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My best friend
Hi, I'm having troubles with my BFF. Every time I make plans with my other friends, and then she calls and asks me if I can play. Then I say I already made Plans with (Friend). She gets all mad. Sometimes I have to lie to her! What should I do!
P.S Write as soon as possible because I already made plans with one of my friends, and she might call me later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:) :)
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you can tell her u have plans with other friends and maybe invite her to go with you. but she also needs to understand that she isnt your only friend and that you can have more than her as a friend. hope i helped ♥
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Well then she is kinda being a party pooper so you should talk to her about how you have other friends and if she wants to hang out with you then sometimes she may need to try and get along with your your other ones. If you don't like the idea then try and have a friday or Saturday that on;y you and some mutual friends or just you 2 hang out. If she doesn't like your other friends, talk to her about her attitude and tell her you want to hang out with her AND your other BFFs!!!
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you say she is your BFF then wouldnt you want to hang out with her? She is probably getting a little mad/sad that you never want to hang out with her anymore. Try to make plans with her too. Or why dont all of your frinds hang out at once, then eveyone is happy.
Jess
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I had this happen before and i told her that she would have to get over it cuz i was going no matter what and tht i would hang out with her another weekend.And so yeah just if she gets tht bad just tell her that you need to spend time with the family it works..lol hope i helped.
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First off, you need to think back as to how often you do things with her. You may be leaving her out of your life and don't even realize it. If you are, you need to make time for her. If you are, you are hurting her feelings. She is your best friend and deserves your attention and your respect. Just as you deserve from her.
Second off, when you do hang out with your other friends, you need to reassure her that you aren't leaving her in the dust. You are not bound to have only one friend in this life, and neither is she. People make new friends- that's how life goes. But she is still the best friend you have. She is your BFF, she needs to know that and feel that way. Just as you would expect from her.
Third, don't lie to her. She is your best friend, which means you should be honest with her. Just as you want her to be honest with you.
Have you talked with her about this? I don't mean at school between classes, either. I mean really sat down and had a heart to heart conversation with her? If not, do so. Get everything out on the table. Find out why she feels the way she does. Share your feelings with her in return. She deserves your respect in that way, as you hers.
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I use to have a friend who was EXACTLY like that, in fact she was my best friend, she would get mad at me when I would want to hang out wiht my other frineds or boyfriend, she would always tell me im dictching her all the time or that I dident care about her, even though it was so not true. Eventually I woke up and realized she wasent really my friend at all, if she was going to get mad at me for wanting to hang with my other frineds, than she had no consideration for me..
You should tell your bff that you do have other friends besides her and wanting to hang out with them sometimes too is okay. If she dosent accept that, shes not your real friend..
Dont worry though!! everything will work out! She will either accept it and you guys will be fine, or she wont and you'll make a new bff that wont treat you like that.
♥ xo
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tell her i have plans already and if she has a problem with it then deal.
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Well,
if she's your BFF, wouldn't you somewhat put her first before your other "friend"? I mean, it seems kind of mean, the way i'm saying it. But it's true. If you are giving her that title, she is closer to you, than your other friend.
When she calls you, you could always invite her to come over and hang with your friend and you. That's what I would normally most do, but if she feels uncomfortable, I wouldn't push her coming. Some of my friends if they find out they were the last invited to come over, don't normally come, because they don't want to bother the fun i'm having with my friends. Yeah, I know it's weird, but some people are like that.
ORRRR.. you need to tell her you will hang with her next time you both are available to do something, and just promise her, that you will. And then let her pick something to do, and if she doesn't know, then you can say something. I wouldn't be too controling, especially if she's kind of mad at you right now. And if she doesn't say anything about inviting more friends or something to with you two...I wouldn't invite anyone, because there she is hinting that she just wants to hang with you. If other people came, then you and her might not be able to have one on one hanging out time.
Well I hoped I helped!
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