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Gay Guys
Okay, this can get confusing. I'm 14/f and I have 3 gay guy friends. Let's call them Bob, Fred, and Joe. Bob and Fred are both in 9th grade with me and Joe is in 10th grade. Bob and I have been bff since ever. I met Fred and Joe at the end of last year and I'm good friends with both of them. Bob, I love that kid to death and i would never ditch him for another person.
Well, so my problem is that I stopped riding the bus inthe morning and had my dad drop me off in the morning. Then I found out that Joe gets there early too so I just hung out with him in the mornings. Well, there are these two girls, let's call them Tina and Kay? [I was really good friends with them last year but I hate them right now and I'm trying to pull away from them right now--long story] Well, one day Tina was like "Where' Bob?" --In the morning--And I went idk. And then she asks why I didn't know since we rode the same bus. And I told her "I'm not riding the bus anymore. My dad's dropping me off plus I get to talk to Joe"
Let me explain Joe and my situation. We're both in IB Prep and we're both going to be IB sutdents soon [yes, I know we're neerrdds] IB kids..it's like a cult and people out of IB can't be in the cult. Almost all the time anyway. So, Joe and I are usually really busy to tlak on the phone or IM, we don't have any classes together. And so we have on lunch and in the mornings to talk. So one reason I get there early is to talk to Joe and finish hw.
Well, Tina and Kay keeps on telling me "You switched gay guys on Bob!!" And making me look bad. But I really am not. I just want to talk with him like I would with any other people. Also they're saying that because I went to one party with Joe and his friends. ONE!!! They say that in front of Bob too. So I'm like wtf!! But I really am not. I love Bob to death and Joe can never replace Bob. And so one day I asked Kay "Give me 5 reasons and 5 people that says I'm switching gay guys." and she lists 4 people..including herself and Tina and some girl that has no relation to this "problem" and some other person.. And she never gave me the reason b/c I went off on how the other girl doesn't count because she doesn't know crap about this situation blah blah blah.
So my question is how t=do I get it through these girls' heads that I'm NOT switching gay guys? I mean they think that I can have only one gay friend and only the firends I had last year. They don't get that because I make new friends doesn't mean I'm going to ditch bob!!
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i have a gay friend i love him to bits so i no how you feel dont listen wait for a new drama if dat doe not work tell them to shut up and tell bob you love him and that will never change
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okay first, yeah, these people really need to stfu. these people honestly shouldn't care, and they're just trying to get Bob mad at you. i would just ignore Tina and Kay for the most part. i would try hanging out with bob AND joe at the same time. so it won't seem like your trying to replace them or whatever.
but bob, should probably already get the fact that your not trying to replace him.
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the best way to make them shut up is to make your friendship with bob clear, just try to spend more time with him so that he and the other girls don't think ur being mean, that will solve your problems a lot more than talking wit these girls, they'll argue with whatever you say unless you show them that there is nothing to argue about
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wow.okay. these girls are really homophobic. ouch.
tell them that they're being orientationist. ask them if its OKAY that you have more than one straight friend. Cuz chances are, they wouldn't care.
Both Bob and Joe sound like great guys, and I'm glad you have them as friends with serious witches like that at your school. PROBABLY, they're jealous because you chose this Joe over them.
Think about it. you stopped being friends with them around the time you got really close to Joe. They want you back, and now that they're realizing you don't like them anymore, they're being witches with a capital B.
Just tell them that you can have as many gay friends as you like, because if they were REAL friends they wouldn't bug you about this.
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You don't have to make them understand....they don't matter.Just as long as you know you're not being a bad friend or whatever, that's all. You're worried about the wrong things. You shouldn't care about what other people think about you or what your doing. Next time they ask you why are you hanging out with him.Ask them, "Why are you being so nosie?" "Why are you even talking to me?" "Why are you breathing?"LOL, just laugh it off......Hope I helped.~<3Potential.
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