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friends putting me down?
im 13/f, 7th grade. i mean, i have alot of friends, but some of them i hardly even see anymore, so then we kinda become less close. like friends who i was real close with in the past turned out to be just friends for the year since we were in the same teams. some of the friends stuck, but those were only the ones that i saw pretty often, like people living in my neighborhood, in my classes, or that i talk to on aim. how can i remain close with my other friends after a new schoolyear starts and god forbid we're in different classes? i mean my friends from my neighborhood are okay.. but i dont think i'll ever find a best friend that lives near me or even a best friend at all. so then like people you've known from some years before.. its like you never even knew them since people change and you havent seen them in a bit. -sigh- i've only had good friends sometimes. it makes me sad that like everyone else have people they can call best friends. im the type of person who likes belonging to a clique, that has other friends too, but like the people in the clique and some others are my bests. maybe i just need to hang out around them more?
but i have this friend whos in like all my classes, and i've known her since last year. i thought she'd be pretty cool but she ended up being like.. 1/2 the time she was tired and whenever i wanted to talk like during spare time at school she thought what i was talking about was weird, stupid, or she acted like she didnt care like if i had a problem. then she'd have a problem and tell me and she wouldnt ask but i'd help her because..well im giving like that. and now she sits at a diff table in literacy with a girl she told me she didnt even like! ugh! its becoming kinda annoying now.. before i thought she could become my bestie but i guess not.. its like i cant fully be myself around her or completely enjoy it, since i like to have fun and be crazy and stuff but shes usually pretty reserved and said herself she doesnt have like any friends at all. i dont like that... i mean i dont care if she has no friends or a billion but i want her to atleast seem like she WANTS to be friends with me. cause in literacy where we sit together, we got to choose seats and im not really that good friends with anyone else in the class.. well some people, but i dont just wanna barge to their table and be like " can i sit here " when i havent talked to them that much. except for one girl there.. i'll ask her to sit with me tomorrow. and my friend from before just left the table without telling me.. i was actually concerned, thinking she was sick or something. i was pissed and asked her where she was and said she was sitting with ashlee. and its not just her who does that. i have some friends in my neighborhood who are like indian and muslims. im african. at times i feel like they understand each other better because they kinda live life the same ways.. and i dont really since im not their religions and such. sometimes i feel kinda left out because.. i dunno.. like sometimes they'd exclude me, like today. one of the girls was mad at something and was crying.. and i didnt know what happened because i dont sit with them on the bus (but i've known them since i was in like 2nd grade and we've walked back from school together since then too) and the girl who was crying didnt want me to know. things like that happen all the time and sometimes it feels like im changing myself so they wont be like "none of your business" or something.. and..... just other things too. i miss gym so much. i hung out with 4 girls there that i luvved to death but now i have stupid health. having so much fun in gym often made me feel better if i had a crappy day.. but now i have health and i have made other good friends there too.. so i like health as well. um i dont know how to summarize this.. but like generally how can i make a best friend from my current friends or a new friend who i'll totally looove and she'll love me back!
hehe sorry this was long.
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you loose friends, but you gain freinds. When makign friends, become close to the ones who you have most in common with and talk to outside of school. one of my freinds was told by someone else that they arejust school friends, (she always tells me stories of how the girl never invites her over or is always busy). So beware of girls that are "jsut school friends"
take your time finding a best friend. you might think you fouind one but you really havent. i can relate to most of your bottom paragraph...essay...novel. lol. i have a few friends who will ramble about themselves and there pointless stories and ask for countless umbers of advice, but when i talk they sometimes dont care or if the storie is out of the norm, they call me messed up, weird, or a freak. and im like your supposed to be my friend. But i started to fight back latley. ive gotten so much crap for not being fake or like everyone else. whenever a friend or an aqquantaince calls me a weirdo or a freak or is meanly-sarcastic after i say something, i say shut up. dont even start with me today. your the freak. stop calling people freaks. so dont let someone diss you like that
also its soo annoying when people say shxt about someone or says they hate them, then goes and becomes there bff or acts like they love them. If someone else of your friends says they dont really like someone and then acts like there bestfriend or becomes there bestfriend in a short amount of time (like a week, day, month) then they have a fake personality,. you can tell right off the bat with most people if they are fake or real. dont become best freinds with someone like that either
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First of all everyone gains and loses a friend everyday. Whether it's a bestfriend or just a close aquaintance, we all lose friends. If you really think about it we gain someone new in our lives each time we lose someone. Understand I've been in your shoes and now as a grown woman I realize alot of my friends and I grew apart not because of any personal reasons but because we got older and alot of our common interests changed. To this day I miss alot of my childhood friends (there were so many) and wish I could see them or just talk to them one time it would mean alot ya know. Well maybe you are having a hard time understanding now but trust me you will be meeting people everyday of your life if you put yourself out there. Hey by the way you like to be in the in crowd Right? So how about this come up with your own crowd by creating and recruiting people to wanna be down with you and that my dear will prove that real friendship is there for you but first you have to understand sometimes we have to be our own bestfriend first. hope I helped :^)
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