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Question Posted Sunday April 22 2007, 2:09 am

well i always get advice from my friends because i cut, and the thing is i think there sick of dealing with my problems and they mostly all ditched me. long story. anyways, i was wondering if this works, well everyone always says when your about to cut or when you need a distraction that you just talk to someone online that you dont know with similiar problems because they cant use it against you and stuff.
so my question is does that work?
and is anyone on here a cutter?


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jlle answered Tuesday April 24 2007, 4:35 am:
As a recovering cutter, yes, any distraction works. If you've got people who you think are honestly holding the addiction against you then find someone else to talk to. There are a lot of blogrings and forums for cutters, which are great places to go if you need a circuit of people to talk to online... search SIdney, cutter, whatever and just see what you find. It really is an addiction, so be proud that you're trying to stop. You can do it.
One thing that's important though... make sure you're talking to somebody else who really wants to stop. Otherwise you'll just be pulled down farther. Good luck.

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christina answered Sunday April 22 2007, 3:42 pm:
Yeah, I would say it does work. I am a recovering cutter, so feel free to IM me and talk to me on:

whoa its tina xx -- AOL.
tinas mad hood -- AIM.
christina_curbstomp -- YAHOO.

If you'd like to email me instead:

whoaitstinaxx@aol.com
or
christina_curbstomp@yahoo.com

I'm always here to help. =)

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ammo answered Sunday April 22 2007, 3:08 pm:
I'm not a cutter but I have had many friends who are and I almost came to being one I guess. :/

I'll explain:

I had a friend years back who used to cut a lot and I could never understand why she would do it. I would nag at her constantly when she was wanting to do it (or when she had done it) about not doing it and how she should be able to stop herself etc, etc, etc. About a month later I had a really bad breakup with my gf. Then other things pilled up on top and things just got bad to worse and I was getting extremely stressed out. I wanted to scream because I felt I was in a lot of pain on the inside but I couldn't let it out. One night I picked up a knife and came very close to cutting myself. For some reason I felt if i cut myself maybe the pain would make me scream. Maybe the pain I'd feel from being cut would help me forget the pain I felt deep inside which I couldn't ease or rub better or make go away. Eventually I put the knife down and I didn't do it and the next day I told my friend who used to cut I was sorry for all the times I was shouting at her to stop when I should have been supportive and trying to help her stop by talking to her.

Talking does help. I think many people who don't cut just don't realise sometimes exactly what it is that drives people to want to cut - it can be a very hard thing to explain. It took me to almost breaking point (to when I almost did it) for me to realise what my friend/s must have felt like or have been going through at the time. A distraction is always a big help. Being out with friends, going out doing different things all works really well. The only time I would feel really down and stressed out was when I was alone at night when I had no distracitons around me. Funny enough that was the first time I had needed my friends to help me and was the one time no one was ever there. It's true that you only know who your real friends are when you need them the most.

Talk about your problems if you can with someone, even if you have to go to a professional about it (you can talk to them in complete confidence without worry) or just with someone who will be willing to listen. Do things to keep yourself busy so you're not distracted into wanting to cut. Read a good book, design a personal web site about yourself, stay at a friends place, go away on a holiday with friends to get away from it all... all will help. :]

Good luck and I hope I was able to be of some help.

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AskJR answered Sunday April 22 2007, 2:58 pm:
Cutting is a mental illness. You won't be able to stop on your own.

You cut to feel alive and to numb the pain in your life.

You MUST seek a professional therapist that is qualified to counsel cutters.

Talk to your family. Your friends have already given up on you, but your family won't.

Get into a clinic and/or specialist IMMEDIATELY!

You are wasting your life. You are ruining your life. What man will want you with scars all over your body and a sickness of cutting her own flesh?

You are ruining your life. Get help and get it NOW!

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