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mortally depressed
i can't do this anymore.
living and all the crap that goes along with it.
I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.
don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.
I can't do anything at all.
I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.
I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.
I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist.
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read the whole thing no matter what. i say it how it is. i know many who did and was going to go suicidal. i was still am mortally deppressed. i was going to commit suicide and i would. ive never had a bf. drink tea it makes your metabolism faster and lose some weight naturally. but just listen well read thing will never get better unless you try hard as you can. im just getting over deppression but still am. go cry your eyes out scream let it all out dont stop. go to a rock screamo concert dono why but it helped alot. dono how old you are but get in a group of people who are all deppresed. i was going to go suicide the next day because i couldnt take it at all. i know im only 13 but ive done or been through it all. i thought nobody cared at all about me i was alone with absolutly nobody for about like 5 days till i met them. they saved my life. they came over to me because i was screaming and had scissors and was gona. one of them that same day had her sister go suicidal she cryed her eyes out. but i can not cry i never could. then she was about to kill herself but didnt have the nerve. i was even before i knew then i realized her sister who thought nobody cared about her i didnt even think anyone did but everyone else cry and some wanted to die with her. but i have a very dark heart but i didnt kill myself because of one person i met the same day but i knew her sister a week before. if you kill yourself they will realize that everyone has atleast one person who cares i thought i didnt at all and if you die others might get deppressed and wana kill their self to and cry the rest of their life. i have been through to much death and suicide and im 13 only in 7th grade at a catholic school sadly. im not saying dont kill yourself but if you die others will probly die to even if you never even thought thay cared or even really knew you at all. you would just be another deppressed person dieing. think you could become a person who will find a cure for cancer and save thousands of people i know it has nothing to do with your question but i asked questions just like yours and thats one answer i got because in my profile i had find the cure because 11 relatives died from cancer and 7 recovered and 8 other people i knew also died i never thought i could find a cure i think im nothing at all in the world but if i wasnt deppressed and wishing to die i could have saved thousands of people who didnt want to die in the time i was wishing to die. i could have saved 26 people i knew from ever getting cancer and most of them from their death because they loved their life even tho they knew the could die the next second but still lived their life. i just want others to realize people care about you and you can save alot of happy lives then you will be happy too.
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Hey whoa. whoa. I don't have a bf right now and it seems like I can never figure out how to get one, but I dun kill myself over it. You should NEVER EVER use a guy to gauge your self worth.
If you're still fat, it doesn't mean that your work outs aren't working out. It could have been that you're obese and have slimmed down but just not enough to get to that slim mark that you want. Be patient.
Obese ----- fat ---- plump ----slim
Weigh yourself every now and then to monitor your progress. Encourage yourself and pat yourself on the back for losing even just 1/2 kg. Girl, it takes time to lose weight, it's not something that can be achieved within a short span of time. The right amount to work out depends on the individual. You prolly need a lot more work out time than the others. SO what? Don't complain bout this. If you want something, don't complain, go GET it. Don't whine and say why is life so unfair to me and why do I need to work out more than others. When you work out, you sweat it out. Draw out an exercise schedule and stick to it.
Stop feeling pitiful for yourself. Other's have it worse off than you. Being fat is not irreversible. Get up and do something. The more you wallow in self pity, the more you're gonna achieve nothing.
GO see a doctor to help you lose weight. Stay away from junk food and replace with delicious alternatives like with low fat milk, yoghurt, vegetables, juicy fruits, cereal bars, healthy snacks such as apply or corn pie. There'a always a lighter side to live. Find it.
Brace yourself. IT takes courage to commit suicide, but it takes even more courage to live on.
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Ok, so I was in your shoes once. I didn't have much in the way of boyfriends. Never have. I was, and still am, overweight. My picture is on my column. See for yourself.
I never thought to commit suicide though.
There is no good reason to commit suicide.
Let me tell you something: I am 29 years old. I found a wonderful man, who I am now happily married to. I have a beautiful baby boy who I cherish.
Since I was in your shoes, if I would have felt as badly as you do and committed suicide, I wouldn't have ever got married or had a child. I would have completely screwed myself out of the happy life I lead.
You don't know what your future holds. But if you end your life, you will never know. Do you really want to risk all of the life your future holds for you?
Listen. I am a person that could care less what others think or say about me. I'm not superficial- I don't believe it is mentally healthy to be superficial. I know I'm good people. That is all that is important. I'm happy with who I am. I may not be happy with what I look like, but being happy with myself on the inside is way more important. Because of this, I am a happy person.
There is nothing wrong with being fat and happy.
I could care less if a bunch of guys aren't attracted to me. I'm not concerned about that because there is a guy here with me right now who IS.
I know you are young. You haven't even given yourself a chance to live life yet. Do you live life? You have to allow yourself to BE alive before you can judge as to weather or not you hate it.
You say you bet things are so much better when you are dead. You are taking a stab in the dark out of HOPE that it will be better. It could be a better place, but then again, you could just end up being worm food. Pretty risky bet to gamble lock, stock, and barrel on a wing and a prayer, if I do say so myself.
Maybe you should consider hoping for a better life rather than hoping for a better death.
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This is more a question than an answer; I've read the previous answers and they know what they're talking about. What I wonder is, what exactly do you think is so much better after death? As an atheist who seems to believe in an afterlife, you must realize that that essentially leaves you in exactly the same condition that you are in now, but without a body. No way to feel... which means that without a sense of happiness here, I can't imagine why you think you can find one in death. You are punishing people who care about you, and I'm afraid that it really doesn't change a thing for you. Friends matter more than boyfriends, and a friend can do wonders in pulling you from the limbo between life and death. Find something you like to feel; that does the same thing.
And it never hurts to reinvent yourself--on a chatroom or something if that's what you feel comfortable with. Don't give out personal information, but be whoever you want for a while. It's a way to get out of your life without ENDING your life.
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Like you, I'm also an athiest, and I can't get a boyfriend either. So, you're not alone.
If you're obese, then see a doctor. They can prescribe maybe a medicine or a type of eating plan that can help you lose weight. I think you can beat weight issues without surgery. Surgery can be drastic & dangerous. Why not lose it healthy rather than go under the knife? You can do anything you set your mind to. You just gotta believe in yourself, and work for it. There is nothing you can't do. And whether you're overweight or not, that doesn't mean you're not pretty. No matter what the media or the hype may say, you don't have to be thin to be beautiful. There is no such thing as perfection. And imperfections & flaws are what make people beautiful. Remember that.
If the way you're eating doesn't work, try exercise as well. Although you already do, try going to a gym. The trainers there can help you figure out good foods, and good exercises you can do to lose weight. Like I said, you can do anything you just set your mind to it.
Don't say you can't do anything. Everyone can do something. Some people are musically inclined, some people are good at sports. Some people are really smart, and some people are good at science, or math. Everyone is good at something. Some people are good at lots of things. Who knows what you're good at? Pick something that sounds interesting, and try it. And if you're not good at it, don't get discouraged because you won't be good at something as soon as you try it. Things don't come easy like that, nothing does. You've just gotta keep your head up.
As I said that everyone can do something, it's true. If you were to end your life today, think of what you'd be missing out on. It doesn't seem like much [especially because your outlook on life is extremely pessimistic.] but there's a lot you can do. If you die, you won't be able to do anything you set your heart to. If you keep living, who knows what you can do? You can find the cure for cancer, or AIDS. Anything. But if you die, you wouldn't be able to do that. Just keep living, and take the good with the bad.
Life is amazing, so cherish it.
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First off, stop what you're saying and think.
If you say you're atheist, then why are going being so "mistreated" by the world? Because if there is going to be evil and bad like you're expierencing, there has to be good, hence something higher.
I'm not saying that to discourage what you see theologically, I'm saying it to get you out of your pessimistic mindset. I will tell you right off there is always someone worse off than you, not matter how bad you think you're life is.
First off, talk to someone and get everything you want to say out. There is only so much you can say on this website and even on the internet. You need a real live person to talk to. I suggest a counciler or psychiatrist.
Point two, don't come off to anyone with the excuse "I hate my life because I can't get a boyfriend/girlfriend". It's a lame excuse. You want someone to love you and because you "can't" get someone you think you should choose your last result (suicide). I gaurantee you that you can find someone to love you. You have to look and seek them out if they won't come to you.
Thirdly, some people just are going to be large, no matter what they do, it's their body chemistry. Hell, I work out every day, light weights, run miles, eat right, have a job that requires me to move, and I still got a bit of a stomach and am over the weight limit by a margin. It's my body makeup that makes me that way, my whole family has got it.
Lastly and I quote "I bet things are so much better when you're dead". Not really, because according to you there is no God, therefore there is nothing after death, meaning you cease to exist completely. But why would you ever consider killing yourself and damning your own soul to a place where it no longer exists and matters?
You can get help and I highly suggest doing so. There are literally thousands upon thousands of trained professionals willing and able to help you in whatever you need and it doesn't matter what you're problem is, they will help and do so to the best of their abilities.
With that I close my advice. I hope I helped and even though you don't believe in God I still pray to mine that you find peace.
-Ryan
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Okay, so you say people are automatically unattracted to you. I'm not sure if you're seeing it from the right perspective, though.
People honestly shouldn't care that much about weight, or even appearence. I think it may be more of your attitude.
Before you get mad about what I've written, listen to this...
There's obviously something stopping you from doing this to yourself.
If you think things are better when you're dead, then what's keeping you alive? There's SOMETHING keeping you here.
I know life is painful, and things might even get worse, but nothing is going to improve if you've got this outlook on life. I'm not saying 'go be super happy go lucky', but I am saying you should at least try to be happy, be with your friends, TRY TO LIVE, instead of automatically giving up.
Also, try to just let yourself fall for someone, and give them time to fall for you. I'm not sure what age you are, but boyfriends and all that aren't everything. I personally think friends mean more, but if having a boyfriend is THAT important to you, find someone who will accept you for you. =(
I'm sorry if i've come off mean, but I want to show you that this is not the thing to do, to kill yourself..
I'm also sorry for you to feel this way, if you need anyone to talk to, IM me at demo lovee
or message me on myspace at www.myspace.com/multiamorekat
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