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Gender: Female
Location: ENGLAND
Age: 21
AIM: TOOOO HELP
MSN: AISCHA.18@HOTMAIL:COM
Member Since: January 13, 2007
Answers: 22
Last Update: March 9, 2007
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
i think u will be alot braver to live and work throu your problems then to take the easy way out not goin to beg u not to do it but you may no longer be in pain if you kill yourself but what about your brother you are the only person he has got trie goin to the doctors and tellin them this
for one sec dont think of your pain think of other you would leave behind if you died
to answer your question there is not a way to kill yourself that is not messy and not hurt


why do people say be yourself? but what if they dont like how you act? its just hard to be yourself in public, because some people doesnt accept you who you are. i dont get life =[

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if they dont like how you are let them go shag a pole the person you are is the only person i would wonna see if u got life young wats the point of the rest of the borin shit i dont get it either so if sum1 tells you holla at a sister


My best friends have just started going out. The guy's name is andrew. I dont think i ever liked andrew, but i am insanely jealous of the girl, mary. I might just be afraid that my friendship with them will weaken, but im afraid that it might be more. I'm afraid that I like Andrew. (link)
darlin you think you are losein your friend to this andrew do sumthin with your friend have a laugh you should feel better but dont go round thinkin your bestfriends bf not a gud look


May I still consider myself vegetarian if i do not eat chicken, turkey or beef, but I still eat fish ocasionally? (link)
no cos fish is meat hello


when i got married , my wife had periods and i did first intercourse with her inspite of that the periods r coming. i felt that my wife had no any pain & also not seen blood. is my wife was virgin?? (link)
u r soooo freaky not lookin to help but all i can say is get over it u will never no apart for wat she told u

live life and get over it


what can i do or say to turn a guy on (link)
wear a bra one size small alwayz works



last night i had some friends over and one of them took my fone and text my ex saying "i love you" now i dunno if he got it or not because he never answered but how am i supposed to explain that to him? he's not gonna believe that someone else wrote it, hes rather cocky and still thinks i have feelings for him, which i kinda do but thats besides the point. What should i do? (link)
let it b its over drop the dead weight and act like it never happens if he asks u say i dont no wat ur on bout


how do i make franch kissing more fun for me and my boyfriend (link)
runawayxlove is sooooooo right thaz is soooooo hot



i am a fifteen year old female. the boy i have been making out with recently wants to step up our relationship. he wants to finger me which i am totally ready for and excited for. the only concern is that i have a lot of pubic hair, so i wonder if he will be grossed out. should i shave it for him? Thanks. (link)
not babie smooth but not a bush
i dont like it neither will men


I've been dating this guy for two months and he's always making me upset and then happy and then upset. It's always an emotional rollercoaster because I end up getting disappointed most of the time. We're both gay by the way. Anyway, for his birthday I bought him massage oil and bubble bath liquid from Bath and Body works and he turned it down telling me he should've told me what he wanted and been more specific. Lame right? So I kept the gift X_X. Now Christmas comes around and I ask for a wallet from Fossil since he doesn't "do suprises" he said that, "he would feel better knowing exactly what I wanted that way he wouldn't feel bad spending money on me." Lame again eh? So anyway, he texts me telling me he's at the mall at fossil so I call him and tell him what color I want. 2 days come along and he tells me that he actually didn't buy me the wallet because I sounded unsure on the phone. Truth be told I didn't really care THAT much but I still need a wallet since mine is getting stuffed... Lame again anyone? This is what he said me regarding his new gift to me. "Since neither of us know what we want for christmas how about we just spend time together?" Now I don't feel so bad about this since we hardly spend time together and since it's christmas break we haven't spent any time together for about a month. He goes, "I don't want to sound cheap since you already got me a gift but this is probably the best that I can do." Now hahah this just doesn't seem right... Anyway... I need help honestly. I've asked a ton of questions regarding whether or not I should keep him and most of them come to the conclusion as "no." But I do like him, and everytime that we ARE together it's fantastic but recently it just seems that he's not paying any attention to me and always playing games over me and we never talk since he's always playing World of Warcraft and his absence of attention is starting to make me lose interest in whatever it is that we have. We're not exclusively in a relationship since he's still in the closet but seriously... if he wants a relationship with me he needs to know how to have one... I've had many talks with him regarding "us" and all the questions that I ask him are answered with "I don't know =/" and now I just don't know if he's worth the stress and nights where I stay awake just wondering what I should do with him. I hate having to be angry about him and I ALWAYS have to comfort myself by saying to myself, "we're just friends" since we're obviously nothing more... This statement also confuses me since he keeps telling me to tell people that are interested in me that i'm "currently dating someone." Blah... Please help!@! and sorry it was so long I just needed to get all of this out... (link)
i think he likes you but you need to tell him to stop with the bull and give him a bit of time alone so he can see wat he has got with you
go out have a laugh

gud luck darlin


okay,here is the scenario

i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:

1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.

don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff. (link)
no she is lustin atfer youand the fact she said dat is very strange



My mum is positive the boy next door to us will 'harm'(touch) my brother. He's 13 and my bro's 3. I've known this boy for about 5 years now...and I haven't suspected him (although i don't relly talk to him much). He has 2 older brothers and his mother is one of my mother's best friends.

I don't know where she got this idea...but she said she saw the boy, one day, touch my brother's private. My bro wasn't wearing a pampers. I'm sure she's totally over reacting because she does this quiet ALOT! Also..it could be her mind to protect my brother because the night before she saw a baby and the baby's cousin raped her! I don't know what to think now...although I highhly doubt the boy's gay!!!

I don't want to change her mind..cause she'll come up with some stupidness to tell me. Now she doesn't want the boy to play with my brother...and she doesn't want to carry my brother to his mom's b-dai party. I know it sounds stupid for me to act like this...but my brother need friends too....what to do?
Leave them? I don't want the neighbour to hate us!!!! (link)
would you be sorri if this kid hurts ur bro this kind of stuff could harm you for life keep thet kid away from your bro until you no if hes gay no big deal but until you no

hope ur moms wrong


Okay, this can get confusing. I'm 14/f and I have 3 gay guy friends. Let's call them Bob, Fred, and Joe. Bob and Fred are both in 9th grade with me and Joe is in 10th grade. Bob and I have been bff since ever. I met Fred and Joe at the end of last year and I'm good friends with both of them. Bob, I love that kid to death and i would never ditch him for another person.

Well, so my problem is that I stopped riding the bus inthe morning and had my dad drop me off in the morning. Then I found out that Joe gets there early too so I just hung out with him in the mornings. Well, there are these two girls, let's call them Tina and Kay? [I was really good friends with them last year but I hate them right now and I'm trying to pull away from them right now--long story] Well, one day Tina was like "Where' Bob?" --In the morning--And I went idk. And then she asks why I didn't know since we rode the same bus. And I told her "I'm not riding the bus anymore. My dad's dropping me off plus I get to talk to Joe"

Let me explain Joe and my situation. We're both in IB Prep and we're both going to be IB sutdents soon [yes, I know we're neerrdds] IB kids..it's like a cult and people out of IB can't be in the cult. Almost all the time anyway. So, Joe and I are usually really busy to tlak on the phone or IM, we don't have any classes together. And so we have on lunch and in the mornings to talk. So one reason I get there early is to talk to Joe and finish hw.

Well, Tina and Kay keeps on telling me "You switched gay guys on Bob!!" And making me look bad. But I really am not. I just want to talk with him like I would with any other people. Also they're saying that because I went to one party with Joe and his friends. ONE!!! They say that in front of Bob too. So I'm like wtf!! But I really am not. I love Bob to death and Joe can never replace Bob. And so one day I asked Kay "Give me 5 reasons and 5 people that says I'm switching gay guys." and she lists 4 people..including herself and Tina and some girl that has no relation to this "problem" and some other person.. And she never gave me the reason b/c I went off on how the other girl doesn't count because she doesn't know crap about this situation blah blah blah.

So my question is how t=do I get it through these girls' heads that I'm NOT switching gay guys? I mean they think that I can have only one gay friend and only the firends I had last year. They don't get that because I make new friends doesn't mean I'm going to ditch bob!! (link)
i have a gay friend i love him to bits so i no how you feel dont listen wait for a new drama if dat doe not work tell them to shut up and tell bob you love him and that will never change


Hi all. I'm soon to be interviewed regarding the link between drinking a lot, and taking sexual risks. This might mean going further than you wanted/planned, not using protection, etc - but only while you've been drinking.

My interview is going to be specifically about teenagers, so I thought I would ask the younger people on here for their input. Do you think there is a link? How strong do you think it is?

Thanks for any help you can give. (link)
i felt like crap my first sexual experience was a drunk one and it was great it like you lose ur restrictions but it was not special but i no the guy now and we are friends


i am 13 female and this guy invited me over to his palce after school. he like really hot so i said yeah. well we got there and he gave me a drink booze. and soon i was like really spining. he start to make out with me and i let him. as he got my skirt up and panties down. some other guys show up and well they all end up have sex with me. I am not sure why i let it happen am i a slut? (link)
let b truthful i think you are not a slut but i would lie off the booze and dont blur ur judgement
it could have been worse


it's my mom's birthday in the morning, so this is kinda urgent...
I've found an old photo of my mom from when she was just a toddler and printed it out and made a card out of it. I'm putting $50 in the card for her but inside looks a bit plain. I've jazzed it up with some coloured paper but I'd love to include maybe a poem or something on the blank side of the card. I really need something tonight..like in the next few hours before i go to bed. So does anyone have any good ideas or even know any websites maybe?

thank you SOOOOOO much to those who can help me out. Meanwhile, I'll keep googling! :]

xx (link)
first of all cutting it a bit close secand
dont make it rhyme its a bit hallmark cards a gud idea
only have x rated poems soz mate
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO UR MOM


Okay, for myspace really want a cute name. like my friend has hers as Ma-di-suhn™ but I can't think of anything cute for the name Brianna any help?
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bre bre
soooooooo cute


okay so i am 16 years old/female and i have only gotten my period once.. when i was 14. i think this is really wierd because like i have gone through every other part of puberty, like im done growing and my boobs are big and everything. when i did get my period it was a full 6 days and i dont know why i never got it again. it was late to begin with too since i have been the same height and stuff since i last got it. my parents say want to take me to get blood work done and im scared though. what could be the reason for not getting it? i've also never had sex and i also get a normal amount of discharge. help please!!!! (link)
my friend is thin and her period stopped she went to the doctor and it was just a inbalance u will b fine
fingers crossed


I have a boyfriend who has already had sex. I think i'm ready to have it and I love him very much.
I want to have sex with him.
But i'm afraid of what will come after,
or when people find out.
And it'll be my first time and I wont know what to do.
And I guess I'm just scared and need to know
what i should do before sex to make sure im protected enough and is it okay to have it if im ready? (link)
darlin yeh if you love him it so ok the best thing in the world babes after a certain age people think you have only if you wont to
protect urself make him wear a comdom and go to the gp
mý main advise is never reget it if it doen't work out you still loved him and it will come naturaly to you
hope it works out
remember NO REGETS


Do girl prefer it when a guy doesn't show his boxers..or does (but not in that oh-my-god-half my-arse-is-hanging-out way). and do girls prefer designer or not *-).
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you now wat it is soooooooooooo sexy to see just the top of a pair the calvin kleins
so hot with jeans stay away from the trackie
any girl thinks dats hot
hope it helps




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