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hook up problem. oh great!
last night i hooked up with my friends crush. the thing is, i didnt know she liked him! she was always talking about this other guy she liked. well i think she got really jealous and upset and i havent talked to her about it since. but i know i should. what should i say to her and she i talk to her face to face, online, through a note, or what???
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i myself havent been in this situation but if i were i would probably talk to her face to face but if u dont think thats such a great idea id go with the note..write her a letter explaining how you didnt know she liked him and if you going out with him is going to be a problem be straight up with her tell her that you didnt mean to hurt her. make her understand
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Well the best way to talk to someone ( and show repsect ) is to do it face-to-face, but if you feel you cant' do it, then do it the way you feel most comfortable.
I would just be like,"____, I'm so incredibly sorry. I know "sorry" probably won't make it for what I did, but I just want you to know that I truely am and I wish I had never done anything with him, I majorly regret it. I honestly didn't know you liked him, otherwise I never would've done anything. I assumed you liked ____, because you've always talked about him. Even though I know this is no excuse because I really hurt your feelings and everything and I understand you're mad at me, but please consider starting over, please? Like I said before, I'm really sorry and I didn't mean to do anything purposely to hurt you, and I never would." ( or something like that ; just try and take some parts i've written maybe and make it your own words adn feelings ).
And then just let her read it and give her time to think about it. Don't try taklign to her, cause that'll just annoy her. Let her sit down and really think about wether she's ready to forgive you or not and see if she talks to you. If she tells you she cant' forgive you yet, let her know you understand, and you really hope someday soon she can, and that she'll want to talk and be friends.
But I'm sure she'll realize it was all a mistake, and one huge regret and you're really sorry because it's not like you purposely meant to hook up with the guy she liked ; you didn't even know she liked him. It was all one huge mistake and misunderstanding.
I hope I helped.
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