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hi my name is Becky. i am 14 years old. I have gone through some rough times myself and I hope I can help anyone that might need it. If you're looking for a straight up answer or just someone to listen to you, i'll be here. :)

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this is really silly i know but how do you know when you "came" during sex or masturbation?

You know when you "came" or orgasmed when the muscles of your vagina contract uncontrollably like a pulsing sensation.

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hi

i need some advice on a matter.

ok last year i was very unhappy in my relationship, therefore i sort comfort in other places. i never slept with anyone else but another guy who i was friends with before i met my current boyfriend sent me flowers saying i deserved better and stuff like that.. there were 2 guys and the other we were close but never kissed or anything as well.. just after our 1 year we broke up for a few weeks, then we got bak together and we both had changed as persons. he was much more considerate and nice and i am much more stronger. i told him that i did seek comfort in other places and he understood and was sorry. i didnt tell him everything that happened just that i was unhappy, yet i still feel guilty for leading the other guys on and now that our relationship is perfect i need to forgive myself, i no it was stupid to talk to a guy that says i deserve better because it made my relationship very confusing esp because i was unhappy but i dont talk to them anymore at all.. we are happy again and yet it still bugs me that i spoke to other guys.. should i still be feeling this way even tho it was 6 months ago and i didnt 'cheat'? someone please help me

Dont think about it so hard. you were going through a rough time and you only needed someone there for comfort. but now that you have your man back you can forget about the other guys. tell them that you didnt like them that much and just be honest with them. tell it like it is. but just forget about the other guys and live your life with your boyfriend. dont worry about it.

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14/f
to say it straight, i got fingered and gave the boy a handjob in return. and my friend told this kid and he told everyone. alot of people hate me now, and all this shit is going around. i just kind of shrug it off and i'm like Shit Happens. haha, i know i shouldn't have ... i regret it alot but even his cousin who is in my sisters grade foudn out! she told me to "stay the fuck away from her cousin" and i'm not worried about my sister finding out cause i told her haha. but i just don't know what to do i feel so bad, like i want to kill myself. i'm already in counseling for feeling like this. i just don't know what to do. and how to handle this. please help D:

The same exact thing happened to me. Dont feel bad about it and dont regret it. it's a normal thing. and the people in your grade need to grow up and get a life. They're probably all horny and jealous because they havent gotten the chance to do that yet. ha. it'll be old news in a few days or weeks. trust me. thats exactly how it was at my school. ah and by the way. im 14/f and if you ever have a problem like this again you can talk to me. i'm pretty sure i've been through it all. any more questions?? you know where to find me. :)

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me and my boyfriend are both religious, and both wanted to remain abstinent

however

we got into fondling alot, and we just had sex a few weeks ago

we didnt use a condom first time, but he wanks alot, and pulled out, but we did do it about 5 times already...

i dont know what to do

i told my friends and they are so imature about it like ''oh my god you slut!" (which i am NOT!) and saying go to tell ur mom

i love my bf, and plan to be with him always, but i dont know what to do

my bf is older than me, and my mom dont know im seeing anyone, in fact, she thinks im lesbien? :S

anyway,

i dont know what to do, my bf asked me to marry him already, and we going to get engaged, and he wants to ask my parents also, then get married next year.

he said if i got pregnant he wants to keep it, however, i have a further complication


my mom's friend's daughter just got pregnant and is due in a few weeks

my mom told me all the pain and stress they all went through, and how devastated they were, and she said to me firmly not to do it

she is also against me marrying

i always wanted to have a baby and get married,

but i wanted to go to university first

i dont know what to do, someone help! im just confused...

if i keep baby, then it will be 'iligitemate', and my bf/ fiance/ future husband's culture would ridicule it or something...


someone pls advise me on anything to do, should i go to gp or buy home pregnancy kit or talk to my councillor or someone at school or something? i dont want to tell my mom..

:(


i want to marry and to have a baby, and my bf said to me it would be loved, and his family would look after me and the baby, and he would take care of me no matter what happens, and he said he doesnt want to kill any baby (meaning he doesnt want me to abort it) and i am scared.. cause i dont know waht to do

well i think you should do whatever you want. dont disobay your parents but let them know how you feel about the situation and marry the guy. it seems to me that you two are in love and want to be together no matter what. if thats what you want. and about the baby thing. if you are pregnant, be open with your mother and let her know that you are ready and able for what your future holds. including the baby.

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Hi, I'm Jacky.
My life has been rough, because of me.
It got better, until I did stupid things, and now I feel like there's nothing else I can do to make it better, I just mess up more and more. The more I mess up, the more I look like a dumb ass.
First, I have a friend over and I sneak two guys downstairs at 11 at night, and my dad's caught us.
So, my dad and mom have absolutely no trust in me, what so ever. I actually think my family hates me, because I don't listen, and I do things I'm not supposed. I've been doing that, for the past years. Plus they found out I tried pot and I'm sexually active. So that's a huge minus. I get in huge fights with my parents, mostly with my dad. I feel like I just failed my family, honestly. I don't know how to talk or act around them anymore. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward.
And then, I reported this kid for selling drugs, which he sold them to me, and I told a teacher at school about it, and she ended up telling the principal on me, I thought I could trust her. Then I had to rat him out because of what I told my teacher, then I have to go to all this court shit and be a witness, which I don't really want to be. I wish this would've never happened, this kid is going to have a fucked up life with my involvement. What the fuck is wrong with me. It's all my fault. And I can't take it back. But that's my fault.
And 3rd, I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy. I couldn't stand my boyfriend, he's attracted to assholes, shit, and farts. And I'm being honest. He hits me. He's just a jackass. But he knows how to cover himself to make people believe him. But honestly, he was a huge part of my life. And now that's gone. But now I'm with the other guy, who hardly calls me, he says he thinks it's best because he doesn't want us to get too attached and end up being bored with each other. Now, I love talking on the phone, and really like him, but I don't know. I just think there's something wrong with me. I honestly think I'm hated by a lot of people. I do not know what to do with my life anymore. I'm really scared and stuck. I've cheated and lied before. And I've just been a bad person lately.
I wish I could've handled things differently. But, I didn't. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I've fucked up my life. I think a lot of people hate me too. But that's besides the point.
Please anybody, give me advice. I don't know how to start know, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore.
Thank you.

babe, I've been through the same sort of things. I've lied and been a horrible person. I've done drugs. almost got raped when i was drunk. i fight with my parents, and i never tell them anything. I think you should try to start over. clean your slate and start fresh. Tell your parents how sorry you are for what you've done and tel your ex boyfriend how you feel. stand up to him. thats what i had to do and it felt GREAT. show your current boyfriend how much you like him and tell him that you want to talk to him all the time because you just love/like him. if he loves/likes you as much as you love/like him then he will want to talk to you alot too.

Also... I always felt like i screwed everything up too. but it's just a way of learning. if you never made any mistakes then you wouldnt know how to deal. thats just the way life is. but if you clean up after your mistakes then things will get better. :) hope i helped. if not, then sorry. :/

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I'm a worthless human being. I've been a worthless human being for a pretty long time, but I've just now come to accept it.

I've decided I want to die. However, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it. Perhaps it's the thought of pain, maybe it's the risk of failing at failing.

In any case, whatever some (Relatively) painless and (Relatively) reliable suicide methods, preferabley accessable to the common 20-something who doesn't work in a hospital?

I know you probably dont want to hear this, but dont kill yourself. god put you on this earth for a reson. If you were worthless then you wouldnt be here. Make something of your life. There is no reason for suicide. trust me. I've been through it.

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Sorry if this is the wrong category but I need help. Most of the time, when I'm hot, or if I feel sweaty, I get sweat stains under my arms on my shirt. And I just feel sooo embarrassed and I don't want anyone to see it. Sometimes, I wear my jacket to cover it up, and it sucks... I hate it, cause it kinda happens a lot. I hate the feeling of having sweat stains, and that people might see it and think "ew." What can I do? I don't wanna go to the doctor or anything. Is there anything I can buy, or anything that might help that I could do at home? Anything healthy.... It would help a lot. Then I would be confident in the shirts that I wear! I also wouldn't have to worry! THANKS!

t worry. I have the same problem. I asked my doctor about it and she perscribed a liquid medication that you just have to dab under your arms every night before you go to bed. It helps ALOT. trust me. i feel so much more confident with myself now.

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ok so i have this friend her name is lizsandra. her recent boyfriend dumped her and he didnt tell her why he just said he wanted to be friends with her.so today at school she was in the girls bathroom making she was making herself through up and shes thinking of commmiting susicide what advice should i give her?

Oh jeez. i've been through this before. SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER! remind her of how loved she is. let her know that things are only temporary. they WILL get better. show her how much you care about her and how much everyone else cares. remind her of her family and how devistated they would be if they ever lost her. just show her how much better her life will be in the futer. tell her what she has to look forward to... (getting married, having kids, ect.) all the fun things in life.

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im 14.and ive been with my boyfriend for about a year&& 4 months.when we have sex he just pulls out.we havent been using protection for about 7months.i really dont like the sex with condoms.should i start using protection.do you think its safe?

I would definatly use protection every time you have sex, especially at your age. you dont want to run the risk of getting pregnant.

even if you dont like it as much with a condom, it is still better than living with a baby inside of you for nine months while your parents lecture you everyday about how to take care of it. and they are a BIG responsibility. Do you want that? hopefully not. someday maybe.

just be safe... whatever you do. :)

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what is nair or nare or something everyoen says to use it for waxing or something over the bikini line. where is it and where can i get it

nair is a hair removal lotion you just have to spread it on the area you want the hair to disapper and let it sit but not for too long. it will start to leave and irritation spot. you can find it in the grocery store and mostly everywhere: local drug store, walmart, places like that

hopw i helped
~beacky~

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if you have an irregular period do you still like develop and stuff?

yes, you will develop normaly but haveing an irregular period is caused by your hormones. after a while your period will become more regular and you will become more aware o when it will start and end.
hope i helped
Beacky ♥

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14/f
Ok well yesterday I got the courage to ask my mom if I could use tampons instead of pads, cuz well I play volleyball and so she said yeah i could, so we bought the Playtex Sport Tampons Regular.
Is that a good brand to start off with?
Well anyways, I think i got the main idea of how to put a tampon in... so correct me if i'm wrong

first you put the first part into the vagina, and then push in the second part inside of the first part, then take out the first/second part (they are inside of each other) and the string should be coming out of your body.

is that correct? tell me if thats wrong and how to do it.

Also another question is... (might be really stupid) Where do you put the tampon in?

like I know theres the butt hole where you poop, and then theres like a flab of skin where the pee comes out... but where do you put the tampon in?
like i can't bend down and see the hole, so how do i know if i'm putting the tampon in the right spot? I read the directions and they say i have to insert it 45 degrees angle, so how would it look like? Like would the back of the tampon be closer to your front? or back?

IDK i'm so confused... I had the courage to ask my mom if i could use tampons.. but I am REALLY uncomfortable to ask her how. and like ask her to show me.
plz help me!!!
thanks soo much!

Oh and how long are you supposed to keep tampons in maximum? 8 hours is ok??

i have heard that the playtex sport tampons arent as good as they are advertised. you have the way of putting it in correct but you have to make sure the applicator is in until the edge of the finger grip (on the end of the outer tube) is right at the opening of the vagina. to tell you the truth there is only one hole the tampon can fit in. your pee comes out of the urethra, a different part than your vagina. the back of the tampon would be closer to the front and the front of the tampon which is the round end would be towards your back. the longest you can keep a tampon in is 8 hours. if you leave it in longer than that you can get TSS or Toxic Shock Syndrome.

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well ok, where BEST FRIENDS, hee says we have a connectiion, and that im the only girl he can tlk to about anything. and shit. and he cares about me alot. but hes IN LOVE with this other girl. and like, she has a boiifriend. but she says shes gonna dump him for mii best friend. but now he likes mii friiend. we wiill call her R. and R likes hiim. but i dont want him and R to go out. bc i really love him.and he tells her tht he doesn't like me like tht, bc its striictly friend shiip, but hes the only guy i wanna be with. and i really love him. can you help me please!

i think you shuold come out and say that you love him. if he thinks your weird after that you should know that he's not a true friend. but if you dont want to do all of that you should let them go out and just see how it goes. if they break up you then could come out and say you love him.

hopoe i helped
Beacky ♥

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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.

you should try to get counseling and this could help you you need to know that life is a precious thing no matter how you live it you should want to get more out of your life and try ur hardest to overcome this i hop you can cope

hope i helped
Beacky ♥

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ok i have a bump on my boob is it bad should is a docter i had it for 2 years

you should get the bump checked out by your doctor and see if there is anything wrong i hope everything goes good for you but breast cancer or something doesnt ususlly develop in young teens it can occur in your thirtys and sometimes twentys

hope i helped
Beacky ♥

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okay, well first off i shave down there and it gets irritated very easily, is there any other methods i can do rather than shaving?
i wanna try waxing but i would never be able to pull the strip off myself, so if i went to a salon or w.e-- would they do the whole downstairs?
or just the 'bikini' part, like the sides of thighs.

ive personally never been to a salon where they will wax the pubic area. if you continue to shave it you can put this lotion on after you shave. its called cuchy by slumerparty and its specialized for that delicate skin.

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Ok, my freind wanted me to ask what you guys think about masterbation. Is masterbation healthy, perverted or what? Why?

it really depends on the person. personally i think its healthy and not perverted. its a way to explore your body and get to know yourself better.

hope i helped ♥

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Hi, I'm having troubles with my BFF. Every time I make plans with my other friends, and then she calls and asks me if I can play. Then I say I already made Plans with (Friend). She gets all mad. Sometimes I have to lie to her! What should I do!

P.S Write as soon as possible because I already made plans with one of my friends, and she might call me later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:) :)

you can tell her u have plans with other friends and maybe invite her to go with you. but she also needs to understand that she isnt your only friend and that you can have more than her as a friend. hope i helped ♥

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Where can I find cool layouts and quizzes for my myspace?

you can find lots of myspace layouts from www.myprofilepimp.com

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tomorrow im getting acrillic nails. but how much does it usually cost?

around 20 to 25 dollers

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