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one of my friends is a lesbian(and she's a girl)...

Question Posted Monday January 15 2007, 12:47 pm

Ok one of my friends are gay. let's call her tina. at first everyone thought tina was gay/lesbian whatever, because of the way she dressed.(she wore her clothes a LITTLE loose and somtimes she wore a lot of things that boys would wear) but she denied that she was a lesbian, so everyone backed off. but then everyone noticed that she was being a little too friendly with two girls. let's call them ciara and brittany. somehow people just started the rumor that tina was a lesbian again, and this time she didn't deny it. then tina ended up going out with brittany and they just broke up. the details are a bit too long, so i'll just get to the point. i was over tina's house after she broke up with brittany, because i still wanted to be her friend even though her sexual orientation had changed. when i was over there, she was askin me should she go back out with brittany and she let me listen to the message that brittany left on her answering machine. they both wanted to get back with each other, and were saying that they loved each other. well, ask you can probably already tell, i feel a little uncofortable with this who situation. any ideas on ways i can feel a little more comfortable with this would be great!!!

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mycalina answered Monday January 15 2007, 9:45 pm:
being bi or les doesn't change anything. only homophobic people(which it sounds like the kids at your school are) really care.
Your friend is the same person she was before, and it shouldn't change your friendship at all.
If you really want to feel better about it, just being around it more should help calm down your gaydar to the point where you aren't freaking out.

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MelLeDisko answered Monday January 15 2007, 6:24 pm:
I know you may find it weird or uncomfortable, but realize how hard this must be for her, for one. Alot of people aren't as accepting to homosexuals so she may get teased and such and really might need you to be there for her, and she'll need someone to talk to about stuff.

I have alot of bisexual friends and such and whenever they start talking to me about things like that, if I REALLY start feeling uncomfortable, I just pretend it's her talking about, her boyfriend or something, or I just pus the fact out of the way that's it's another person of the same gender.

Just try and do your best and be there for her as much as you can.

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ductape_n_roses answered Monday January 15 2007, 4:29 pm:
ON the fact that your friend is a lesbian?
I have 3 gay guy too many bi friends. and 2 lesbian friends and I myself am bi. Haha, i know, disfunctional family XD

Haha, she's your friend and she won't do anything to jepordize it right now. She just came out (or either as bisexual) and she's probably going through a pretty harsh time right now if your school is filled with homophobes like mine. Anyways, just be there for her because it would suck to lose a friend or have them be distant from you just because they weren't comfortable with you being les/bi. She seriously won't jepordize things though. You guys are friends and she doesn't want to lose you by making a move on you and everything. Just accept that oyu have a lesbian friend and she knows you're straight so no worries. I know that I would never consider liking or going out with any straight girl friends that I have

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