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The name's Emily.
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I know my favorite topics says "Love life, nutrition, and friendship", but I'm intrested in tons of stuff. ASK!
I don't care about rating..so be warned...I'm not necessarily always going to give you the anwser that you want to hear. But I do want to help you!
And I would tell you more, but that's not whats important here: let me help you!

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Im 14/f and I have a boyfriend. But the problem is im not really happy with my boyfriend and I think I understand why. When my boyfriend asked me out I didnt expect him to for another week and I was going to use that week to think of my decision, but my friend convinced him to ask me out earlier and I ended up saying yes because he was being really cute and sweet about it.

The other problem is I think I still like this one guy I have liked for a while. This guy however is one of my best friends, he tells me everything and it kills me when girls hurt him and he gets really upset, we have gotten into conversations where we would bring up the possibility of us dating, and after a few jokes we'd both always say we see eachother as such good friends that we can always joke around with and have fun with that we'd never date. Ive slept over at his house a few times but once again we are really good friends so that was why. About a week ago he told me that if I did ask him to this one formal (i told him i was thinking about it cause we were both dateless) that he wouldve definately said yes and for some reason that got me really mad cause I kind of blew my chance.

I dont understand why this is happening cause we are such good friends and he'd never be interested in me. Is there anyway I can convince myself to get over the other guy and try to learn to be happier with my boyfriend?

I can't promise that things will work out with your friend, but it sounds to me like you both like each other. If he does like you, ovbiously you wouldn't feel like he does right now because your in a relationship and he, as a really good friend, dosn't want to mess that up for you.

BUT REGARDLESS OF HIM

If you don't feel like you like your boyfriend in that way...that probably won't change and you really need to rethink that relationship. It's not fair to him not to.

good luck!

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k so I'm with this guy Cody but I'm so confused on if i like him or if i don't when I'm with him its kinda boring and i have kissed him like 4 times so should i be with him or should i break it off??

Well you havn't really given alot of information for me to work with...

but I mean if you're not happy when you're with him...
then don't be

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what are some great friendship songs like your a really great friend and im going to really miss you when you leave what are some songs like that

My Wish- Rascal Flats

I'll Be There For You- Rembrants (friends theme song..lol)

We're Going to be Friends- The White Stripes

Ain't No Mountain High Enough- Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell

You're My Best Friend- Queen

Time After Time- Quietdrive

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15.f
I need everyones opinion on this topic please.

would you go out with your ex boyfriends cousin? Or do you think it wouldn't be right? ....

Boys what would you do if your ex went out with your cousin?

Girls would you go out with your ex boyfriends cousin?

it depends on your current relationship with your ex. I mean, if yall are still good friends and there's no awkwardness...then maybe it could work. But I'd talk to him about it first...because it really is different for every ex couple

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I am thin but i'm wide and how kan i make my width smaller . I don't need to loos weight but my curves are alittle too big .. what can i doo?

Well, I totally fit that description, and I know what to do! :D
I always have issues with my hips/curves and one thing that REALLY noticably helps me is pilaties, because it has a lot of workouts that focus on the hips and thighs

It's amazing..try any of these DVDs..I have a lot of them and i love them!
http://www.amazon.com/s?search-alias=dvd&field-keywords=pilates%20for%20dummies&lposid=u7-3076451-1,C,1645

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ok well im stumped about christmas ideas...he isnt into much stuff.


i got an idea of what to get him
does this sound ok?
i was thinking a cute little teddy bear with a picture frame in the middle that will have a picture of us.
&&
also maybe a little gift basket with candies in it.
sound ok or no?

i feel bad tho because he's gonna be going all out and spending tons of money and i dont have a job so i dont got much.
PLEASE HELP :D

its sounds really cute
There's nothing wrong with not affording a big present...because, like you said..he isn't in to much stuff!lol

The picture frame idea is great, but you could also make a whole collage of pictures of the two of you!

I really think you're on a roll.....

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what are muffin tops ? and is it sexy

To have muffin tops is like having love handles. (excess fat comming over your pants....mostly occurs because they're too tight...) like how a muffin looks when it rises and like folds over. Um...in my opion...not too sexy.

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is it ok for a girl to ask a guy to homecoming?

go for it!!!
he's probably just too chicken

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okay so im 14 and most of my friends hav gotten fingered, eaten out, gave hjs and bjs, but ive only made out... like its just not my style. i only like to really makeout if i like the person.i just dont know when im ready to give a hj or bjor anything related to that. any advice/opinions would be great :]

Ok....theres absolutley NOTHING wrong about not having done those things yet! It's great that you only feel comfortable with someone you like...thats how it should be! No matter what you do...don't feel pressured to do something you'll probably regret just because all of your friends are making the same mistakes.

hang in there!

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Okay i am trying to come up with cute hairstyles for school, but i cant think of any. my hair is 2 inches below my shoulders. please help, and if you could could you give me a picture, and tell me how to do the style, and i dont have alot of time in the morning .
thanks

Well I do have hair your length, and I diffuse my hair alot, because It's SO easy and it turns out looking wavy and curley and it's nice. A diffuser is an attatchment to your blow dryer, so you'll need to either find one that fits your dryer or a new dryer that comes with the diffuser attatchment. Here's what it looks like:
http://www.planetbeauty.com/brands/universal-diffuser/diffuser.jpg

There are a bunch of pictures online of people who diffused their hair that you can look up but it's hard to say what it will look like on you, depending on your hair type.

OK so to do it you have to have your hair completley wet, and run scrunching/ curling gel through your hair. Scrunch your hair and twirl it in random places as you apply it. Then I normally divide my hair into 3 to four sections and just hold the diffuser to my head with that section of hair for like a minute. After that I shake my hair out and just blow dry it normally with the diffuser attatchment still on. It's better if you leave it still a little wet because it gets frizzy if you totally dry it with the diffuser.

It sounds like a lot but It takes less than ten minutes!! Hope it was helpful!

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Would a guy who lost their mom get sad on their* birthday? *not the mom's, the child. Just wondering, cus I thought a card might cheer them up (i just met this person and their b-day's coming up). I'll still send it, but will he be sad in the first place?

Thanks.

Well he'll probably be uspet to have his first birthday without his mom, but I don't think a card would hurt any... :)

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14/f
i recently switched school, because of my group of friends. i came home every single day crying. it was horrible. they were known as the 'mean/plastic girls in school' i liked them, intill, they would start fighting with me. because i was hanging out with other people then the other 5 girls in our group. they then would stop inviting me places, like they didnt invite me anywhere. and i was friends with these girls since 2nd grade!!!

anyways, once i switched schools it was great, i made tons of new ones, i only stayed friends with one from my old school, and we were like BEST friends. but then all of a sudden, shes turning into one of them. her and all of them keep calling me. and saying i said things that i didnt!! and they usually always have done that since i switched, but i didnt care, i just didnt answer.

im so confused! what should i do?

You just need to be bigger than them and ignore it.

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which damages hair more:

straightning your hair

or

blowdrying your hair straight


thank you!

Straightning for sure because with a blow dryer you don't have the direct contact that you get with a flat iron. So I'd suggest buying some kind of heat protecting straightning balm to put into your hair before blow drying, and then you won't need to use your straightner as much. I'd suggest KMS "Flat Out", but there are a ton!

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im already pretty skinny and i have a pretty flat stomach as it is. but do you know how to get rlly nice abs? what are some exercises i could practice at home? thanksss

Pilaties!!
It's a great workout that has many exercised focused soley on abs.
I would suggest the "Pilaties for Dummies" DVD, because it has a beginner and then a more expirenced version.

haha...I give people this exact anwser all the time..deja vu!

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STORY: Rebecca was with her mom and her mom said; Rebecca you are very thin, I am concerned, I dont want you to lose weight;.
Rebecca then asked her mom; Why do you think I should gain weight?; And her mother said; No I dont think you should gain I just
think you should not lose;. The next day Rebecca told her friends the story and asked her friends is my mom saying I am to thin; and
her friends said; No she is not. All she is saying is that you are very thin and she does not want you to lose any weight and she EVEN
TOLD YOU SHE DOES NOT THINK YOU HAVE TO GAIN WEIGHT. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE/CONCUR WITH REBECCAS
FRIENDS

Yes. My take is that Rebecca is very thin and should not lose more weight, she is just fine the way she is...but losing weight could be bad.

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what are some good products that i can use for my very oily face? under $10 please, thank youu.

Clean and Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets!!! They're amazing! Whenever your face becomes shiny during the day, you just wipe your face with one, and it removes the oil from your face without removing the makeup! They are really thin little sheets, so there are 60 of them in a package, which you can just keep in your purse or whatever. Haha I sound like a commercial....but they really are amazing!

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ok im about 5'6 and weigh about 120 pounds. I really want to lose about 10 pounds or so. Dont tell me i dont need to because its what i want to do. What are some things i can do it achieve my goal? Im trying to get that "perfect swimsuit body" for summer. My thighs are bigger than i want and they touch at the top when i walk. My stomach sticks out more than i want it too also. And my arms have some flab. What can i do to get rid of all the fat i want to loose in those spots? What exercizes and things can i do and how often and how many/how long do i do them? What things should i be eating and drinking. And are there any vitamin pills or anything that i need? I want to do this in a month or sooner.

Thanks!

Well I don't see anything wrong with your goals of tightening up. But it seems to me that you don't need to lose weight, but gain muscle.

So what should you do? Well the best thigh and hip workout I know of it pilaties, which you could say is like yoga, excpet for that it's more focused on the legs, hips, thighs and abs. Which, from what you're discribing, sounds like the perfect workout for you. I'd suggest the "Pilaties for Dummies" DVD, because it comes with both a beginning and intermiedate setting. What I love most about pilaties is that I feel really good after doing it, and you see results fairly quickly. As for your arms..I'd suggest push- ups and weight lifting. Make sure that you get a lot of protien (lean meats, fish and peanut butter are great ways of getting it)because it helps you build muscle. You'll be nice and tight, and solid muscle-even at rest- burns calories. So even if it's hard work to get it, it has lasting benifits.

p.s. Sometimes when you are doing workouts like these, you'll actually GAIN weight on the scale, because of the muscle. But that muscle is replacing fat, and to the eye you'll LOOK thinner, but stronger.

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15/f

My best friend since the beginning of High School is a really cool guy. He's sweet, he's cute but I do NOT like him like that. Now he's a really "touchy" person, like he likes to drape his arms around your shoulders or give you a hug. Well today out of nowhere his girlfriend and her little groupies told me off for letting him hug me. How do I get the girlfriend off my back and keep my best friend before I get clobbered? p.s- he's had this g/f for about 4 months.

-very ticked off

Well, you need to talk to two different people: Your friend and his girlfriend.
I think that you should tell your friend that you really like him (as a friend) but that you think he should show his friendship in a little less of a "touchy" way, if anything, for the sake of his relationship.

Then you should tell this girlfriend of his to calm down: you're not trying to steal her man. Explain that he's a really great friend of yours, and that you would never want to mess up any of his relationships. I'd also mention that YOU are not the one preforming these acts- maybe she should talk to her boyfriend about it rather than send her little minions after you. (haha....but I would say it a lot nicer than I did. Be the bigger person and be cool about it.)
Hope that was helpful!

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14/F

There's this one guy, Tyler. He's friends with a lot of my camp friends, who I see regularly. I talk to him online at least once a day, generally. We have great chemistry. We just fit together really well. He's like a puzzle piece that connects to me. I only met him once, and we didn't really talk then. It was at a party, and I was kind of shy. We just said 'hi' twice and left it at that. But I really really like him. I think about him constantly, and everytime I do, I have to smile. I can try to supress it, but I do it anyway. We're meeting up in a few weeks, and I absolutely can not wait.

But there's this girl, Kate. She's a friend of mine, and she knows him. She's really great. I kind of used to feel like I always had to act a certain way around her, to impress her, and I know other people who have said that too. But it's kind of stopping now, and we're getting closer. Being friends with her means a lot to me. And if we weren't great friends, I feel like I'd lose a lot of my other friends, too. She's kind of the leader of our camp group. Also, last year at camp, I wasn't really part of the popular group, but I was friends with all of them. I've been going to camp for the longest out of all of them except one. I even introduced it to two of them. And I always, always wanted to be part of that group. If I don't have Kate, I don't have anyone and once again, I won't be popular. This is my last summer at camp before I become a counselor, and I really want to be part of their group. Not even for that, but it just means a lot to me. But there's still the thing with losing friends if I don't have her.

The problem? I don't think she really "approves" of Tyler(when I say approve, I mean he's just not really cool enough for her. He's not into anything bad or anything like that; he's a good guy). I mean, she talks to him, but sometimes she'll say something about him(I usually don't let it slide though, I'll be like, "I don't know, he seems so sweet," or something). My other friend, Lyla, was really great friends with her before. Her and Kate were best friends. But then Lyla started going out with another guy who Kate didn't approve of, and they're not nearly as great friends anymore. They keep having mini-fights and they're just not close. I'm afraid to spend time with Tyler, because if we end up together, or even if she finds out that I like him, she might not approve of it. I really need her to, but I also need him. I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do.

Here's what I think, but you probably won't like it.

Anyone who would be mean to a friend because she is going out with an "uncool" guy isn't a friend at all. I KNOW how tempting it is to be "in" with the "cool crowd", but think about it this way: Would you really be having fun with these girls if you were always worried about them judging you? And you would be giving up this great guy just to impress some lousy friends.

So, in my opionion, you SHOULD see Tyler. And that dosn't mean that you have to stop talking to your camp friends. If Kate wants to know why you want to hang out with him, then explain to her how and why you feel about him. She might be cool. And if she has a problem with it, well, she's not a very good friend. And never feel like you can't be friends with a group of people just because one of them has a problem with you.

xoxo

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kickin a** and taking names....what does that mean?

Kind of like "Act first, ask questions later".

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