I have been single for 10 months because my past relationship was with a guy I truely loved but he wasnt willing to devote himself to atleast calling me once a day to talk to me.
I have found this guy that I really like and He recently told me he liked me to. hes really nice, and not like most of the other guys i know. He is rude, he doesnt party much and hes not like most of the guys ive dated. I really like him but for some reason I get really shy around him (which isnt normal). The only thing Im afraid of is that Im going to push him away Like i do with alot of guys and i dont want to do that.
I think i push guys away when the treat me well but i dont understand why.
my question is. How do I try to losten up around him so that he knows i like him and so maybe we could move further and start dating. And how do I not push him away when this starts to happen?
Please help!
You need to be confident, and not think about your ex boyfreind, which i think is one of your problems. even if yopu dont think it is, it might be a sub-concious problem. anyways, just pretend you dont like him more than a freind and act around him like you would if he wasnt the guy you really really liked. When you feel yourself putting a wall up or push him away, open up and dont bottle anything up. let it all out
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I have a girlfreind, and im a boy. But i met a guy and i kissed him and i like him now.
Am i bi-sexual or gay, and should i break up with my girlfreind?
1 kiss is neither gay nor bi. its just curiousity. i mean if you kiss him alot more it will be. but i think you shouldnt go out with anyone for a while because your deffinitly confused about who you are.
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hey silent whispers,
i like this boy and hes a total nut. hes so conservative and he's basically crazy and such. I am a total liberal and our views are so differant but i love his perosnality and his music interests and what he looks like.
what should i do?
love,
politcally confused
i dont think you should even try because it will end quickly. why? because you will get in tons of fights over the stupidest sh*t and you both witll get sick of eachothyer and want to hit eachother in the face after like 4 minutes.
are you still looking what to do?
nothing, you should not try with him
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14/F
Hey. I moved in my house like 7months ago and wen i moved in this street i saw these two guys that lived like 3 houses down. My mom is very strict so i couldnt talk to either one of them [[they are brothers]]. then about a month ago, when my mom wasnt home i had the guts to go up to them and talk to them. It lasted like 5min but we exchanged each others myspaces and we started to talk on there, and i found out they both had girlfriends because it was all over their myspace.and then after talking to them for a couple of weeks...i began to have feelings for the younger one. The older one is going off to college and has been with his girlfriend for 3 years so im not gonna go ther. But today was the younger ones one month anniversary with his girlfriend. but what really sucks is that i met them 3 days after the younger one started going out with his girlfriend. He's supposidely in love with her. but i dnt believe you can be in love after going out for a month. He flirts with me and i flirt back but i dont know if i should make a move because he has a girlfriend. My best friend told me i shouldnt because karmas gonna come back and bite me in the butt. but to tell you the truth, i think shes only saying that bcuz i think she kind of likes him too...he rated me a 8.5 based on looks and i guess thats good. My best friends birthday is next week and hes invited and he's bringing some of his friend with him. I dont know if i should dance with him and make a bold move or if i should just go for one of his friends :/ im tired of being single and i really like him and i feel that we could last a long time together but i dont want to ruin a relationship. What should i do?
i really believe you should deffinitly wait until he doesnt have a girlfriend. You dont want to be known as the boyfreind stealer, and you dont want him to cheat on her because you will be called "a whore" or a "slut" all the time by everyone. I'd wait it out or find someone else.theres other fish in the sea.
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ok this goes here and some other places but i used to be this really happy cheerful little girl but then all of a sudden that changed and my life got turned upside down i mean i gained alot of weight i stopped caring abot myself and even some others but mainly myself and now i dont know what to do because i want to go back to the way i used to be but it seems like evry time i try to i just get pushed right back down i mean i want to lose alot of weight be more healthy and be happy again but i cant seem to get the motivation for it everytime i get pushed back down so how i am ever goona change HELP
reading that little, short paragraph, i already can tell your depressed. you stated 6 signs of depression
1-sudden change in eating habits
2-sudden change in weight
3-lack of motivation
4-dont care about self image
5-doesnt care about self anymore
6-doesnt care about others anymore
there are way more than those 6, like extreme exasution, and moodswings, and oversleeping, or undersleeping, etc.
i suggest therpist or talking to guidance counsler or adjustment counsler at school (if at a school) often.
Find something healthy you like to do. i like to run, so i run. i like to walk my dog, so i walk my dog.
do you have a pet? get one. and love it. even if its just a hamster. animals soothe souls.
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im 13/f, 7th grade. i mean, i have alot of friends, but some of them i hardly even see anymore, so then we kinda become less close. like friends who i was real close with in the past turned out to be just friends for the year since we were in the same teams. some of the friends stuck, but those were only the ones that i saw pretty often, like people living in my neighborhood, in my classes, or that i talk to on aim. how can i remain close with my other friends after a new schoolyear starts and god forbid we're in different classes? i mean my friends from my neighborhood are okay.. but i dont think i'll ever find a best friend that lives near me or even a best friend at all. so then like people you've known from some years before.. its like you never even knew them since people change and you havent seen them in a bit. -sigh- i've only had good friends sometimes. it makes me sad that like everyone else have people they can call best friends. im the type of person who likes belonging to a clique, that has other friends too, but like the people in the clique and some others are my bests. maybe i just need to hang out around them more?
but i have this friend whos in like all my classes, and i've known her since last year. i thought she'd be pretty cool but she ended up being like.. 1/2 the time she was tired and whenever i wanted to talk like during spare time at school she thought what i was talking about was weird, stupid, or she acted like she didnt care like if i had a problem. then she'd have a problem and tell me and she wouldnt ask but i'd help her because..well im giving like that. and now she sits at a diff table in literacy with a girl she told me she didnt even like! ugh! its becoming kinda annoying now.. before i thought she could become my bestie but i guess not.. its like i cant fully be myself around her or completely enjoy it, since i like to have fun and be crazy and stuff but shes usually pretty reserved and said herself she doesnt have like any friends at all. i dont like that... i mean i dont care if she has no friends or a billion but i want her to atleast seem like she WANTS to be friends with me. cause in literacy where we sit together, we got to choose seats and im not really that good friends with anyone else in the class.. well some people, but i dont just wanna barge to their table and be like " can i sit here " when i havent talked to them that much. except for one girl there.. i'll ask her to sit with me tomorrow. and my friend from before just left the table without telling me.. i was actually concerned, thinking she was sick or something. i was pissed and asked her where she was and said she was sitting with ashlee. and its not just her who does that. i have some friends in my neighborhood who are like indian and muslims. im african. at times i feel like they understand each other better because they kinda live life the same ways.. and i dont really since im not their religions and such. sometimes i feel kinda left out because.. i dunno.. like sometimes they'd exclude me, like today. one of the girls was mad at something and was crying.. and i didnt know what happened because i dont sit with them on the bus (but i've known them since i was in like 2nd grade and we've walked back from school together since then too) and the girl who was crying didnt want me to know. things like that happen all the time and sometimes it feels like im changing myself so they wont be like "none of your business" or something.. and..... just other things too. i miss gym so much. i hung out with 4 girls there that i luvved to death but now i have stupid health. having so much fun in gym often made me feel better if i had a crappy day.. but now i have health and i have made other good friends there too.. so i like health as well. um i dont know how to summarize this.. but like generally how can i make a best friend from my current friends or a new friend who i'll totally looove and she'll love me back!
hehe sorry this was long.
you loose friends, but you gain freinds. When makign friends, become close to the ones who you have most in common with and talk to outside of school. one of my freinds was told by someone else that they arejust school friends, (she always tells me stories of how the girl never invites her over or is always busy). So beware of girls that are "jsut school friends"
take your time finding a best friend. you might think you fouind one but you really havent. i can relate to most of your bottom paragraph...essay...novel. lol. i have a few friends who will ramble about themselves and there pointless stories and ask for countless umbers of advice, but when i talk they sometimes dont care or if the storie is out of the norm, they call me messed up, weird, or a freak. and im like your supposed to be my friend. But i started to fight back latley. ive gotten so much crap for not being fake or like everyone else. whenever a friend or an aqquantaince calls me a weirdo or a freak or is meanly-sarcastic after i say something, i say shut up. dont even start with me today. your the freak. stop calling people freaks. so dont let someone diss you like that
also its soo annoying when people say shxt about someone or says they hate them, then goes and becomes there bff or acts like they love them. If someone else of your friends says they dont really like someone and then acts like there bestfriend or becomes there bestfriend in a short amount of time (like a week, day, month) then they have a fake personality,. you can tell right off the bat with most people if they are fake or real. dont become best freinds with someone like that either
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this summer.. i decided that i need to change ok first off my attitude is really bad.. at like school and at home with my parents like for example im always talking back.. and at school i always over react to things.. and also im really immature.. so i was wondering how do i change my attitude and become mature? like poeple think im immature because whenevr i talk i don't make sense and i tend to say things without thinking.. and i feel weird and thats why alot of people at my school don't like me... so how should i change all that? help please...
im a pro. at changing over a summer, i went from 8th grade "emo" hating everything, to 'prep' over the summer
acting responsible and not betraying trust is the only way...make routines so your parents dont have to tell you to brush your teeth and etc. Also, at school, find friends who except you for you, and if you cant, just act quiet and focus on school, but always smile and act nice. People wont be turned off if you arent acting immature or obnoxious.
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hey, i saw you make myspace layouts and can coordinate colors well........WHAT colors should i do my room? i cannot decide. i want it all to scheme together1
go to colorschemer.com
and if i spelt that wrong, then google search color schemer
and find online schemer. and use that. it will scheme it for you
hope i helped!
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Well i Only get a dollar each month for Allowence and I have Like NO Cloths none.also my mom cant afford to give a lot of money for me to go shopping and my dad doesnt have any money. i dont want All the other kids to think im a weirdo and i want everone to like me and to fit in with Cute clothing. what should i do.??=/
Your best Friend forever,
Kylie Morratory
first off, i hope you really did not put youR REal name. anyways. i think its time to get a job. i hope your 14+ but if you4r not babysit, paperroute, or dog walker...also shopping at a thrift store or a use clothing store, or whatever they are called, work. Nobody will know, and when people donate clothing, sometimes they donate exzpensive brands that couldnt fit them and couldnt find a way to sell them, so they donated them. some stores that are donated clothing, you buy by the pound...some places are 1 dollar per pound. so ..Anyways, after you get a job, and save, you can buy some great cute clothing from Stores like forever 21 and other non - expensive clothing.
good luck.
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ive been friends with this girl for like 3 years..shes really bossy to me and all my friends. like if we say something she doesnt agree with shell say something like are you friggen retarded? or your so stupid. but she says these things like constantly. and alot of the times when we say something shell like slap our arms or something and shes a big girl and were all pretty small and it hurts and if we tell her to stop it hurts she just say oo boo hoo. she told me once i treat her like shit because i leave her out of the crowd and i wanted to say mabye if you were nicer i wouldnt but i knew if i said that she would get mad. how do i deal with something like this. me and my friends are tired of this.
you deffinitly dont need her. If she continues this, tell her straight up "we treat you bad, maybe because you basically harass and assault us." because basically if someone hurts you physically on purpose, its assault..even if you are 'freinds'. she hits you, its assault. and calling anyone names is harrassment. and then maybe you could say "if you change your additude and how you act towards people, maybe they would want to be around you and include you.."
it might sound mean but if you dont do it, no one will, and she will continue to walk all over you guys.
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um well i think i'm too old to be handing out valentine cards but my parents bought me a pack and I don't think they'd get a refund..
do i give it to all the girls in my class or just my friends? there's many people i hate but some girls might get sad because they didnt' get one but i'm really forgetful sometimes and there's this girl that always hang in my group and she's everyone's friend but me because i don't like her so if i don't give her one she'll freakin spaz and screamed it to everyone cuz she's a spaz mouth so should i give one to her? for me, giving a valentine is like giving a ring, i must like that person cuz even though the cards are cheap i'm not wasting paper!..it just feels akward handing out valentines
do you have any really young neighbors, give them to them. Also, if you know any underprivlaged childeren, give them to them, they will be happy with anything
but if not, give them to your best freinds, only, but get those little tissue paper mini bags they give out on halloween, but ones for valentines day, and stuff them pack with candy. They might not care for the valentine, but they will love the candy =]
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alright, so every saturday a group of kids goes over this one girls house. It seems like they have a blast everytime they go, and it seems to be all they talk about.
I know the girl who hosts this little gettogether, and we're friends and stuff. But not really "friends" just "hi ____" "___ i love you!" |[around here we use iloveyou with our friends alot if you havent noticed]| It's like that with most of the people that are there too.
I really want to get invited, and be friends with them. But I just don't know how? =/
talk to her more. seem open and friendly. nobody wants to invite someone who they will think will mope around or ruin the party in any way.
Compliment her alot, and be really nice to her whenever you talk to her. aslo. if you have to suck up to be invited to a 'cool' party, then its not worth it.
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Well you see, this girl at my high school knowns this boy who was making fun of me , since then she has been making fun of me. Friday and Today she made nasty comments at me and I responded and really cursed but really I was very offended. I don't get it why people keep on making fun of me for no reason and I want her to just stop. The worse part is , she is like 3 years younger than me and I do not want to seem like a loser to tell on her and she is the sister of one of my friends AND I don't want my parents to know what is going on. What should I do to get her to stop breaking my heart?
Tell your freind that her sisters rude. and maybe she will either tell her sister to stop or she will tell her parents that her sister is being a jerk. dont say something like 'omgsh ur sisters soo mean. shes making fun of me' because, well not to be SO blunt but, you would sound lame in that aspect
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I don't know if I can cum. 13/f
Anyway, mmmm well...ok so i've been having this white stuff randomly come out of my pussy for years since i was like....9 or 10! i did get my period already if that helps.
and the weird thing is whenever i masturbate i dont have the white stuff come out. what is that weird white stuff anyway???
do i just cum randomly?
what is it and how do i cum, im so confused!!
thanks in advance
....you arent a guy. you dont cum. its discharge. it means your period's coming soon...
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I've been dating this guy for 3 months. The first day I met him, I already knew he just broke up with his ex. I don't think I was that interested in the beginning, but he somehow grows on me.
The other night, he was in a bad mood and all the sudden telling he's not over the ex yet. I think back to my head, I knew that the whole time when we are dating. (come on, who can honestly to say they get over the ex in a month?) However, my feeling still hurts, hurts even more than I thought would be.
I want to tell him how I feel, but if I did, I know I would never talk to him again. This will be over. (which I don't want to.......)
What should I do?
I would tell him how you feel regarding him loving his Ex still. it isnt fair for you to be lead on by him. You might be thinking that the relationship is going to go far but he might think that hes just with you to cope with the pain. He might not get over her for a while, and you dont have to deal with him. He is obviously not over her, and you cant love someone else and still be in a relationship, because as your relationship progresses,maybe for a year, what if he still lovesher and she wants to get back with him, he might end things with you to get back with her. that would be harder to do then breaking it off now. Stay freinds with him and maybe one day, he might like you more than his ex..
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Ok when I'm mad I say OH MY GOD or JESUS CHRIST or when I'm surprised or something and people always say, don't say that! Is it because they hate God or something else?
no, its not. Its the total polar opposite. They think it disrespects god or something...but you know what, you arent alone. i say oh my god and jesus christ all the time.
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okay so i have had a period for a little over a year now and ive only had 4 or 5 periods.im on it now and the last time i had one was augest. it runs in my family for this to happen but its never been this bad for my mom or grandma. my periods get REALLY REALLY heavy i mean i have to change every hour to HALF hour!!! its crazy and my cramps are really bad too. i usually dont get periods for about 3-5 months. and when i do get them there really bad. my mom doesnt really have the money to take me to a doctor but shes going to hopefully sometime this week but i was just wondering why am i like this? i know its not THAT unusual for people. what can i do?
sometimes how much you eat and how much coffee you drink and also the amount of sports you play.
if you eat less food, they dont come alot, because when i was anorexic, they came like every 4 months...and coffee will stunt your growth which will have them come less and less
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I am a high school freshman, female, 14yrs old. I recenetly decided to take summer school classes and cram my senior year of high school into my junior year, so I will only have three years of high school instead of the usual four. Do you think this is a bad idea? I mean, I will never be a senior (no senior prom, which I can live without) and everyone says high school is the best part of anyone's life but i really do not like my high school and how do I know I will like college better? Do you think this is a bad idea? Thanks in advance...
well there is 2 sides to it. i think you should still wait it out and dont make any decisions that you will regret for the rest of your life, and maybe wreck your whole future. but i mean if you have a hole life plan, than sure.
It hard to say, i dont know what you hate about highschool, but im a freshman too, i love high school, but not the school its self, its a $hit hole and everyone is basically fake and lies. but you know, your way to young to decide that you dont want to become a senior. also, juniors can also go to prom i believe...my sister did, but she had a senior boyfriend, so i donno
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I was just watching the new episode of the hills and heidi gives spencer a second chance to proove himself and to build a trust. shes been going out with him for more than a few months..well
ive been going with my boyfriend for 5 months and hes been flirting with my ex best friend (from middle school) for about 2 months and me and her just became friends again, so she decided to tell me that hes a scum bag. so then i caught him flirting with this girl in school whos know for being 'easy'. and he denies he said anything sexual, but she even told me he was saying that he wants to see her on girls gone wild and for her to strip for him. I really really love him, but watching the hills made me see me and heidi are in the same prediciment, *except her boyfriend you can tell is a scumbag, my boyfriend is really nice...* but she gave him a second chance, but i want to know, should i give him a second chance. we've been not together for 2 weeks, and he really wants to get back with me, espiecally before feb. vacation...Should i give him another chance, or should i go on and find another boyfriend, maybe not as nice or cute, but one that doesnt flirt with others...I'm sooo confused!
deff. dont stay with him. he will break your heart. hes done it once, what will stop him from doing it again. I watch the hills, and i HATE spencer, hate him... getting back together with him was the worst mistake, so if you want to look foolish like she does,than fine do it, but if you want to make a good decision, than dump him...
my theory: 1 person says hes a cheater/scumbag than he might be, a little yellow warning flag. 2 people do, than thats a red flag, dont get with him anymore. Probably his ex girlfriends would say the same.
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okay so there are these 2 boys. They are best friends and they both like me, and i like them both too. but i don't no what to do? which one do i choose? one of them is soo sweet and everything but the other one kind of has that "bad boy" ish ..something about him and the way he flirts..
i don't no what to do, but like ughh this is really confusing.please help
'bad boys' are called bad boys because they break girls hearts, badly. get to know both of them first though, the 'bad boy' might really just have the image but not the personality. Ask the right questions..besides, i dont think you you wanna be writing an advice question on this site a week later saying a guy broke your heart and you regret dating him and not dating his freind...
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