My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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I am not here to be dissed for this.
So please do not give me s*** over this question.
Can anyone help me;
I am making a perfection group on Myspace and I need help with a name.
Usual words I see around are like; Elite, Perfection, Dolls, Vanity, Massacre, etc etc.
Can anyone help me with a name?
[Preferrably two words]
thankyou.
xx (link)
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Massacre? What does a mass killing of people have to do with perfection? And another word for vanity...is conceitedness...which usually isn't what people strive to be.
Oh, and by the way, there is no such thing as perfection...and if you think you're perfect, you're a lot further from it than the rest of us.
How about....False Perfection? Pathetically Imperfect?
Good luck with that..."doll".
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What can you do at a fair? can you makeout on rides and what about in the spooky house hahaa!!=]]]
mm yes im going with my b/f and I want to make it awesome but I don't know what we could do so yeah....
any ideas? (link)
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Well if all you want is to make out, that's generally what the ferris wheel is used for. Most everything else is too fast to be kissing on.
Holding hands while walking around is also something. Other than that, the fair would be for fun, not making out. You can make out at your house, you don't need a public place for that.
If he's going to the fair with you he probably isn't secretly hoping all you do is mess around. There ARE other things in life.
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A couple of weeks ago I noticed a change in my bf's behavior... he started acting like my affection was bothering him, and it felt like he was avoiding me. When we were together he was silent or he would talk about stupid unimportant things, as if we couldn't have a meaningful conversation anymore. He was so distant, but every time I asked him what was wrong and why he was acting differently, he would go mad and say that I was creating problems when there were none. So I broke up with him, and it was a hard decision. I thought he lost interest in me and I didn't want to be a burden. But ever since he's been telling me that his feelings for me haven't changed. Actually that's what he says, but he's still acting weird. And when I told him that my decision was final, he didn't even seem to be mad or desperate or anything like that, he just said he didn't understand why and that he hoped I change my mind.
I don't know what happened between us... it was so sudden! I'm afraid that I pushed him away, because I wanted to be with him all the time, and that maybe he wanted a time out... but if he loved me as much as I loved him, wouldn't he want to be with me just as much as I wanted to be with him?! (link)
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First of all, how long were you dating before he started acting differently? Relationships don't stay the way they were in the beginning. I mean, are your parents still together? Well, my parents definitely aren't as affectionate as my boyfriend and I are. I know that it's just what happens in the beginning when everything is new and exciting. Eventually, that calms down and it becomes more mellow. It doesn't mean he cares any less for you. I really don't think you should have broke up with him as quickly as you made it seem. Now, if you genuinely told him it was bothering you and made you feel like you were in his way all the time and he still didn't seem to care, that's another story.
The fact that he's saying that his feelings haven't changed for you says it all. He still likes you and wants to be with you. If you want a guy to be depressed and desperate to be with you when you break up with him, you've got a big reality check coming. He did the mature thing in saying he understood and hoped you change your mind. It doesn't mean he's not hurt, either. You can't expect guys to cry over not being with you anymore. That's just a self centered and selfish way to act.
Like I said, couples don't stay lovey dovey forever. Sometimes you need time away from that person. I know how you feel. If it were up to me, I'd be with my boyfriend 24/7, but I also know that being apart just makes it so much better when we see each other after a day or two of not being with each other. When you're with him all the time, there's no missing you, there's no anticipation of seeing you again.
I'd give him another chance, but it's up to you. If you still love him and think he's worth it, go for it. Just try to understand where he's coming from before snapping again.
Oh, and just a side note: guys generally don't like when girls ask "what's wrong?" a lot. It annoys them and gives off the impression that you're insecure in yourself and your relationship with him.
Good luck! :)
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How do you know if you love someone? I think I love my bgf, but how can I be sure? We both like each other, but can't have a relationship now (complicated). I think I may love him tho actually I think I do because I mean I'm a very emotional person and I love all my friends and stuff and loving people isn't very hard for me (like friend wise) but I think I love him. I love him as a very good friend at least. Also if you have been best friends with a boy for a while and then you date is it kind of weird to start hugging and stuff. When you haven't for so long? And we've watched and supported each other in other relationships with each others best friends. So if/when we date is it weird to start hugging and stuff? Thanks so much! And i rate. (link)
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If you were in love with this guy, you wouldn't be questioning it. Just the fact that you're asking people on a website how you can know if you love someone tells me that you don't REALLY love him. People say they love their friends all the time, but loving someone and being IN love with someone are two very different things. And if you ask me, people use the word love way too much and way too easily. I don't know your situation at all just by your question, and neither does anyone here, so we can't exactly TELL you how you feel, but perhaps it's just a crush.
As for hugging, dating isn't just hugging. Hugging your friends shouldn't be awkward or weird, but dating your friends can screw things up. Even if you both like each other and start dating, chances are once you break up your friendship will either end or be weird/awkward. Very few friends that date end up continuing the same friendship after you break up. And it would be pretty naive to think that at our age we're going to meet the person we'll be with forever...or even for a long time.
We can't tell you what to do, but those are just things to think about before you tell him how you feel.
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okay my kitten is 6month i got him and at a flea market. hes been having the runs latly and sleeps a little to much my mom brought home a kitten the same age 2 weeks ago and was playful and crapped normal. he doesnt really care for dry food but eat canned his water habits are normal. i just want to know whats up.
please HELP!
thank you in advance!
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It's good that his water drinking is normal, and if there's anything wrong with him, the not eating dry food probably has nothing to do with it. A lot of animals don't like dry food, especially when they have the option of the canned food.
As for the diarrhea, no one on here is a vet, so we can't tell you what the problem is. It could be his diet, or he could be sick. Take him to the vet and they can take his temperature and check him out to see if he has an infection or something.
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what are ways to make cheeks look skinnier?
and what are ways to make eyes look bigger??
thx!!! (link)
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To make your face look thinner, you can brush a little bit of bronzer underneath your cheek bones. Just put your make-up on as you usually do, and gently brush some glowy bronzer underneath the cheekbones with a big brush.
To make your eyes look bigger, some say you can put white eyeliner on the inside and outside corners of your eyes and then put your regular darker liner over it. Also, if you put eyeshadow on the right way, you're eyes can pop. Get an eyeshadow that has three colors. Light, medium, and dark.
1. Invest in a eyeshadow brush and put the medium color (which is usually still pretty light) on the entire lid. Don't pile it on, just brush it over the lid.
2. Take the dark color and put it on the lower lid from the outside in. From outside to inside the dark color should get lighter.
3. Brush the lightest color right under your eyebrow to the right under the arch. That little glow just adds a little something to your eyes.
4. Finally, take a big brush like you use to put on powder or bronzer and brush it over your eyelids a few times to get rid of any loose shadow and make sure the colors aren't too dark.
Hope that helps!
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I went out with a lad who treated me horrbile and now he is say he still loves me and he going out with my firend and i don't know what 2 do should i get back with him or not..??
stuck.. (link)
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Uh, if he treated you badly, then why would you WANT to be with him? If you have to ask, then you obviously don't think it's that great of an idea. Leave it be.
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What does Cum taste like? (What does sperm Taste like? (link)
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In general, cum is really salty and kind of thick.
BUT all guy's cum taste different. Some tastes worst than others. It sort of depends on their diet. It can be bitter and gross or better, but it's never a trip to Baskin Robbins.
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i want to look this the girl on the far left of this picture. about how tall do you think she is and how much does she weigh? how do i tone my body like hers? i like her shoulders but i don't know how to get them like that.
http://photos-a.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sctm/v99/244/38/1135350031/n1135350031_30075476_7638.jpg (link)
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My guess would be that she's about 5'6" or 5'7"...maybe 120-125 lbs. Not fat, not skinny...and she's not exactly toned. She's just...somewhat fit. Nothing special.
You can't just CHANGE your body to make it look like someone else's body. You can't make yourself taller or shorter. You can't change the shape of your shoulders. Eat healthy and exercise 3-5 days a week...like jog a mile or do some cardio/yoga/palates or whatever. That's pretty much all you can do.
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who usually gets an enema? the elderly for health problems? is there any other reason a person would get one? (link)
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Constipation
Anal sex
Colonoscopy
...other stomach problems that require a test or surgery
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Im 5'3 what should i my weight be ? (link)
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Medically, anywhere from 105-140 is in the "healthy" range, but I'm guessing you mean the average weight.
I'd say about 115-125 is a good range. But, really, it all matters on how you're built. If you have a lot of muscle, you'd weigh more. Everyone's body is different and 125 on one person can look like 110 on someone else of the same height. If you think you look good, you do.
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ok so im 16 going on 17 in almost 2moths and althow this might be hard to belive i've never really had a boyfriend and i mean i wouldnt say its cause im really icolated cause i mean i basicly hang out with alot of dudes and they usaly try to get far i mean too far with me but yeah on saterday i went on my very frist date and it was cool i mean we werent really alone it was more of me being the only girl with a bunchof guys going everywhere acrost town well yeah i mean we did kinda get time alone like when we would drive up to places so yeah every time we would go in some where we would kinda hold has to you know show we are on a date or whatever but yeah i mean long story short when he drives me home we get off and he walks me to the door i was not thinking at all cause thats the part when we hug good bye and say well i'll call you later or whatever but i mean i just walked to the door and opend it w/ like my parints and grandparints right in the living room with him just standing there and yelled good bye i didnt reolize i did that till i was in bed!!!but yeah so dont know what to do i mean im really confuesd about that cause to top it all off i dont really like him i mean i do like him and i know he likes me too and all and i know that if we go out again which we are on friday that things might get close and well i havent even had my frist kiss this sounds soo lame or whatever but yeah it gets even worse the worst part is i think i have feelings for my best friend who is a GIRL!!! i mean everything is worse what do i do how do i know if what i feel for her is just some fase cause when i thing about haveing sex with a boy their "thing" kinda discusts me is that normal??? sorry its long but im really confuesd (link)
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First off, this question was really hard to read. Using some grammar rules would be really helpful to people trying to read this.
One concern of mine is that you're a little immature for your age. I don't know you, but that's just what it sounds like. Being disgusted by a boy's "thing"...yeah, you're almost 17, that's not exactly normal.
There's nothing wrong with having feelings for another girl. Sometimes straight girls get little crushes on their friends, but they never act on it. It's just a little innocent crush. But there is a possibility that you're a lesbian. And there's nothing wrong with that either.
Don't jump to conclusions. I would give myself a little more time to figure myself out if I were you. It's not weird to be 17 and not have your first kiss yet. I had my first kiss, boyfriend, AND date after I'd been 17 for a while. And I don't think there's anything wrong with me. I just wasn't on the hunt for a guy at the time.
It doesn't sound like you're READY for your first boyfriend or your first kiss. If you don't like this guy, don't lead him on. That's not fair to him if he likes you. Just tell him you don't want to date him and that you just want to hang out as friends. As for your girl friend, don't tell her you have feelings for her just yet. If the feelings are serious, you can explore that later, but from what I'm hearing it's just an issue of you growing up.
Good luck.
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kay so i have 2 questions sorry
1. Do guys like tight holes or loose ones when finering and having sex and all that?
and...
2.Alright so this is by far the stupidest question i have ever asked in my life. im 14/f and i have hugged since i was like in kindergarden lol i even make out and all that so dont think im stupid and inexperienced..but anyway. how do you give hugs.. like does one arm go up and one down or do girls go above and guys go below or the other way around? im just wondering cause alot of people do it differently..which is the RIGHT way though?
thanks in advance ^_^ (link)
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1. Tight. No one likes a loose vagina, trust me. But don't clench up...just relax. Unless you've had a bunch of sex, you're naturally tight.
2. There's no "right" way to hug someone. You just go in for the hug and if their arms go up top, wrap your arms around his/her waist...and vise versa. Or sometimes one arm will go around their shoulder while the other is around their waste and they'll do the opposite to you. Like I said, there's no one way to hug, just take your cue from the person you're hugging. It's not a big deal.
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here is the thing.
lately i've been going through a hard time.
one of my friends (whos a guy) has been there for every step of the way.
i told him not to worry about me.
but he said because he knew i wasnt alright then he worried about me.
and monday he worried about me all day.
even though he was with his crush.
and i told him to just have fun but he couldnt focus.
i sent him an IM saying call me when u see this and an hour later i guess. he came home..and then a half hour later i can came back online.
and he asked what was wrong.
and i bascially was really mean to him.
and bitched and told him f-u and he got mad at me..and then i cleaned it up with something i wrote. then today i found out i had got my period.
which is probably half the reason why i acted that way on monday night. so now i feel really bad. but if i apologize idk if he will accept it.
because when i mess up i say sorry a lot. and im so lost. =[.
any ideas? should i flat out say i got it? we tell each other everything. any ideas on lyrics to kind of say sorry. i cant think of any sort of lyrics that fall into this situation. =[
thanks. sorry i know it may sound confusing. (link)
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Hm, well I don't really understand why you cussed him out. I don't see a reason for that, maybe you left it out. PMS shouldn't make you blow up on someone for absolutely no reason...especially if they're just asking you what's wrong.
Don't tell him you did it because of your period. That's just not a good excuse. And you can't just NOT apologize because you don't know if he'll accept it. You have to apologize because he deserves an apology for you acting like that.
Just tell him you're really sorry and you don't know what came over you. If he knows you're having a rough time, he'll understand. I don't think a song would really help in this situation. You just have to talk to him about it and hope he forgives you. Friends get into arguments all the time, a friendship should never end of PMS.
Good luck.
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Okay, So im on the softball team & im a sophmore.
Ive NEVER played softball in my life.
& today was the first day of summer workout and today I realized that Im reallly out of shape.
I'm sore and everything on my body is killing me.
When my muscles ache, it causes me to get sick and run a veryy high temperature.
I dont want to quit the team already after one day. But I dont want to come home everyday and be sick.
Should I quit or suck it up?
someone please help me.
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I believe the right category for this would be "physical fitness", because that's exactly what the issue is.
Don't quit. You just have to get back in shape. Work out every day to build up your stamina. Once you work past the hardest part, you won't have the problem anymore. If you quit, you won't get into shape. Just, do the workouts the best you can and sometimes if you don't have a workout, you can exercise on your own. Run, do tae-bo, things that get your heart rate up. Eventually, your muscles won't get sore and your body will get used to the activity.
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Does anyone know what is meant by the lyrics "shake your shimmy sister" in the song Miss Celie's Blues (sister) from The Color Purple the movie? Thanks!! (link)
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If you watch the movie, when Shug tells Celie to "shake your shimmy", she attempts to get her to move her body in a certain way (upper body) that shows confidence in who she is. Pretty much, shake what your mama gave you. If you got it, flaunt it. Show it off. Shake your shimmy.
There's no secret underlying meaning...it means when it sounds like it means. :)
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hey 13/f
all my fiends that i hang out with have all kissed a guy at some stage i feel really left out and stuff sometimes and they treat me like a baby..i just want to get it over and done with but want to like the guy as well
Please help me!!!
thanx mwa (link)
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Relax, don't worry about it. You're only 13 years old. You're not even in high school yet. These things take time, and sometimes the longer you wait the better it'll be once it happens.
I'm 17 years old and I had my first kiss two months ago! I was definitely a late bloomer. It took me that long to have my first legitimate boyfriend. Sure, I felt like there was something wrong with me and that guys didn't like me and that I wasn't pretty/skinny/fun enough. I've been through it all.
But once I got my first boyfriend, I realized what I'd been missing all those years. The reason no guys became interested in me is because I had no confidence. CONFIDENCE makes all the difference. I heard this all the time, but I never believed it until now. My first boyfriend gave me confidence that a guy really could like me.
After I broke up with that guy for cheating on me, I at one point had NINE guys trying to talk to me. It was crazy, I'd never experienced anything like that before. And I know it's because of the newfound confidence. That confidence made me able to go out and meet new people and it gave me the courage to be outgoing, even with guys.
The only thing I ask is that you don't settle just so you can have your first kiss. Don't have your first kiss with a guy you don't like just because he's willing to kiss you. That's just ASKING for the kiss to suck. And this applies to everyone looking to have a boyfriend. Out of those 9 guys that were into me, I'm interested in exactly ONE of them. And he just got out of a long relationship that ended with the girl cheating on him, so he's scared to get into a relationship. I've known him for about three weeks and even though we both obviously like each other, all we've done is flirt and hug. He's not an easy guy to get, and some of the others would have been. You have to wait for the one you really like to make it count, even if you have to fight for him. Not everything in life is easy.
Good luck! :]
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I'm not jewish and I was born in England- so my parents didn't have me circumcised when I was born (in Europe they don't do it often).
I've only had sex with one girl, and it was strange when she first learned about it.
So my questions:
1. Does it bother girls to be with a guy who is not cut?
2. Should I go ahead and have surgery to have it cut?
3. How would I tell my parents? I don't have any problems with hygeine or peeing or anything- and I don't want to tell them that it is because girls prefer it the other way?
Please help.
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1. Some girls are picky and are turned off by a guy who isn't circumcised. Most girls, though, shouldn't really care. When you're erect, the difference isn't very noticeable.
2. That's COMPLETELY up to you. If it would make you feel better and more confident, then go for it. If you're okay with not being circumcised, then just keep what you've got. Don't do it for the girls, only do it for yourself. If you aren't having any problems with it, then there's no reason to go through the pain of removing the foreskin.
3. Just tell them that you would feel a lot better about yourself and more confident if you were to be circumcised. Tell them (if this is true) that you're self conscious about it and you feel it can hold you back in relationships and sex in the future.
I hope this helps. Good luck! :]
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I'm going to order a vibrator on amazon.com with a $30 gift certicicate that i was given.
So it has to be that amount or less.
I don't like anal stimulation, but it needs to have really intense vaginal/clitoral stimulation.
What would you reccomend?
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Personally, I've never used a vibrator. But I hear good things about the rabbit. It gives vaginal stimulation as well as clitoral...at the same time. This one looks pretty amazing:
http://www.amazon.com/California-Exotics-Waterproof-Jack-Rabbit/dp/B000N8X038/ref=sr_1_24/103-2743726-3062212?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1183688865&sr=1-24
As does this:
http://www.amazon.com/California-Exotics-Original-Rabbit-Vibrator/dp/B000HVZ3SQ/ref=sr_1_30/103-2743726-3062212?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1183688979&sr=1-30
If you're looking for something simpler, this would do the trick:
http://www.amazon.com/Adam-Eve-Satin-G-Spot-Vibrator/dp/B000EHIX4Y/ref=sr_1_28/103-2743726-3062212?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1183688979&sr=1-28
Or maybe a pocket rocket:
http://www.amazon.com/Doc-Johnson-Original-Pocket-Vibrator/dp/B0007N5DSO/ref=sr_1_1/103-2743726-3062212?ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1183689095&sr=1-1
You could get the last two BOTH for under $30.
I'm not sure exactly what you're looking for, but my advice is to go here, browse through them all, and pick the one you think best suits your personal "needs":
http://amazon.com/s/ref=sr_pg_1/103-2743726-3062212?ie=UTF8&rs=3760901&keywords=vibrator&rh=n%3A3760901%2Ck%3Avibrator&page=1
Good luck! :)
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i know how to have sex ok
what i'm not sure about is the erect penis bit
do i have to give him that
it's weird i don't mind having sex with a guy
but i don't like the fact of giving him a b.j
i don't mind so much with a h.j but was just wondering if you HAVE to have that step before you have sex
i would rather the sex than a blow job
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Most of the time you are the cause of the erection, and you usually don't really have to do anything to get a guy hard. If you turn him on, it'll just happen.
It's not weird that you don't want to give a blow job. A lot of girls 1) dislike it or 2) won't even consider doing it. If you aren't comfortable doing something, don't do it. Simple as that. Don't make any guy force you to do anything you don't want to do.
A blow job isn't a necessity in sex. It can be included during foreplay...or not, it isn't a must. The only thing I ask is that you don't become one of those girls that say "Um, I don't DO that" but you expect the guy to give you oral sex. That's just plain selfish. Chances are he won't mind giving you oral sex and maybe one day you'll find a guy that you like enough to give a blow job simply because you want to please him. That's why I did it.
Just, if you aren't willing to give him oral sex, you shouldn't expect him to do it to you. Plain and simple.
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