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Q: I am 14 and 5'4 and 155 is my weight and i wanna lose like 15 to 20 lbs, so do you have any helpful ideas?

I'm 5'6" and at the beginning of the year, i was 155 pounds too. I am now 135 pounds, and this is how I did it: I eat cereal, fruits, vegetables, egg whites, very lean meat, things high in fiber and low in calories ( I eat about 700-800 calories a day) and I burn anywhere between 500 and 700 calories at the gym, and I go usually 5 times a week. Also, I drink a lot of water. Your metabolism might be different though, but that's how I lost weight.

Q: 14/F

I'm five feet tall and weigh about 117 lbs. It's not that bad, considering I have muscle on me, but I also have partially larger thighs, upper arms, and a gut.

My question is, any tips on losing weight?
I want to get a flat stomach, or mostly flat stomach, by summer and I want to lose at least 7 lbs. I know you have to do aerobics, running, etc. etc., but is there any other way to make the process faster?
Thanks in advance.

Honestly, I think 117 pounds is a healthy weight for your height-I'm 5'6" and 135 pounds, which is a bit overweight but it's an average weight. But anyway, a good weight-loss exercise is stationary biking (exercise bike, or try out a spin class). It has more effect than just walking. Eat less calories, and burn more, cut back on bad food, and get a lot of rest.

Q: usually for breakfast i have a fruit shake and a half a cup of oatmeal.
in my fruit shake i usually put about 15 blueberries, and 15 rasberries, about 4 strawberries and 2 cups of milk. a teaspoon of flaxeed and a teaspoon of wheat germ. also about a tablespoon of protein powder.
how many calories do you think is in my breakfast?
is this a good breakfast?

Probably about 250 calories, depending on what type of milk you use. That's a healthy breakfast though, definitely.

Q: I'm trying to lose weight, so what are good healthy foods to substitute for junk foods and whatnot? Also, if I cut down by eating 1500 calories a day and running every other day, will I lose much weight?

I eat about 700-800 calories a day, not deliberately but just by what I eat- good foods to eat are obviously foods that are low in calories, low-fat/fat free, with natural sugars and high fibers, and things that are very nutritious. I eat a LOT of fruit, and I also eat healthy soups, egg whites, vegetables, and cereal. Try Campbell's Healthy Request soups, and the under-300 calorie Lean Cuisines, they're so good. Don't eat a lot of red meat, stick to chicken, turkey and fish. To substitute desserts, have sugarfree popsicles or fruit bars (anywhere between 15-40 cals), frozen yogurt, or sugar-free Jell-O puddings. If you exercise frequently and eat less calories, you'll lose weight for sure!

Q: i have videos on my camers (i downloaded them to my computer, they save in my pictures though) is there any way to get them from my computer to my ipod as a video?

http://www.videora.com/en-us/Converter/iPod/

there's one converter, if that doesn't work there's plenty of others, try google or download.com

Q: i've started to work out a lot more than usual because i feel my ''excercises'' aren't working. so i decided to step it up a notch. i do all the normal crunches and push ups, blah blah blah..i just want to know two things:

#1- i want to loose a substantial amount of weight. SO, what kind of exercises should I do everyday?
#2- how many calories should i set a goal for loosing everyday?

By the way im 17/f if this helps and i want to loose about 15-20 pounds. im not on a time limit but i would really like to loose it as quickly as possible. im on a healthy diet. and i really badly want to loose the ''extra baggage'' if u know what i mean.

kthxbye :]

Do between 30-60 minutes of cardio, either on an exercise bike, treadmill, etc. And do some weight exercises, there are different ones that target certain parts of your body. Also, just burn as many calories as you want. I usually go to the gym 4 or more days, and I burn between 300-500.

Q: I love to sing even though I'm flat and I need to control my breathing. (From what my thespian friends have told me)

So I'll love to get tips. Any songs to sing? I know there's musicals and such to sing from but please list songs for altos.

I've tried looking and I struggle to sing the songs from musicals. It seems to go too high or something.

The only song I can sing is Sunday Morning by Maroon 5 :\

Well, if your voice is flat and you have breathing problems, try taking vocal lessons. Trust me, they really help!

For altos, I can think of a few musical pieces. 'There are Worse Things I Could Do' from Grease, 'Out Here On My Own' from Fame, 'Without You' from Rent, and 'Funny Honey' from Chicago.

Sunday Morning is not really an alto piece. The lead singer does a very good falsetto, and he is a tenor. The song is in quite a high range, so that's not the best song for an alto.

:)

Q: well im starting to like this guy alot. but i really dont know if he likes me. two of my friends have liked him before but he didnt like them and if he did he wouldnt admit it to me. me and him are friends. we hang out a couple times a week but were not alone. he goes to a different school in the same city. well idk how to show that i like him without actually telling him. i have this dance at school on feb 10th where the girls ask the guys and they get matching t-shirts on whatever the theme is. i want to ask him to go with me but im kind of nervous. hes not the dance sort of guy. what signs can i give him to show that i like him? and how long should i wait to ask him to the dance?

there are a lot of ways to tell a guy you like them without being too obvious. you can find out if you have anything in common with him, hang out with him a lot so he can see what you're really like, console him if he ever has a bad day, just do little things that can be hints to him. eventually, if things heat up at all, tell him! and if he doesn't like you back, at least you were brave enough to confess. and you should just ask him to go with you...he might think you mean as friends. if he really cares about you, he'd put aside the fact he's not a dance sort of guy and just go and have fun with you! :)

Q: hey guys.. i have a problem. My really close friend since 2 years has been cutting herslef and i only found out in September this year. I ALWAYS tell her to stop because its not good for her but she wont! I ask her why and she would never give me a straight answer or she would just change the subject. I recalled her saying that one of the reason she does it is because shes muslim and ever since 9/11 some people have been very racsit about it, saying that ALL musilm people are like that. She never tells me when something is bugging her and i really care for her but im not sure how i can help her. No, im not going to an older person about it because i know she doesnt want anyone to know abotu it. Her legs are really scarred from it. Can anyone give me any ideas of how i can convince her to stop? (BTW she doesnt listen to anyone when they tell her)
Thanks alot for listening and any advice is greatly appreciated.
-Krazy

Well, if she won't listen to anyone, then there is really nothing you can do. Maybe you could tell her parents about this...they might manage to get her to a therapist or maybe talk her out of not cutting herself. Or maybe she's going through some sort of phase...lots of my friends use to cut themselves, but they realized how wrong and dangerous it is and they eventually stopped.
Sorry, idk if my advice was helpful or not.

Q: i dont know what to do!!!please help me i am sooooo depressed!!! my friend nicole is sooooooooo mean to me!!!!!! she is soooooo nice sometimes.. but sooooo mean .. what do i do!!!!she is like my best feind... but she can be sooo mean.. ill give you an example... well
1. she never listens to me
2. and she NEVER STOPS SAYING MARR HARR!!!
you dont get it!!
i ask her to stop and she just keeps talking!!grr marr harr marr harr marr harr marr harr!!!
lol... not

okay.....sounds like nicole is a REALLY wierd person. i think you might want to find some, more, uhh, normal friends.
because, trust me, nobody says marr harr anymore. that's so 90's.

Q: here's two things i've been told about sex from my friends, and i'm not sure what's true and what's not:

-your vagina makes "farting" noises when having sex.
-there is the possibility of peeing on him.

true or false? =/

thanks!

lol...farting noises? no, that's totally false.
and if you don't want the possibility of peeing on him, go to the bathroom before sex! simple as that =) lol

Q: i'm a 14 year old girl. in october, i went out with this boy for 2 weeks & then he broke up with me. we didn't talk for a while, but then we became sort of friends again. well; lately he has been calling me & we've been talking A LOT.

he keeps asking me if i'll have sex with him (not right now, but in the future), i just keep telling me "maybe". well now it seems that all he wants to talk about is sexual things. like, eating me out or me giving him a blow job.

i don't know what to do! i haven't really done anything with him..just made out & he's felt me up. that's all!

p.s. he's always telling me that he loves me, and that i'm beautiful. sometimes, he's so sincere & sweet, but sometimes i think he's bullshitting me.

help!

okay, here's what you need to know first of all: almost all guys are like this. when guys start getting horomonal, they want to start exploring their sexual side. most of the guys at my school want nothing but girls to give them hand/blow jobs.
it isn't right.

sorry, but i don't think he means it when he tells you he loves you. if he loved you, he wouldn't keep nagging you about sex. he would take your response and not ask again until you brought it up.

i think you need to stop hanging out with this boy, if you want to keep your innocence.

Q: My best friend is very selfish and always takes advantage of me and i dont like it, and i have like no other friends anymore because i was always trying to please her (shes kinda high maintenence) and shes hard to talk to about this stuff because shell get all mad and defensive and wind up manipulating me to make me think that im the bad person, but really everyone tells me how shes bad and now she wants me to do drugs and get tattoos and other stuff that i dont think i wanna do... but i have no other friends..so what do i do.

alright, i used to have the same problem. i knew a girl that did the exact same things to me. i tried talking to her about it, and she acted all innocent and got mad at me. so don't try talking to her about this. i think you should find better, nicer friends...ones that are going to treat you well and with respect. don't take crap from her, tell her you're done. and you won't have to suffer any more.

Q: Okay. i discharge. a lot. like heavy. so i'm always really nervous and think it's my period.

and i know it's normal, but do you have any suggestions about how to make it feel not so heavy?

well, this happens to a lot of girls. so it's nothing to get nervous about.
you could try drinking a lot of water, it might lighten the flow.
or just carry pads with you at all times, just in case it is your period.

i'm sure there's other ways but that's really all i know. hope i helped!