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nervs and boys...asap
ok so this boy is going to ask me out and i always feel like sick in my stomache when i think about it.... how do i get over these nervs..... and when we are dating again how do i get over these nervs??!?!?! thanx
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Talking to boys is pretty easy, once you realize that they are just people, no different from you or your friends. Of course, this can be hard to remember when you've spent all morning obsessing over his cute freckles and writing his name in your notebooks. But think about it: Boys are just kids. So when you see the boy you're crushing on, picture him doing something goofy and kid-like, like shopping for underwear with his mom. That will bring your image of him down to earth, making normal conversation so much easier. Just like your mom says about spiders, boys are more scared of you than you are of them! Believe it or not, most teenage guys are way more nervous than girls when it comes to talking and making a good impression with the opposite sex. Lots of guys (even the hottest ones) think that girls see them as gross or weird. So just by making the effort to talk to him, you're giving him a reason to like you, because you're showing him that he's worth your time. If you can make him feel at ease, he will be grateful... and impressed. Once he knows that you exist, start building up a relationship with your crush by making a friendly comment whenever you see him. Since you don't know him, your comments should be general and cheerful. For example, you could smile and say, "Only 2 months 'til March Break!" Or give him a compliment by saying, "Cool shoes, I love them!" He'll start looking forward to seeing you, and with any luck he will pick up on one of your comments and talk back... hey, that's actual conversation! Remember, walk slooowwwly past him or he won't have time to say anything back. Girls who are truly great conversationalists have mastered this trick. It's about focusing on the other person's comfort level during a conversation. Think about it this way: If the conversation goes smoothly and he gets to talk about himself, he'll leave thinking you're fun and interesting to talk to. To make that happen, all you need to do it keep your focus on bringing him out. Don't worry about having something to say that's interesting. Just get him talking about himself - use questions (yes, questions again!) to find out his favorite band, if he's involved in any after-school activities, if he has any plans for college yet - and so on. Master this move, and you will appear very confident. And that’s very attractive! When talking to a guy, it's always better to be the one to walk away. That way you won't run the risk of going on and on, or blurting out something weird when there's an awkward silence. Even if the convo is going great, leave when it's good and you will leave him wanting more. So after you've chatted for a bit, when it feels like a good point for the conversation to wrap up, say, "It was nice talking to you" and be on your way. If you're just too shy or nervous to pull off talking to your crush, think outside the "one-on-one" idea. Why not plan a girl-guy outing with several of your friends and get someone to ask him along? Go out for pizza, or invite the gang over to your house to play some games. This is better than watching a video, because it will allow you to interact and become more comfortable around him, and that can lead to conversation. Don't expect to become best friends right away, though. Like any good relationship, it will take time to develop. As you spend time with him in small group settings, your nervousness will probably fade. You may even find yourself wondering what caused your jitters in the first place. good luck! <33
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Time. Just breathe and relax, but nerves will always be there. They just lessen over time. But sometimes, it makes things more exciting so when he asks you out, just try to be calm and cool.
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