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i have this friend that doesnt like her boyfriend and he is
Ok. so my friend she is going out with my ex, and like she is telling my best friend that she kind likes him when he is over here saying he loves her and she is perfect. He is over here saying she is his world, and that he would die with out her. She is just in the relationship just to go out with him longer then i did. i really want to tell him whats going on because he is my best friend and i dont want to see him hurt again. so please help i really want to tell him but i dont want her to be mad at me!!
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Isn't the cardinal rule of friendship, "Don't date each other's exes"? So in the first place, she's doing wrong. What an icky friend.
If you're absolutely sure that she's only in the relationship to date him longer than you did (and I do mean ABSOLUTELY sure), then I think you should tell him. If he's such a close friend, then he deserves for you to tell him. All you have to do is get him in a private place and say, "Look, _____. I know that you really love _____, and you would do anything for her. But I consider you my best friend and I care about you a lot, because we've been through a lot together. I think you should know that _____ said/implied/whatever that she's only in the relationship with you, because she wants to date you longer than I did. I just wanted you to know, because I don't want you to get hurt."
At this point, she's being a terrible friend and a bad girlfriend, so it doesn't matter if SHE gets mad that you told him -- because in my opinion, you need to drop her anyway.
When you tell him, though, you need to understand that you run the risk of HIM getting upset, and thinking you're trying to ruin their relationship or get him back or something like that. So brace yourself for that if you decide to tell him.
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The first thing I have to ask is how you know that this is just a competition your friend is playing with your ex?
Either way to start with you might want to have a chat with your friend and explain to her that this 'game' has gone too far and he will get seriously hurt because he is getting very emotionally attached (although I doubt he will sie without her - all guys say that and they move along fine given time). If your friend wasn't the one who had told you about what was going on and you heard it elsewhere then you're doing your part by telling your ex (whos your friend as well) about this rumour you've been hearing and how he needs to be more vigilant.
Either way and regardless as to what action you take someone will get hurt and someone will get mad and all of that may well end up being directed to you (she will be mad you told him and he will be mad you didn't warn him sooner).
The way I see it you'll have a choice to make, a very big one too. You can either do nothing and leave them at it and eventually things will come to their conclusion or you can step in and do something about it. What I said above might be one way to go about this too. It really is up to you which you decide to do though. Good luck either way and I hope your ex appreciates how much you care about him not getting hurt.
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What your friend is doing is wrong! She is basically competing with you that she can go out with your exboyfriend longer. How childish!
That isnt right at all and you owe it to him to tell him the truth, like you said he is your best friend. It's really low that she's using him and is going out with him for all the wrong reasons and you need to let him know that because he seems to be crazy about her, right?
If she finds out and gets mad at you, oh well. What she did is wrong and she needs to be told straight. Be a good friend to your best friend and tell him the truth. As for your other friend, she doesnt deserve him anyway. And what goes around... comes around, someday.
Tell him! Tell him! Tell him!
I wish you the best of luck :D
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Sweetie, if she's in the relationship just t go out with him longer than you, that's no friend!! You should tell him right away before he gets hurt. And make sure you tell him that he's your bestfriend and you don't to see him get hurt, that way he'll know you are serious! Hope I helped!!
~Kitty <333
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