. Everyone has drama in their life. Everyone has been betrayed. Everyone is going through or has gone through these stages of seeing who your true friends really are in the end. It's a hard journey, and I'm no where near done with it. But everyone goes through it. And if you have any problems or questions a long the way, I am here to help. :D
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There is this friend,and he now knows that I like him. He was shocked to hear that but we still talk. One day he randomly came up to me saying "You are going to do me aren't you, just letting you know you can do me anytime" I gave him like a look but he was smiling then just walked off. Then in class the next day I was "sleeping" and I overheard him say this " I'd pound on her s--- like bam I'd f--- the ish out of her" we still talk. But what am I supposed to do or to say to that? I like him but I'm confused. What should I do?
That kid is a perverted loser. The fact that he found out you liked him and is using it to basically talk like he's now going to score with you shows that he is not worth your time. That IS how most guys talk but there are better guys out there that actually know how to respect woman and not talk about them like they are nothing but a piece of ass. Seriously, I recommend you forget about him because he definately is not good enough for you. There's better guys out there that are worth your time :)
I've been dating a girl who can't get rid of her ex-boyfriend. We spend a lot of time together and she cares for me. He has beaten her, and she does fear him. She tried to leave him several times, but only went back. Now she claims she will cold turkey him once he gets his own place in a month. Then she said she will give me all of her and make an honest attempt at us. She talks about the future and keeps me hanging on. Will she ever make the move or should I move on and figure she will never leave him?
Look, it sounds to me like she's just stalling to get rid of her ex because if she wanted to get rid of him, she would have a long time ago. You need to explain to her that this has gone on for too long and you dont want to be just hanging on forever. It's all on you though, do you honestly feel like she will ever leave him? If not, then you have to move on because stuff like this happens all the time where a girl's boyfriend treats her bad and yet, she doesn't leave him. It doesnt make sense but there really is nothing anyone can do about it. The way she has you hanging on by talking about the future isnt really fair to you, because this will make it even harder to move on since you believe everything she's saying. If you want to wait for her because you truly think she's worth it then go for it, but from what you've said, it doesnt really sound like she is going to get rid of the ex. I'm sorry. I hope she does and that I helped. :)
ok so im 14/f and still TERRIFIED of the dark. every night when i go to sleep i imagine murderers breaking in and killing me. I don't watch scary movies anymore, just a few here and there. the old ones still come back to haunt me, i'll remember any scary thought when it's nighttime. the fact that my house is PITCH BLACK at night doesn't help at all either. i really really desperately need help, i'm scared to go to bed at night. i can't even get up to go pee because im scared the killer with "hear me". i want to use a nightlight, but i don't want my parents to think i'm a wuss, i mean i'm 14!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me find a way to be comfortable in my own house at night.
That's nothing to be ashamed of. People are scared of the most bizzare things, and the dark isnt that bizzare because I use to be too. Actually, not AFRAID of the dark but I would imagine murderes or scenes from a scary movie I just saw. You shouldnt be embarrased to tell your parents because they also need to help you overcome your fear. You do need a nightlight and it's not like your a wuss because you want one, people use nightlights to be able to see where they are going if they wake up in the middle of the night to go pee for example lol. Also, you should maybe leave atleast one light on in your house like the kitchen so it's not PITCH BLACK. If you happen to be scared when you are in bed, just hug your pillow or stuffed animal and think of something that will make you happy. :) I really hope I helped.
in a way i do, but in a way i don't, he graudated 2 years ago. and has gone to college, though he's kinda home.. i haven't seen him in over an year, then saw him 2 months ago at the school when he did obversing and whatnot. im not exactly sure, but it seems i act different towards him online then others, i don't know..most of our conversations are kinda sexual, though we do talk about our problems sometimes. i don't know, erh.
Once again, I dont believe that's a double life. I mean, you dont act the total opposite of who you are in real life since you dont seem to be sure, i mean you do talk about problems and it's obviously going to be different the way you are with him since it's mostly sexual.
would you consider this a double life?
Talking to someone not many know your friends with to begin, and to cyber and touch yourself when doing it. Would that be a double life sorta, since none of your friends or obviously your family know you do it and what not?
No I do not consider that a double life. Obviously, your family would not know about you cybering because that's your personal life and I'm sure they wouldnt want to know that you cyber lol. And your friends dont need to know everything about you, like what you do because that is your private business and sharing that with them would probably be too much information lol. Just because you are talking to someone no one knows your friends with to begin with, does not mean you have a double life. A double life is where you pretend to be someone else on the net which is totally different then who you are in real life, the question is, do you act the same with the person you cyber with?
okay this might sound weird or you might not understand. but i'm quite thin the problem is i'm wide not because of my body but i have 2 big humps on each side of my waist full of fat atleast i think so . i want to loose them but i can't stay on a diet and i don't want to take pills at young age what can i do?
The 'humps' you are referring to on each side of your waist of fat is called love handles which is completely normal and almost every person in this world has it. I am 15, and I am skinny as well and I have it too.
However, since you want to get rid of it... I just have to let you know that it is known that permanently getting rid of them is impossible. There are millions of products out there that supposedly eliminate love handles (ITS A SKAM), it is said and proven that it's not possible. The best way you can reduce that fat is basically, just be healthy in what you eat and be active.
Look, getting rid of the love handles is definately not the easiest thing in the world and having them is definately not the worst because like you said, you are quite thin which is good! You just gotta love your body and who you are and eventually you will find someone to love it too! :)
I am a 16 year old female. I like a guy who is 21. What do I do? I've been told he likes me too. But thats a big age difference.
Right now it seems like a big age difference because your 16 and he's 21. But when your 21, he'll be 26, thats really one 5 years apart. My parents are 6 years a part. You shouldnt think of it that way because as you get older thats actually normal to date a guy thats a few years older than you. I would say to go for it, but dont do anything you'll regret with him. Follow your heart.
I got my new pair of Converse Chucks shoes yesterday, but on the box it says size 4 mens, and size 6 womens. But on the receipt it says MENS! Is this a good/bad thing for a *girl* to have MENS shoes? Are Converse Chucks men's and women's shoes kinda made/are the same way? I don't know if it's me, but they really DO look like men's shoes and it's kinda embarrassing if anyone knew! On the website converse.com, if you look at a shoe and roll over sizes in US womens then size 6, it would say "your converse size is 4" So I was wondering if I could still buy them online. (I don't think size 4 men's//6 women's and size 4 women's//6 women's are the same so I'm really worried I can't buy them online.)
I have 6 pairs of converse!
5 low tops, and 1 high top.
Almost every single person I know, male and female have converse. It's a unisex brand, just like nike, reebok, ect. If you're a size 6 in women, you're a 4 in men. It's the same thing but not the other way around. That's actually my size. The sizes go by mens though, doesnt mean its a men's shoe! If you go to the mall or anywhere and you look at peoples shoes, you are bound to see someone in converse... male or female. Converse is my favorite type of shoe, I'm a girl and I dont think it looks like its for men. I think the shoes are adorable.
I really had no idea where to put this q, so yeah.I was wondering....
How do braces(for teeth) get taken off and does it hurt at all? I've asked my dentist but he never answers me... If you could help that would be great cause i am kinda scared to get them off.
I just recently got my braces off.
At my Orthodontist, the first 10 minutes I was there they were already off. He took like plyers and just pressed every bracket and it all came out together. I was shocked because I thought it was a long process to take it off, but it isnt. The reason it's such a long appointment is because the glue is still on your teeth. When he took mine off, I licked my teeth and it felt discusting. However, they take that off with like a drill that actually smells really bad because when they do it, it's right next to your nose.. It smells like something is being drilled, but its very powerful and they do that for every single tooth that had a brace. After that, you'll teeth will be slippery and feel very different but in a good way. Then, theyll put the gunk to form your teeth and take picture of your teeth and all that for your retainer that you're probably going to get. You shouldnt be scared at all, it doesnt hurt, once you get them off, youll probably not even stop smiling. Trust me. Enjoy!
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So it doesn't hurt at all? When he like yanks them off it doesn't hurt? The drill thingy doesn't hurt either???????? that sounds really weird to me..... are you sure....?
For me, it didnt hurt when he was actually taking the braces off. Its not like a drill for a screw kind of thing, It just scrapes the glue off. Honestly, my teeth didnt even feel sore after the were off, no more pain just white clean teeth. Im postive, I got them off 2 weeks ago, I remember everything that happened.
Dont worry!
http://i12.tinypic.com/52kuyjk.jpg
do you noe where i can find this camera at?
pleasee help
It looks like a Casio Exilim in pink.
You can get it at Best Buy, Circuit City, any electronic store that sells cameras, really.
I actually have one too in red, and it's amazing, anyone would love this camera.
http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp?skuId=8274253&st=casio+exilim&type=product&id=1170290767644
That website is showing it from Best Buy. That is where I got it. Right now it says sold out in the store so you could get it online, or any other store.
:)
I have regular fights with my best friend and she really annoys me most of the time. She's just not really me if you know what i men anyway she was typing some mean thing in an im box and she wasn't gonna send it but i sent it and now that guy got mad at her, and DUH she's mad at me. But secretly like I said I've been wanting to do something so bad to her alot worse than that and wat she was doing then was fine its just payback for every single time she hurt me or made me hate her. I really wish she just wouldn't be my friend.
But the problem is called spheres of influence. She's one of those really popular girls and I already have rumors (fake rumors) and fake gossip about me with her as an enemy she will spread more stuff and honestly i would have no friends. none. and although for me it's fine i don't like anyone thats in her group, but her group is basically the school. and it will be a problem when im back just walking from class to class no talking. Im sorry this is long my life is just messed up right now and I need to start making right decisions on stuff andif u read this hope fully you can help me.
It's obvious you dont want to be best friends with her. SO DONT BE. The thing is, she could start rumors about you blah blah blah SO? Like you said, you dont even like her friend but it's completely understandable that you dont want to be alone. You were saying that you wanted to do something bad to her in order for her to get mad at you so you will stop being friends? Eh... Dont do that. I mean, you could WANT to do it, but dont do it. She could tell everybody and it wouldnt be a rumor since it's actually true, you know? If you stay friends with her, it's for all the wrong reasons. I advice you not to. She will use her being popular and being able to manipulate your whole social life to her advantage. What I mean is, don't tipy toe around her just because she's popular. Be you. The simplest way to stop being friends with her is to avoid her and when she talks to you, try to get out of the conversation, you know? Become atleast acquiantances, NOT enemies. Good luck with everything.
ok so heres how it went.
my bff is kind of spoiled and high strung. she has mega high expectations for guys.
anyways..she was going out with this guy thats sooo nice and cute and just the perfect bf for her cause he was nice and she was a bitch and they "completed eachother".
but then she broke up with him because she said he was to clingy. like a week after that me and her ex started talking and i told him i was sorry about what my bff did to him and we just started to talk and now i really like him and im pretty sure he likes me too.
so is it ok to date him? my bff doesnt know we've been talking to eachother. what should i do should i act on it or just break it off? should i tell my bff?
any answers great.
thankyou
I hate it when girls treat their boyfriends like crap that treated them so well, and claim them as still theirs after SHE breaking up with him. It's not wrong what you're doing. It IS ok to date him but your friend might have a problem, pretend she doesnt care and actually do, or not care at all. You should talk to her. If she has a problem with it, you should ask her if she still has feelings for him and if she didnt there is no reason for him to be "off limits." She IS your bff so you should listen to her and how she feels unless you want to lose her. I mean, do you really want to be a part of a whole love triangle? First see if it's all worth it, and THEN do whatever you want and feel is right.
14/f and he's 15/m and we're both in 9th grade. This is really immature and childish but can you just read and answer for me, please?
So, there is this guy [let's call him Scott]. He's bi/gay and he's a major drama queen [no pun intended]. He'll get mad over the slightest thing. For instance, he got mad at my bffl because he always wore the same jacket. He got mad and started yelling at me b/c I didn't bring a cookie b/c I forgot. He drags me to the lunch line every other day and basically orders me to buy him food with my money.
Well, about a week ago, he suddenly called on Monday after school and said he was going to come over right that instant. I said no because I had homework and a violin lesson later that night. Then he said that all I did was homework and that I needed to get a life and be a teenager. Well, we went back and forth saying yes, no, yes, no. Well, about two days ago, my other friend and I were going down the hallways and I jokingly said that I was going to come to his house one day and he said that I already lost my chance? I was like okay then...but then he seriously went into full drama mode and said "If you don't hang out after school, I'm not going to talk to you." Or something like that. So I finally snapped and got so pissed off because he was getting mad at me for controlling my own life. So I told him that if he wanted to be a b*tch then he could be a b*tch and walked off.
Well, I don't really care that he's mad at me and I'm glad that I'm free from his drama because frankly, I was sick of tolerating him making me buy him food, yelling at me, and getting mad at me for stupid things. Right now, he's going around saying that I'm being a b*tch and overreacting and making a scene...when I'm ignoring everything. So, my question is am I overreacting? Is it reasonable for me to be mad at him?
Sorry this was so long.
You're definately right because this kid has no right to tell you what to do and be mad at someone for wearing something a lot? That's ridicolous. Compared to me, you're a really patient person because I seriously would not tolerate that kid for like one day lol. Anyway, I know that feeling where you like feel good to finally have someone out of your life that's all about drama that you dont want to deal with, trust me. You're not overreacting. Hopefully, he'll mature one day and stop acting like a drama queen. Dont feel guilty for finally telling him how you feel. It was the right thing to do, to let him know how you feel. If hes mad, so be it. You're way better offffffff.
I'm 15/f and a freshman in high school.
I know it's almost the end of the year but I've had a crush (god I hate that word) on on of the junior guys for the longest time. He's a really sweet guy and we only talk from time to time but I couldn't stop the "school-girl crush" from happening. Is it even possible for a junior to like a freshman? Or am I totally out of my league?
Thanks in advance,
Little Freshie
Yes, it's possible. At my highschool, juniors seem to always go for freshman for some reason. It doesnt matter how old you are. If you like him, dont be ashamed of it because of your age! Age difference seems to be such a big deal when you're in school but once you get to the real world, you'd probably date guys 2 times older or younger than you, haha. But seriously, age is nothing... I would go for it. It's the end of the school year though... So try and make plans with him over the summer, or wait until next year. Good luck!
Ok so theres this guy names Tony and i really really really like him. But heres the thing im friends with his sister. but like when i have softball games he come because his sister is playing right next to me. So when i hurt my leg he comes over like 20 mins after and like took a woofle bat and smacked my noisy with it and then did it again. like everyone thinks i flit with him and that he flirt with him. I want to ask him if he likes me but im not sure if i should. Like when he stairs at me i smile at him and he smiles back. When i told him nice game he started smiling and was like no i sucked. and like i get nervous around him. so please help what should i do ask him for not ask him??
Definately ask him -- He seems to like you too which is good and you need to remember that life is short and you cant just sit and wait around until it's too late. Go for it. If it doesnt turn out the way you wanted, atleast you know instead of that horrible question: What If?
You definately should go for it!
Ok. so my friend she is going out with my ex, and like she is telling my best friend that she kind likes him when he is over here saying he loves her and she is perfect. He is over here saying she is his world, and that he would die with out her. She is just in the relationship just to go out with him longer then i did. i really want to tell him whats going on because he is my best friend and i dont want to see him hurt again. so please help i really want to tell him but i dont want her to be mad at me!!
What your friend is doing is wrong! She is basically competing with you that she can go out with your exboyfriend longer. How childish!
That isnt right at all and you owe it to him to tell him the truth, like you said he is your best friend. It's really low that she's using him and is going out with him for all the wrong reasons and you need to let him know that because he seems to be crazy about her, right?
If she finds out and gets mad at you, oh well. What she did is wrong and she needs to be told straight. Be a good friend to your best friend and tell him the truth. As for your other friend, she doesnt deserve him anyway. And what goes around... comes around, someday.
Tell him! Tell him! Tell him!
I wish you the best of luck :D
okay. so i'll wash my hair in the morning and about half way through the day it'll start to get oily and nasty. and it makes me look dirty and like i don't wash my hair. is there anything i can do to prevent my hair from getting oily? a certain shampoo or something? thankss
-Okay, I went on this website that basically explains why you might have oily hair, and ways to prevent it --http://www.mothernature.com/Library/Bookshelf/Books/47/101.cfm
-It gives 16 possible ways to prevent it from happening!
-Goodluck with that and I hope this website helps. If it doesnt, there's plenty more on google. :)
how can it not be awkward between me and my best friend. god i like him so much and i wish i could let him know that but somehow i feel like ill get hurt again. its just i think he may feel something for me too but a while back when i told him how i felt it was not possible for him to like me. but now he can like me because he is over that situation he was in. and im not talking about another girl, im talking about him thinking he was attracted to guys. but hes made it clear that hes not anymore. hes strait. but yea the only problem is that he has always been afraid of commitment. and he wrote a poem about heartbreak and i think it was about me. its so sad.... but yea idk it seems like he really likes me too. but is he scared like me? help please and thank you. 14/ f btw.
You need to put yourself out there. This guy is afraid of commitment? I don't think he's going to reveal his feeling for you, if he has anyway. He might though and you need to find out. You cant just sit around waiting for something that might never even happen. Because in the end, he will always be that What If... And you dont want to happen, do you? Well, I would tell him. If he doesnt feel the same way, make it clear you still want to be friends but atleast you know that you gave it a shot and it will be a lot easier to move on, knowing there's nothing there. So, tell him! And good luck :D
16/f.
i liked this guy and he liked me. me n him go to the same school.
we both live "out of zone" for our school and should be going elsewhere.
well, he called me recently and told me that he didnt want a relationship with me because of lacrosse and his grades.
but come to find out, he lied to me and hes going out with one of my friends that goes to the school that we should be going to.
i really liked him and i spent my sweet 16 depressed over him. should i confront him about it? call him and tell him we need to talk? or should i just let it be, seeing as he's been ignoring me lately?
First off, I'm sorry for what he did to you. Not all guys are complete idiots though -- Most are :) But there are good guys out there and this one is definately not one of them. I wouldnt even bother calling and talking to him, he's not worth a second of your time since he treated you badly by lying to you. He could of just been honest when he broke up with you, that he liked someone else you know? But making it on his studies and sports is just an easy way out that he took. He's a loser. You deserve better. Stop stressing over him because seriously you're better off without him and guys like him. But not all guys are like that, keep searching for the right one ;)
im a fifteen year old female..and i have this friend, her names jessica. shes not a horrible freind but she is very dramatic and she lies and likes to gossip..alot. well the other day i didnt feel like talking on the phone so i didnt answer her call but she kept calling, it went from the house phone to my cell phone back and fourth for almost and hour. i got sick of it and finally answered and she got mad at me and said that i was ignoring her. i told her that i just didnt feel like talking, and she got mad. now im a really nice person and i need help coming up with something to tell her so she can leave me alone already, i mean its nice to talk sometimes but im not a "talking on the phone" type of person. so i just need a way of telling her to kind of back off without coming across as being ignorant. thanks =]
Let me get this straight -- She's dramatic, lies, gossips, and calls you 100,000 times a day?
Like you said, she isnt a horrible friend but she isnt a good one either. I would, tell her to stop calling you because you just dont like to talk on the phone. That isnt being a mean person, you're being honest. If she doesnt understand that and gets mad at you, big deal. It's better off since you dont have to deal with her drama anymore. And it's easier since you dont have to be TOO mean about it. If you even end up staying friends with her, try and get her to stop being so dramatic, and talking gossip is a huge no-no. There really is no point of gossiping, everyone does it but there is a limit, you know? It always ends up hurting people in the end and I would explain that to her. If explaining this, and going through all this trouble to try and change someone that might never change is a hassle, just let her go. She doesnt seem like a very good friend in the first place, so it's not like you're missing out and a great friendship.