Hello people! I'm not anything special, no *real* training, I've grown up in a pastor kid enviroment, so I've been the one people turn to a lot. I WON"T tell you you're question was stupid, and I won't give you a bogus answer. I love helping people, and my future profession is going to be in the psychiatric field, but I'm also into professional singing(I've been singing publicly since the age of two) so I know all sorts of tricks for that stuff too. I'll give anything a stab, except I suck at sports(sorry, can't help you make a field goal) and I'm not into the whole "in style" thing. I've got my own little fashion thing going on. I know a whole bunch of useless knowledge, and though I have my own issues, I can usually come up with a good solution if I'm not in the situation.
Lots of Love XOXO
Mycalina(aka Rose)
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there is these 2 boys in my class and they stare at me and my friend all the time but they look me in the eye they deny that they like me online.but they wont talk to me in person its like theyre scared too.one of the boys talks to the other one about where they live but the other boy already knows where he lives.they also talk about other girls like trying to get me jealous or something he says " i wanna go out with " so and so but idk what hes tyring to do ... do you think he likes me ? or my friend what other signs would a boy do if they liked me ? my friend and i pass notes back and fourth and they try to look .. and what does that mean if boys call me "ugly" because i'm guessing some of them just say it because they like me ? then last night he admits to me that he does the nod thing what does that mean ? is he starting to like me & not like the gf ?
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ooooooohkayyyy. looong question.
1) do they like you. It sounds sort of possible. But its also possible that they think you're a random alien life form. Staring and eye contact are something that guys tend to do when they want to get your attention. Staring=look at me.
2)the whole online talking thing. its waay easier to talk to guys online, because they can think about what they're saying before they say it. so don't write that off just yet
3)because he talks to you about other girls it could mean that he thinks of you as a good friend who just happens to be a girl. or he wants you to ask her out for him. in my experience it doesn't usually mean that he likes you.
4) if a guy calls you ugly in a teasing way, it means he thinks you're pretty. or else he wouldn't say it to your face.
5)if he has a girlfriend, he's off limits for now. he can be cute, he can like you, but talking about it is just asking to get an angry girlfriend to kill you.
6)if a guy likes you, he'll watch you, but turn away when he sees you looking and blush. just downright staring could be a sign of that kindergarden love tactics(I like her, I'm going to pull her hair).
okay, I hope this helped!!! I tried to sort out what I could from what you wrote, but I couldn't tell which guy was which.
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I love singing. But i have a shyness of singing in front of people. I have before and people were shocked. I think im really talented at singing but it just the shyness that is a problem. How do i get over something like that? (link)
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okay, I'm sorry to tell you that its really hard to get over shyness. I usually get very nervous in front of people.
The best way that I know is to KNOW YOUR SONG reaaalllly well before you go to sing it for reals. It helps keep you calmer, because you don't have to worry about screwing up. Then tell yourself I'M GOOD AT THIS! Anyone who laughs at me is SO JEALOUS, cuz I ROCK!
Its really hard the first few times, but if you never jump, you'll never know you can fly!
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my boobs are too small! okay basically they are probably a B or something [thats my bra size] but they do not look like a B at all! i definately do not need to worry about any thing not fitting me because there is nothing THERE! i mean there is, but there isnt. you know what i mean. i'm not really self concious about it i would say, but i'm curious on why. my aunt had to get reductions & my cousins [who are my age, and sadly younger] are way bigger than me. i used to be heavier before, but lost a lot of weight. now im kind of skinny and there isn't anything there. is this why?? luckily my bf doesn't care but i do. i know what you are going to say, no you can't fix it, be happy with yourself. it just does not make sense. so what would be the best bra i could buy?? no water bras, and no obviously padded bras. oh & there's no way i'm getting surgery eitherr. thanks (link)
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yeah. I understand. I'm a C but they aren't NOTICEABLE. what about a push-up type? That way you might get SOME cleavage. Look for one thats very thin on top, but thicker underneath. and good straps that fit.
Good Luck!!!
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So, I'm attempting at writing a book, and I was wondering opinions on this subject..
I have three main characters, and this story is supposed to be a romantic drama kind of thing. I'd like one of the characters to be the one to tell the story, but she ends up dying towards the middle. I was thinking I could switch around with point of views, either that, or switch once the girl dies.. but I'm not sure.
I don't like telling from the author's point of view, but I know it gives more chance to describe more...
Any help is appreciated on when you think I should do. =)
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Did you ever read "Flipped"? In this story, two people tell it, both the guy and the girl, and they switch every few chapters. You could start with a view from the author's perspective, and then have your character who dies tell for awhile, then switch. I find books like that entertaining.
M
P.S. I'd love to read your manuscript when you finish, if you'd like an objective opinion.
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hey guys.. i have a problem. My really close friend since 2 years has been cutting herslef and i only found out in September this year. I ALWAYS tell her to stop because its not good for her but she wont! I ask her why and she would never give me a straight answer or she would just change the subject. I recalled her saying that one of the reason she does it is because shes muslim and ever since 9/11 some people have been very racsit about it, saying that ALL musilm people are like that. She never tells me when something is bugging her and i really care for her but im not sure how i can help her. No, im not going to an older person about it because i know she doesnt want anyone to know abotu it. Her legs are really scarred from it. Can anyone give me any ideas of how i can convince her to stop? (BTW she doesnt listen to anyone when they tell her)
Thanks alot for listening and any advice is greatly appreciated.
-Krazy (link)
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okay. I know from experience that it won't help just to tell her she's loved. What really worked for me was when my best friend told me she wasn't going to care anymore. From then on, whenever I talked about anything like that, she walked away. She's stopped this now, and listens to me, but what really helped was that initial shock that "OH! She really wants me to stop... enough to stop talking to me."
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Ok so i'm really bad at doing my homework because i usualy dont because when i dont do i get yelled at and when i do i get yelled at so i dont know what to do because i want to do good at school but i'm really cofused and stressed and i'm starting high school next year well if i pass and i really need to do better but everytime i go to do my homework i get yelled at by a teacher and even my parents so i need help anyone please (link)
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are you saying that you forget how???
Get a good day planner book(your computer can help you make one too) and write down the assignment. then, write how. When you get home, use whatever you've written to help you.
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Ok one of my friends are gay. let's call her tina. at first everyone thought tina was gay/lesbian whatever, because of the way she dressed.(she wore her clothes a LITTLE loose and somtimes she wore a lot of things that boys would wear) but she denied that she was a lesbian, so everyone backed off. but then everyone noticed that she was being a little too friendly with two girls. let's call them ciara and brittany. somehow people just started the rumor that tina was a lesbian again, and this time she didn't deny it. then tina ended up going out with brittany and they just broke up. the details are a bit too long, so i'll just get to the point. i was over tina's house after she broke up with brittany, because i still wanted to be her friend even though her sexual orientation had changed. when i was over there, she was askin me should she go back out with brittany and she let me listen to the message that brittany left on her answering machine. they both wanted to get back with each other, and were saying that they loved each other. well, ask you can probably already tell, i feel a little uncofortable with this who situation. any ideas on ways i can feel a little more comfortable with this would be great!!! (link)
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being bi or les doesn't change anything. only homophobic people(which it sounds like the kids at your school are) really care.
Your friend is the same person she was before, and it shouldn't change your friendship at all.
If you really want to feel better about it, just being around it more should help calm down your gaydar to the point where you aren't freaking out.
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hey, ive been trying to think of something to do for my 16th bday party. i was gonna do midnight bowling, but someone else did that a few weeks ago and i dont want to seem like im copying them. does anyone have a cool, original idea? thanks :) (link)
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how about a be yourself party? everyone comes wearing whatever; honestly their favorite outfit. They decorate their own like cupcakes or whatever with all kinds of stuff(like chocolate syrup, or sour skittles. or peppermints. random toppings), decorate your house with streamers and decorations of their choice(they each get their own area), and mix virgin cocktails with whatever they feel like. You can do other stuff too, like doing a talent show, or races or whatever. The whole thing ends up being really goofy and fun, and its pretty inexpensive too.
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when i get home from school at 230, all i can think about is eating. i regularly eat a bagel and drink a glass of orange juice for breakfast, and i have a balanced lunch. i know im not hungry when i get home, but i make myself feel like if i eat something its not a big deal. but when i do, i just wanna cry cuz i feel so bad about it. there have been a few days where im been able to not eat until dinner, and when i do i'm so proud. what could i do to make me get my mind off eating?! :[ (link)
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THE SECOND you get home, do ALL your homework. mine usually carries me for maybe 2 hours. Then if you take a shower at night do that. If there's still time until dinner, read, or go online. TV isn't good, because there's lots of commercials with food. hope this helps!
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i was wnodering.....is fruit2o just as good for yoyu as regular water? i mean i know it has splenda in it and stuff....but i drink more of it than plain water...
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yeah. Its fine. Everything has some sugars in it. Its there to get people to drink their water.
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k basically i waited until the last min to study and i have mid terms 2marrow for one of my hardest classes its history and i already have a D in that class and if i fail this mid term i gonna have to work my ass off so that i wont fail for the year. The thing is that i have ADHD and a short tension spand and its hard for me to focus on school work including studying and it sucks for me cuz im really not trying to retake a 10th grade class again when im in the 11th.. I was only thinkin the only way for me to pass is to cheat and i really dont want to do that but thats really the only way for me to pass cuz i cant focus to study and i have tried to study but i cant remember half the stuff i looked over, or i cant stay focused on it..
So someone please help me i really dont kno what to do i just kno im gonna fail it and stay back in that class next year and thats gonna suck (link)
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okay, don't cheat, just take the textbook and read find out what topics the chapters are on. Look them up, and find out the IMPORTANT things. write them down and study only the IMPORTANT stuff. take short study breaks every half hour, and eat lots of chocolate. GOOD LUCK!!!
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15/f - Canada.
Alright I just eat a big bag of Sour Skittles..(the 151 g bag) and I was fine and then I was eating the sour powder. A few minutes after I coughed and pink stuff came up. It has a bit of an odour to it and I don't know what it could be. Also I've been suffering a sore throat could that have something to do with it? (link)
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its probably mucus lining your throat. the sour stuff proly irritated it, because you have a sore throat. Just don't worry about it, spit it out.
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I pierced the carteliage in my ear like the top part 2 days ago. It's fine but I have basketball games so I'm going to have to take it out. If I take it out right before the game and put it back in afterwards will it close up?? I've already taken it out 2 times to clean it and it didn't close up any. (link)
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ehhh. you really shouldn't take it out. I did accidently after a week, and there was a layer closed that I had to punch it through. not a good idea. but if you have to, clean it really really good first and afterwards, because of the sweat.
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i saw an answer to a question about how to treat zits, and one person said to put honey on them for 15 minutes, then rinse it off.
umm... this sounds kinda silly to me.
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ew. honey is soooo sticky. but this could work, because there ARE such things as honey/oatmeal masques. but I wouldn't try it personally.
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hey guys..13/f and i live in Canada..i have a book report due soon and im not sure which book i should read. I loved The Outsiders and if anyone has ANY suggests of any book with that same idea (Not including the other S.E Hinton books), or just any good book that is grade 8/9 level, PLEASE let me know!
Thanks:-)
-Krazy
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mmm. Did you read Twilight by Meyer??? its exellent. so is anything by Sarra Manning(she's british) erm. Rx, Artemis Fowl. I could keep going, but there's waaaaaaaaayyyy too many good books.
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I have no idea what's wrong with me. I'm a teenage who has a "good" life. (meaning that there aren't any huge problems going on) I can't stand living though. I how I can't get love- because I truly believe that love is the only thing worth living for.
I how every relationship i've ever been in has ended before it even started. I'm considered "negative" but I don't see how that's a big problem- because when i'm not around my immediate family I keep all of my negativity to myself. I cry all the time and I can't stop thinking of . I wish I could die so badly. There's nothing that I want to do in this world. And I'm sick of this line of thought. I've been to tons of counselors and therapists but they don't help me. They actually make me feel worse.
I get plenty of exercise and I take vitamins and do all of the things I should be doing to stay healthy. I'm considered "obese" with a BMI of like 31. (5'3" and 173 lbs) I used to be 183. And I was down to 160 for a few days but of course I had to gain it back because of stress. I'm sick of dieting and I'm not doing it anymore. I'm just going to let myself be fat.
I SCHOOL. And we have to waste our whole lives doing it. It's pointless and I don't even NEED it. I already know everything they teach us. I don't like any of the things that I thought were my passions. Acting, singing, and dancing used to make me so happy. I still "love" them but they require so much work and I feel so inferior when I try to do them because I have a bad voice (even though I have a good voice- it sounds really bad and nasal and I can't belt) and I'm fat so my natural dancing ability is underappreciated. And my acting, well- I thought I was the best actress in the world. But no one ever reassures me of this.
I life and all I ever do (when i'm not at rehearsal or dance classes) is cry and think about how wonderful everything would be if i could just have someone who LOVES me. I know I never will again. (i was in a 7-day relationship with a guy who had Asberger's syndrome in september) I'm a huge turn-off and a dispickable person regardless of my attractiveness. I AM SO ATTRACTIVE AND PRETTY AND GORGEOUS AND I HAVE PRETTY HAIR BUT NO ONE NOTICES.
I DON'T WANT TO CHANGE ANYTHING ABOUT MYSELF. And I'm not going to. I want to end my life so much.
But I can't bring myself to do so. I this- can someone tell me what to do? (link)
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I don't claim to have all the answers.
I have the same BMI, and it sucks, I agree.
But don't kill yourself.
Not a good idea.
I don't know if this will help or not, but I have two methods that keep me going.
One is that I have a notebook. a plain, spiral, no writing on the cover, and I write in it, a lot.
the second is, I take a red pen or marker, and write on my skin, I write all the things that are wrong, and then wash it off(make sure the pen or marker washes off first). It makes everything feel a little better, just acknowledging it.
If you ever need someone to talk to, e-mail or IM me.
Lots of Love,
Ms.Mycalina
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What exactly is the definition of an eating disorder and depression? I go through periods of time, usually they only last 1 or 2 days, (often on weekends or vacations) where I feel totally depressed and fat. I just got an exercise bike and it is REALLY hard for me to stay off it. I feel like every second of time I have, I should be using it. I weigh 85 pounds, and I'm 14, so deep down, I know that I have a decent body. I fear the future, and I fear becoming overweight. For a while, I've been giving part of my dinner to my dad. Particularly things I don't like to eat, such as green beans, sweet potatoes, and chicken. ( But only certain parts of my dinner.) He is starting to suspect me of anorexia.
I don't think I'm anorexic, I just cannot digest a ton of food (mainly veggies and meat) at one time. I feel like my life is "All Or Nothing." I HAVE to eat healthy for the day. If I don't eat healthy and perfectly, then I end up giving up and pigging out on candy. I believe these problems are connected to depression-related problems.
What sense do you make out of all of this?
Am I going crazy?
Please don't sugguest I get professional help.
There is NO way I can do that.
So if you say, "see a doctor."
I will rate you a 1.
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an eating disorder is where your mind has been negativly affected towards itself, and therefore it begins to think that it is supposed to do things it should not.
Anorexia is often caused by low self esteem(trust me, you aren't alone on that), but it is one of the easier ones to cure. Truthfully, you sound like you have OCD, because of you're "all or nothing" philosophy. Truthfully, you could have depression, and sometimes eating disorders are caused by it.
one reason I don't think you're anorexic is because if you were, you'd be thinking wayyy more about what you were eating. my best friend at one point was proANA, and she would be so strict about only eating veggies and stuff.
I completely understand about the periods of time where you're depressed thing. I have the same problem. I think its related to the fact that being alone for long periods of time makes me sad. Like a puppy, LOL.
But I don't think that this means depression.
I think you just need someone to talk to, someone to fill some time so you're not always on the bike. its really unhealthy to not eat much and then exercise a lot.
If you'd like, e-mail me your IM(if you have it, if not, just e-mail me), I have Yahoo, MSN, and AIM.
~Lots of Love~
Ms.Mycalina
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And i come to Advicenators yet again for help.
Im the kind of person that likes to plan ahead.
So im already thinking about Valentines Day.
I have absolutely NO idea on what to get my boyfriend! I want to get him something really nice, but i just dont know what.
Advice would be nice.
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Its really hard to help when you don't give interests, no offense. Can you message me with the types of things he does?? Like sports or music or things like that?
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I eat 3-5 small meals a day. Is that bad for me or better than eating 3 large meals? (link)
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better. then you aren't overeating at the main meals.
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so i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for his birthday. we both splurged for christmas soo i spent around $250 on him then. im not made of money lol especially since i spent all that and havent been workin alot lately soo i dont know what to get him thats reasonably cheap [maybe $30-45 max] but is still good. im thinkin about makin him a cake and i cant do the picture of us in a frame deal [my computer wont print the pics right]. he'll be 17 and hes not into sports but he plays guitar and is just learning to play the keyboard and he likes the Fender brand [i already got him a Fender hoodie & shirt for christmas] and he likes funny stuff like the stupid/"guy" humor kind of thing. any ideas? btw concert tickets are not an option k thanx. 16f. (link)
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how about guitar music??? Go online, and find chords to his favorite songs. and get him some guitar picks, and maybe new strings. New strings are always good, just don't buy the plastic kind, cuz they slide around. (If you guys have a song, thats a really good one to start with getting chords to.)
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