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This is just stupid...
15/f
My best friend since the beginning of High School is a really cool guy. He's sweet, he's cute but I do NOT like him like that. Now he's a really "touchy" person, like he likes to drape his arms around your shoulders or give you a hug. Well today out of nowhere his girlfriend and her little groupies told me off for letting him hug me. How do I get the girlfriend off my back and keep my best friend before I get clobbered? p.s- he's had this g/f for about 4 months.
-very ticked off
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Well, you need to talk to two different people: Your friend and his girlfriend.
I think that you should tell your friend that you really like him (as a friend) but that you think he should show his friendship in a little less of a "touchy" way, if anything, for the sake of his relationship.
Then you should tell this girlfriend of his to calm down: you're not trying to steal her man. Explain that he's a really great friend of yours, and that you would never want to mess up any of his relationships. I'd also mention that YOU are not the one preforming these acts- maybe she should talk to her boyfriend about it rather than send her little minions after you. (haha....but I would say it a lot nicer than I did. Be the bigger person and be cool about it.)
Hope that was helpful!
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Ignore the girlfriend and talk to your best friend. This is what ya say:
"Look, your girlfriend just chewed me out because we hug. I know we're just friends and I don't have a problem with hugging you but apparently your girlfriend doesn't like it. Could you please talk to her and figure this out before she beats my ass? Thanks."
This really isn't any of your business. This is a problem between the two of them and they should fight it out, without you. If she gets in your face again tell her that you are only friends with her boyfriend, but that if she has a problem she better speak to him about it and if decides to stop hugging you, you are cool with that, but it is really up to him and her to work out.
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Let them know that you two are just best friends. If they continue to bug you about it, let your boyfriend know that he needs to set them straight, that you two are just friends. Hope I helped!Happy Spring!
-Brina
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Talk to him. His girlfriend may not know that he's a touchy person around people besider her.
Have her tell his girlfriend that he likes to give other girls hugs, but it doesn't mean anything more than that they're friends.
If she still gets angry, she'll have to deal with it. Have him give HER a hug after he gives YOU a hug (make sure hers is longer and tigher, etc haha) Or, your friend could stop hugging you in front of her. Whatever you think would work best.
good luck! =]
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