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FIRST PART: Ok I joined an online dating service and I was emailing one of the guys who wanted to know about me and what I looked like. My mom said tell him you are tall and slim. I said to her why did you say slim and not thin because I am thin. She replied because it sound sexier. I got a little upset that she said slim because she always tells me I am thin/skinny. She said slim means thin but sounds sexier. MY QUESTION: AM I OVERREACTING AND WHAT DO YOU THINK OF WHAT SHE SAID? SECOND PART: Today at work I had to call my mom. During the course of the phone conversation I asked her about slim and thin. I said to her that I was surprised she said slim because she always tells me I am thin. And she said you are - you are even skinny, but slim sounds nicer. She said; if someone is a bleached blonde you would not say bleached blonde because it isnt nice so you would say blonde. It is the same with thin, instead of saying thin you would say slim. Well then tonight I asked her again and she said the following; (1) at the beginning of tonights conversation - you wouldnt put thin on the online dating service because thin sounds anorexic; (2) towards the end of the conversation - what is the difference between thin and slim. MY QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF WHAT TRANSPIRED ABOVE?
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Your mom is right, as always.
It's all about connations.
For example, soft sounds positive.
Mushy sounds negative.
Same concept. "Thin" has negative connations and makes people think super-skinny (NOT a good thing). Guys like girls who are in shape with a few curves. Slim just sounds better.
Slim does mean the same thing as thin but it sounds nicer.
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slim and thin mean the same thing. they have the same denotation. however, they have differnt connotations. slim does sound sexier. that's not saying that you're slim and not thin... because they're the same thing. your mom was just trying to make you sound even more appealing to the guy. there is no difference between thin and slim. it's all a matter of connotation. skinny and thin make you sound twiggy. she didn't mean for it to offend you, she was just showing you that you can use different synonyms for the same thing to get completely different points across.
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I think you're definitely overreacting here.
Slim, skinny, thin...it doesn't matter. You're skinny, what's the harm in using a word that is more appealing?
Like if a girl wasn't thin and had curves here and there. She wouldn't say "chubby"...she'd say "curvy" or "voluptuous".
Certain wording just sounds better when you read it. It's the little details that make a difference.
Basically, thin = slim. No big deal.
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omfg. you are OVERREACTING. your mom is EXACTLY right. start listening to your mom.
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Your mom's definitely not trying to offend you; she's just having a hard time explaining. I think she calls you thin because you're family and so she figures that you know she loves you. However, "slim" is more generally used to describe yourself to a stranger... it's just one of those weird semi-formal quirks of English. Thin is taking on a connotation of anorexia; in your family it just means "slim." She just talks differently with you because she knows you so well. It isn't an insult at all. I hope that makes some sense.
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