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Muslim girl cutting
hey guys.. i have a problem. My really close friend since 2 years has been cutting herslef and i only found out in September this year. I ALWAYS tell her to stop because its not good for her but she wont! I ask her why and she would never give me a straight answer or she would just change the subject. I recalled her saying that one of the reason she does it is because shes muslim and ever since 9/11 some people have been very racsit about it, saying that ALL musilm people are like that. She never tells me when something is bugging her and i really care for her but im not sure how i can help her. No, im not going to an older person about it because i know she doesnt want anyone to know abotu it. Her legs are really scarred from it. Can anyone give me any ideas of how i can convince her to stop? (BTW she doesnt listen to anyone when they tell her)
Thanks alot for listening and any advice is greatly appreciated.
-Krazy
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Well, if she won't listen to anyone, then there is really nothing you can do. Maybe you could tell her parents about this...they might manage to get her to a therapist or maybe talk her out of not cutting herself. Or maybe she's going through some sort of phase...lots of my friends use to cut themselves, but they realized how wrong and dangerous it is and they eventually stopped.
Sorry, idk if my advice was helpful or not.
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Some secrets need to be told. You can just tell anon, so she won't know - but this is dangerous, harmful and she needs more help than you have to offer.
Things you can do to help her stop? Everytime you see something or she talks about - let her know you don't think that is right and leave.
There are also several Muslim Support Groups that you can refer her to - since her reason is based off of that...
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Just because she doesn't want anyone to know, doesn't mean you shouldn't tell.
No matter how good a friend you are, this is something out of your control. She needs the help of a trained professional. It's possible she's also suffering from depression, which medicine could greatly help. You can't offer her therapy or medication, and that's the problem.
I really, really hope you tell someone.
In the meantime, maybe you can tell her some techniques people use to stop, like snapping an elastic band on their wrist, or even making herself slowly dwindle down to nothing: for instance, one cut per day, then one per two days, then two per week, and so on. There are many other websites with suggestions on how people can try and stop, and you might be able to tell her about some of those ideas.
Please, though, consider getting someone else involved. She's probably scared and even though she doesn't want anyone knowing, someone else can really be helpful. You can't solve this alone, and chances are, neither can she.
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well i know from experience. yeah i started because of an ex girl friend. the whole reason i stopped was to get her back, but my friends had tried to tell me to stop and i didnt listen to them until they just quit talking to me and told me to leave them alone until i quit cause they didnt like me doing that sort of stuff to myself. when my parents found out they took my knives away, soo yeah. i dont know if i helped, but i tried.
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okay. I know from experience that it won't help just to tell her she's loved. What really worked for me was when my best friend told me she wasn't going to care anymore. From then on, whenever I talked about anything like that, she walked away. She's stopped this now, and listens to me, but what really helped was that initial shock that "OH! She really wants me to stop... enough to stop talking to me."
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try talking to her about it try telling her that you love her and that she isnt alone that she still has you make her feel like she can talk to you about whats bugging her thats what friends do they care for each other and try to help each other when ever one of us is being put down now about the racist comments people really dont have lives do they ??!!? but she should try to ignore what every one says about her although its hard to its the only way they will stop (if they are directly saying this to her) if she isnt getting direct remarks she shouldnt be as bothered because what ever happned on 9 11 wasnt her fault there are just alot of people who do stupid things and put their country down. she should love her self for who she is and show people that not all muslims do what every1 thinks all muslims do.
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