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Boyfriend issues
I have been dating (lets say bob) Bob for a year and 3 months. I love bob very much and always will for what we have been through together. I recently went to spain for a week and realized that as much as i love him and love dating him i dont think i am in love with him any more. It makes me sad but when we are together it just doesnt feel right any more.
My best friend and i have come close to dating before and (lets say his name is Cory) Cory and i will always have a common like for eachother even if we never date. The thing is, today when we were all together i wanted to be with Cory more than my own boy friend. I mean i love cory as a friend and a little bit more but I have been through Everything with Bob.
Bob has been so supportive of everything i have been interested in the past few months and he has been so lovable and there for me no matter what. He is so happy about our relationship right now and as much as i dont want to hurt him i dont think its right to fake being in love with him.
So my question is should i stay with him and just see if my feelings for my best friend pass or should i tell him my feelings of not being in love with him any more and just see what he says.
Its been happening for a little while well the past couple of weeks and I am just very confused.
Thank you for the help.
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i would say, though you have been thru "everything" with "bob", you will probably go thru "everything" with "cory" as well if you two decide to date. if you don't feel anything, then it's wrong. give it a shot. you never know what can happen. If you keep waiting, when you finally do tell him, it'll hurt more.
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I think you should tell "Bob" how you've been feeling, it's always better for them to be aware of how you're feelings, even if it will hurt them. Stay together and try to work things out, after telling him, you'll both know how you're feeling and that'll help alot. Stick it out and see if your feelings go away. And in the meantime, think about who you really want to be with not just towards how you feel about them but how they would treat you and if they could give you the attention and the things you need, and while you're doing this, keep a bit of a distance from "Cory" and "Bob" so you can think more to yourself and about what you want, instead of them telling you what it is they want. If your decision ends up hurting some one you have to remember, you can't make everyone happy, and if you try, you're ignoring your needs. Sometimes, you need to put yourself before others.
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Maybe you should see what Bob thinks about taking a break. That way you can go on a date with your friend and see if there really are feelings there. After that, you and Bob should talk and decide if you think staying in the relationship is a good idea. It's a tough decision but you really need to just step back and see what your feelings really are.
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