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i need serious help
i'm a 14 year old girl. in october, i went out with this boy for 2 weeks & then he broke up with me. we didn't talk for a while, but then we became sort of friends again. well; lately he has been calling me & we've been talking A LOT.
he keeps asking me if i'll have sex with him (not right now, but in the future), i just keep telling me "maybe". well now it seems that all he wants to talk about is sexual things. like, eating me out or me giving him a blow job.
i don't know what to do! i haven't really done anything with him..just made out & he's felt me up. that's all!
p.s. he's always telling me that he loves me, and that i'm beautiful. sometimes, he's so sincere & sweet, but sometimes i think he's bullshitting me.
help!
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if this friendship realtionship thingy is not giving any good and don't feel confortable i suggest you get out of it. If you feel direspected and if you guys broke up then why is he doing those things? i think he is b.s.ing you b/c he not even looking for a realtionship with you he is looking for sex from what you said. well i hope everything works out.
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Hi,
I will be blunt as you need to hear the truth. The guy is a grade A sleazeball. Nobody who respects a girl/woman and is your friend or someone in love with you or wanting to date you now or in the future will talk about what they want top do to you sexually. It's just not right--there's something wrong with him!
Unless you were talking dirty and both of you consented to that he's pretty much a creep who is playing you (he's not into you at all. He's all about sex)
What do you need to do? As tough as it is to talk to your mom or dad let them know he has been making sexually suggestive/charged comments about what he wants to do with you and will not stop even though you are not comfortable.
Your parents can contact his or go through your school's guidance office for him to be severely disciplined. Any way you slice it it's sexual harassment and you can do a lot about it by speaking out to teachers, prinicipals, your parents, or a trusted adult.
And to echo your own words "He's bullshitting you." run, don't walk away from this jerk as he's bad news and likely you saw that already from having been on a date or two with him in the past. Do every girl you know a favor and tell them exactly what he's been saying to you. Nobody will touch him after that and maybe if he doesn't have mental issues will get the message how to treat girls he knows or wants to be with. It's called respect ;)
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okay, here's what you need to know first of all: almost all guys are like this. when guys start getting horomonal, they want to start exploring their sexual side. most of the guys at my school want nothing but girls to give them hand/blow jobs.
it isn't right.
sorry, but i don't think he means it when he tells you he loves you. if he loved you, he wouldn't keep nagging you about sex. he would take your response and not ask again until you brought it up.
i think you need to stop hanging out with this boy, if you want to keep your innocence.
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okkk chances are, he doesnt "love" you. he is just using you. hes askin you if you'd have sex with him ok, and he may be referrin to the future, but think about it.. if you give in and say yeah id like to or whatever he's gonna think sweet! and push you and push you until you give in and do it when HE wants to. all the sexual talk is probably trying to get you thinkin about it so you'll do it. i know alot of guys are horndogs but i mean they can still manage to talk about other things sometimes. guys can seem pretty sincere at times but lets face they know how to be good players when they want to be. i highly suggest you dont give in for anything.
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honestly? i think he is just using you for his own 'needs.' i mean he broke up with you, probably because you wouldn't do anything sexual with him, so now he thinks that your a little older, that you will do it. but i dont think you should do anything like that with him. he seems like a pig. no offense, but he does.
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Ok. The way I think about it is, if he really "loves" you he wouldn't ask you to do these things. That is probably one of the reasons I love my boyfriend so much. Because he dosen't pressure me into those things. You don't need to fall for the whole "I love you, so now will you give me head" routein. It's way over-played. I'm not saying that he dosen't like you, but if he really had true and sincere feelings, then he wouldn't put you in that situation. If I were you I wouldn't want to date him.
Hope I have helped. :)
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I think he is jsut using you to be honest, also it sounds like you aren't ready for such thins. Just tell him that if he really loved you he would wait untill your ready.
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EDIT-EXCUSE ME IVE HAD ALOT OF FRIENDS WHO ARE GUYS OBSERVED ALOT OF THEM AND ITS NOT TRUE THAT ALL MOST ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT UNLEES THEIR EXTREMLY IMMATURE OR ABOUT 12 OR 13 THOSE WHO SAY THAT ALMOST ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT HAVE NOT MET ALMOST EVERY GUY AND ARE PROBABLY JUST AROUND THE WRONG ONES A DECENT GOOD GUY WOULDNT DO THAT.
i think hes bull shiting you to dont fall for it hes trying to get in your pants. if he loved you or really thought that much about you he would keep bringing up sex. hes trying to pressure you.you need to just break away from him he needs to grow into his hormones. well when he wants something of course hes going to be sincere and sweet be cause being mean and hateful would turn you off or mmight intimidate you which he could switch to that tactic as well.
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well it sounds like all he wants to do is get in your pants and thinks you will be an easy target because you two once dated. he mite think you still have feelings for him and he is using those feelings to get what he wants... if you don't want to do anything with him tell him how you feel about all the talks you two have and that your not into him engough to fuck..
hope i helped
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