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Hello, my name is Kutt. I am 14 years of age, and I feel like giving advice to anyone who needs it. For, I have been given alot of advice, and for this knowledge, I want to pass it down. So, if you have anything to ask, ask me! Now, my other friend is sharing this account with me.
My Name is Savanna. I am simple, humble, and will not be as idiotic as my friend here to give out any personal info what so ever. But, I am willing to always help those in need. I am wise for my years, believe it or not, and have seen some things that no teens should see. I give sage advice, in fact, Kutt up there is one of my very first friends to whom I have given advice. I will probably not be as active as my dear old friend, but when I am on, I will help who ever I can.
Also, if you are going to im me on aim, I will only ask two questions at first,"Did you get my screen name from Advicenators and what is your question?" I do not need alot of people to im me just to talk. I DO have a life, and I can't spend it all day talking about stuff like ponys and video games.
Anyone, please visit www.freewebs.com/blarg_weeatyou, and if you would like to join. Please go ahead. When you join, you will mostly be on this, advicenators, because that's what our main rule is. Give advice to anyone who needs it, no matter who it is. So, take a look around, and if you are commited, and like what you see, please talk to us!
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okay there is this guy that told me he liked me first and then i said i liked him. we talked for a while and then summer came along. we havent seen eachother at all yet i and i want to before i leave for vacation in a week. I asked him to do something and he always just says i dont know. then when im talking to him online i feel like im annoying him becuase he doesnt really talk, but then again most guys dont. Then the other day i was on his myspace and i saw a comment from this girl and it was like yah so were gunna chill soon? and he commented her back and was lik yahh im free after sunday. and then i couldnt remember if i had told him i was going on vacation next week or not and thats why he said it. but i have been played over by like 5 guys already and really dont want it to happen again. soo how i can find out if he is or not? and how can i get him to hang out? im so confused about everythingg.
I'd straight out ask him. I'd ask him if it's really worth it to try to have something with him. Because what you've said now just sounds like he's messing with your heart. And I know you don't want to hear it. Even if he had time to hang after sunday, he would have mentioned something or other...
But really, don't get yourself so tangled up about him...Just ask him, I mean, if he still likes you it should be okay right? Wouldn't you want to know how he feels about you, so you don't feel like you're being lead on?
And if worse comes to worse, and he was just playing you, there are many other guys out there that will be perfect for you...Normally with liking a guy, you find out what you like about the guy while you try to get to know him...Then if you both do go into a relationship, you look for what you like in that relationship. If the relationship doesn't work, that's okay. You know then what you're looking for in a relationship, and you learn from all your previous experiences.
I know most of you dread the annoying
" I need a screen name question. "
And, I hate them too no doubt so I'll
make mine short and if you don't like
these questions, don't answer them.
What screen name do you like better?
xSTEP YA GAME UP
or
name here x3
I personally like the, xSTEP YA GAME UP, one.
I haven't heard that before, and it's really neat.
The second one, mostly everyone uses that, or has somewhat the same thing.
Hoped I helped!
:D
Anyone know some songs i could use to get my team "pumped up" ?
I would use some rythem beats. Find songs that have alot of rythem in them. That's what normally gets my team pumped.
Or, you can ask what your team likes and wants to hear. Then, you could make an assortment of music to play for them, that they all like. I would do that personally. And, if you don't have some of the songs that they like, ask if you can borrow their cds and burn them onto your computer, and then copy the songs onto a new disc.
I really hoped I helped!
:D
Hi, I'm having troubles with my BFF. Every time I make plans with my other friends, and then she calls and asks me if I can play. Then I say I already made Plans with (Friend). She gets all mad. Sometimes I have to lie to her! What should I do!
P.S Write as soon as possible because I already made plans with one of my friends, and she might call me later!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:) :)
Well,
if she's your BFF, wouldn't you somewhat put her first before your other "friend"? I mean, it seems kind of mean, the way i'm saying it. But it's true. If you are giving her that title, she is closer to you, than your other friend.
When she calls you, you could always invite her to come over and hang with your friend and you. That's what I would normally most do, but if she feels uncomfortable, I wouldn't push her coming. Some of my friends if they find out they were the last invited to come over, don't normally come, because they don't want to bother the fun i'm having with my friends. Yeah, I know it's weird, but some people are like that.
ORRRR.. you need to tell her you will hang with her next time you both are available to do something, and just promise her, that you will. And then let her pick something to do, and if she doesn't know, then you can say something. I wouldn't be too controling, especially if she's kind of mad at you right now. And if she doesn't say anything about inviting more friends or something to with you two...I wouldn't invite anyone, because there she is hinting that she just wants to hang with you. If other people came, then you and her might not be able to have one on one hanging out time.
Well I hoped I helped!
:D
so i like the song figure 9 from linkin park.
is there any site were you can put that song on ur myspace and it plays automaticly? (sorry i may spelled it wrong i dunno) cause i checked at myspace music but they don't have that song there.
or is there any way you can play a youtube video automaticly?
cause i really want that song on my myspace but it's important that it plays automatic when people go on my myspace
sry if this was confusing
thx
Try going to www.projectplaylist.com and if that doesn't work, change the .com to .org.
There, you can mostly probably find your song your looking for. They have alot, so hopefully they do have it. And, if you want, you can put other songs on your playlist too. When your done, all you have to do is look around and find the code that says "Get code for myspace!"...Something like that. There they will take you to your playlist, and ask what color you want, if you want it to start automatically, or if you want to shuffle. I use to use this and it was pretty cool and it did work.
But, on the side of it, if they have your song, you have to make sure it works. They have a little play button near each song, so you have to click that, and make sure it works. Then you just click the add button if it does.
And in the near future, if your song stops working, then you need to go back to your projectplaylist.com, and you might have to delete it, and find a new song.
Hope I helped!
:D
okay there are these two kids
who talk sooo much crap about me behind
my back and i don't do anything to them.
its making me really mad because these kids
used to be some of my closest friends, and they hang out with all the other people i hang out with. so everytime i'm with my other friends i have to deal with them being so rude to me.
i really don't know what to say to them or what to do, because i don't want to quit hanging out with my other friends because they don't like me for some reason. (dunno why)
so yeah, just need some advice about what to do about that.
thanks.
If your other friends don't like you for some reason, it is pretty obvious that they don't really treat you like a friend should be treated, you know what I mean.
Now, the two kids who talk about you behind your back, just ignore them. I was at a party couple days ago, and my neighbors who are teens started mocking at us, we just basically ignore them and told them to shut up. I use to be friends with those neighbors, but they talk so much stuff about me, I just really don't care what they Say.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never ever hurt me.
Now, if I was in your position, I would seriously start looking for better friends. If the friends you hang with, don't like you, then they aren't really considered friends, now are they? And, with the 2 munchkins that are being totally rude, just ignore them. They feed off of how much attention you give them. Believe me, if they still continue, someone will tell them to shut up. Or either, they will get bored, and just leave you alone. Now, if you see them around where you are at, don't run away, that will make them follow you and bother you, just stand your ground, and ignore them.
That's what I do, and it most of the time works.
:D
If you need anything else, just ask, and we both hope that we helped!
-Savanna&&Kutt
hey um i was wondering i asked another person for advice and she said i am having this thing called "discharge" going on. its like a clear goo thing that comes out near your butt. but its soooooooo annoying and i really hate it and it has been going on for more than like almost half a year. and i was wondering if you know about it or if you know how it started or how i can get it to stop. because i have really fun things in my life and it just ruins them. and it sucks. but i am asking you because you have given great advice and you are sooooo awesome and good at it. : ] :D and i wanted to thank you so much. you help sooo many people out including me. :D so please if you have answers...i need them im desperate. thanxx so much :D and if it helps i have gotten my period many times before this and i really dont want to talk to anybody about it. im not good at that stuff. thanx :D
everyone has discharge. when your period ends, you get discharge. It just shows that your period ended. I mean, if it happens every single day, then you might want to see a doctor. But, if it's before/after your period, you are fine. It's just a normal teenage thing. Or even, if your and adult, you can still have it.
:D
Hope I helped!
-Savanna&&Kutt
:]
Hey everyone.
I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.
Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.
I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.
My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.
Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.
Thanks in advance.
I am truly sorry, but I don't think I could give you any reasons of why you should continue that relationship. I can see where you're families concerns would come from. He is to old for you, and I am sorry to say that. At this point in life, he is. If you truly like him, and he truly likes you, tell him to wait a few years. Like, when you're 20 and hes 27... and then the age isnt THAT big of a deal. Thats what I would do. Hope I helped...
~Savanna
Ok, so my best friend is with her second boyfriend ever. The first one only lasted a couple weeks and it wasn't really serious. She has been with the one she's with now since December. Well, they are wicked, wicked serious about each other and I've come to accept that and even be happy for her because she's finally happy again. But this has kinda started to get too far. Her boyfriend asked her to marry him when they become of age and she pretty much said yes. I guess I'm kinda concerned that she's throwing her life away over her second boyfriend. But the major problem with me comes from the age. I'm only 14/f, she's same as me, and he's 15/m. It freaks out alotof our friends because true love at this age is so rare. Do I talk to her or just stay out of it? Am I just jealous?
No. You're not jealous. I honestly wouldn't say that, and I can see where your doubts come from. One of my current co-workers, who is now twenty, has been dating this guy since she was 15, and I think they are planning on getting married soon. If she has found true love, then great for her. But, if she hasn't, I wouldn't worry. They might end like every other teen relationship. You know, it's kind of like when everybody were kids. The little boy would have the crush on the little girl and ask her to marry him, they would giggle and skip off, then get in a fight next day and hate each other. If you want to say something, you can. Just make sure she knows its only your OPINION, because telling her how you feel can cause problems, trust me for this I know. I would just watch, chances are that they will probably break up before then... And I wouldn't worry about it. Hope that helped!
~Savanna
so ive turned 18 most of my friends are in relationships and im not i feel really low sometimes because im not like ugly or anything or fat i keep thinking why do i not have a bf! Ive just never found anyone i could say yeh ive been in love with him,all i keep thinking about is my x and he was very mean to me im still a virgin and im getting old now someone please help! i mean also there was a x i still kind of like but i duno if he still likes me.
I honestly know how you feel, but don't let it stand in your way. As the others have said, you're still young! Don't worry about it. You have a whole life to live, and much time to get a boyfriend and such. I honestly wouldn't dwell on it. Get some of your single friends together and go out and party! Have a good time... And don't worry about not having a boyfriend. You'll find the right guy soon enough.
My best friend is kind of going through a hard time... She really loved this boy and they broke up earlier this year. She's still not over him. Sometimes, she gets really upset and cries and I comfort her and talk to her. Especially when she justt found out he was going with this girll to the 8th grade dancee. She's been upset lately. I don't mind it at all, what are best friends for, right? Butt, what can I say to her? I tell her how great she is, how any guy would be lucky to be with her, boys are dumb and he made a huge mistkae that hopefully he'll realize with in time, and a bunch of other stuff. But what else do I say?? What advice to I give? Ill rate 5's!!
Well, I would say at this point, don't say, do. Try and get her to do things that would get her to take her mind off of things. Get a few of your friends together and go have a good time! One of my close friends just recently went through the same thing. If you keep them busy, they tend to forget faster. While afirming her self esteem is ALWAYS important, you need to not just say, but do. Hope that helps!
~Savanna
My boyfriend tends to lie to me about stupid things..like money. If he has 100 bucks he tells me he only has 50 and such. And I have caught him in his lies so many times. He told me that he woul d stop because he didn't know that i cared that he lied about stupid stuff like that.But in my opinion if he lies to me about small things than he's lied to me about more important things.What should I do to get it through his head that I don't appreciate him lying to me all the time.
Well, there really is no way to get it through to him. I would keep impressing the matter upon him, and try to get him to realize it. But as you said, if you lies to you about little things, than he probably lies to you about more imporatant things. If you catch him again... As harsh as it sounds, I would dump him because nothing good ever comes out of liars.
~Savanna
Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I get panick attacks when iam real nervouse the last time I had this panick attack I was playing soccer,but it was for kids with disabilities yes I have add and all we did was kick the ball into the net and then run in place for like 30 seconds and my cousin who has autisim did much better than I did and he is really overweight also and iam not that overweight either.when I have these panick attacks my chest feels real tight and I get real shaky and my heart starts to beat real fast and my hands are real hot and sweaty,but when my mom felt my hands they felt like they were in a deep freezer she said and I breathe real heavy what can I do to control this where it won't happen as much?
I know EXACTLY how you feel... It happens to me quite a lot. The tips and pointers that I have been given is to find something you like. Like, when you aren't in the middle of something, read a book, sing, or simply think about something. Self-Afirm yourself. Tell yourself that everything is fine... and that there is no reason to freak... or try to self hypnotize yourself at night... Like slowly name your feet, legs, arms... and say "Your feet are relaxing... They feel weightless..." It sounds odd, I know... but it works. Try it once... but you have to take your time.
Hope I helped!
~Savanna
Okay...So sorry if it's terribly long.
Anyways...My best friend and I found out that we weren't invited to one of our friend's parties. Let's call her Mandi. So, that kinda got us mad. Over aim, Mandi, who was having her party had up on her away message,"The fab. 5 are over!" And so, I just imed Mandi and I asked her "Who are the fab. 5?" and she replies, "Not you!" In a mean way. So we get in this huge fight. And Mandi's best friend was over there, and we shall call her Alise. So, my best friend and I are talking, "Okay, 2 of our really great friends are over there, and they aren't even trying to stand up for us, or tell Mandi and Alise that this isn't right." So we got pretty upset, because our 2 great friends told us they do stick up for us when Mandi and Alise talk bad about us.
So, my best friend and I kinda made a little vow saying that we don't need them as friends anymore, because friends don't treat their friends like that. We were never rude to any of the "Fab. 5". But later on, my best friend kinda forgave them because she's going to high school with 2 of them, and she would have to deal with them. I on the other hand, did not forgive untill many weeks later..
So, I went back to being friends with (let's call them Niki and Jane),who were the ones who didn't stick up for us, the ones who were really great friends to my best friend and me.
Well anyways, Mandi one night asked if I was still mad at her, and I told her I don't want to bring up anything bad tonight. But, I did tell her I wasn't mad, just kinda sad about the whole thing.
And then, Alise goes to my other best friend and says "You, Me, Nike, Jane, and Kat(me), need to hang out really soon!" But see, my other best friend hardly knows Alise.
And now, Jane is hanging out with my best friend (mentioned in the beginning), and I'm just so confused. I made up with Jane, but we never really hang out. We went to the movies, but that was it...I just sorta feel like she really doesn't want to be my friend. I'm just not sure.
I told myself, I didnt' want anything to do with the "Fab. 5", but I kinda felt sorry for Niki and Jane, when I've been great friends with them since Kindergarden. Niki never calls me anymore or even talks to me on the computer, but she hasn't been on the computer in forever. But, that doesn't mean she could call my phone and just talk. I just don't know if I really need them anymore. Because, we act like we aren't friends, but we don't act like we are enemys. More like strangers.
Also, Jane moved, so I thought she would have like a little party or something or house warming party since she was moving. To show off new house. But, I wouldn't know, she never talks to me anymore really.. Then of course, she had Mandi over yesterday.. And Jane would always tell my best friend and myself, how she despised Mandi. So I have no idea.
And now, I feel like crying.
Can anyone tell me how I can make this better?
Or should I leave everything how it is?
Help...
Ok... Not... My Dear Kat... Let's say these people, I believe you called them Mandi, Alice, Jane, and Niki? Correct? Let's say these people didn't control over what was happening... Only one person... Let's say Alice... Had control of the computer, and only one other person... Let's say Mandi... had any clue what was going on? How could you hold everything against the other two... whom I believe you named Jane and Niki, if they had no idea of what was going on? Or, of course, there is the chance that they did... and simply did nothing for that little thing called pier pressure. Now, of course, it is never right to give into pier pressure, but one can see where these two, Jane and Niki, can get stuck between a rock in and a hard place. To friends pressuring from one side, and two more friends pressuring from another... So of course, natural reaction? Back off and let the two friends from each side go at each other. Is it right? No, but it's the easy way out. As much as you would say you wouldn't do that... Sadly, chances are... you would. So you should always look more into a situation before you pass judgement. I would try and reconcile with the two friends, Jane and Niki... but I wouldn't be so willing with the other two, Alice and Mandi... Because they seem not to care either way. But I believe the other two do. So I would say make it a point to get yourself, your best friend, Jane, and Niki together to do something.
~Savanna
*sorry... couldn't resist*
OK here goes....I dated this guy for a year and half exactly. I broke up with him bc i basically opened my eyes and seen that i wasnt being treated the right way and i sorta found someone who really cares about me but i really still care about my ex. He was my first love and i dont know how to make the hurt go away. I mean i dont want to get back with him but i do want the hurt and pain to go away. How do i make it go away.
There really never is a way to move on from your first love... You will most likely carry a little piece of him for the rest of your life. Sad, but true. What you can do though... Is do constructive things... Try to get your mind off of it. It's kind of like, say, when you hurt you leg. The pain is there for a while, but then you do something else and forget about it, and soon you never even knew it was there. That's all I could really say.
~Savanna
I'm asking this for a friend. He wants to move from TX back to FL but he doesn't know how to tell his alcholic father that. Plus his Dad throws everything back in his face. Any ideas?
Well, there is never a good way to tell anyone you want to move out. I personally would try and sit my parents down and have a mature conversation with them. Tell him to explain to his dad why he wants to move out. I would honestly see that as the best option... and hopefully his dad would see that and agree.
~Savanna
Okay well, in the past I have had a good amount of boyfriends. Im turning 16 and I have had about 6. I dunno seems like a fair amount. Anyway, in the beggining of my relationships everything is great, I usually like them a lot and everything is just... well great! but then I lose interest in the guy and it usually occurs the second week of dating. And I quickly try and avoid the "boyfriend" at school or say i am busy for dates because I feel uncomfortable, like I dont understand! They do not do anything wrong and they are great people it's just weird. Although my last boyfriend and I lasted 3 months and I only started getting that feeling the 2nd month (I know i am horrible at breaking up with guys and I really wanted to make it work so I kept telling myself you like him a lot dont break up with him, wait it out, but whatever that was a failure) it feels like I am never going to find a soulmate that it right for me cuz then I will get a stupid funny feeling saying oh no you dont like him, break up, run away! It's harder than what it seems. And I am actually really scared because how am I supposed to fall in love and have kids and get a husband!?!?! :( this is like something i am terrified of and have been terrified of for a long time. Help please =/
Well, honestly, I wouldn't be scared. You said you were 16, which gives you AMPLE time to figure things out. You're young and probably just like to play the field... You don't like being tied down to one person, or at least that's what it seems like. If you like someone, give them a chance, but don't bring their hopes up that you will be with them for a long time. Just explain to them how you feel if you don't like them any more and move on... just be gentle. And don't worry about Marriage or kids... At the VERY least I would say you have AT LEAST 3 years or more before you even need to begin thinking about that kind of thing. So just calm down, relax, and enjoy yourself for the time being!
~Savanna
i went out with this persn who lives in the same town as my cousin. I met him online though and thats how he asked me out. I never met him becuause i dumped him befor we got to meet. wen my mom found out about this she got really mad, and she told all my aunts and stuff, and she told me she never wants me to meet him. His best friend is my cousins bf though, so if i ever meet my cousins bf, then my ex will probly be there too, and we're still friends so i kinda do want to meet him. wat should i do? should i just avoid him?
Well, I honestly wouldn't avoid him, and I could tell why your mother would be worried. There are a lot of scary people out there, and they are not always who they say they are. If you see your cousin, and her b/f's friend, you can't very well prevent that, but I would be up front and honest with you mom about it if you ever do meet him. I would just never go OUT of your way... Cause that could get you in a lot of trouble... But if you just meet him because he's with your cousin, then it wouldn't be like it was intentional. I would tell your mom, and she might be a LITTLE mad... but she will respect the honesty, and hopefully understand that it wasn't on purpose.
~Savanna
Ok i'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend is 16!
I don't know what i should do about that cuz he's 3 years older then me. And he's never kissed a girl... so should i stay with him or should i dump him cuz he might do something with me??
My opinion is...
I think 13 year olds shouldn't be going out.
You are way too young still. Wait a couple more years.
And plus, he is 16? That's kind of scary, and your parents know? If they don't, then this can turn out bad. You should dump him, because he is old for you especially you are only 13.
Be glad you are still a kid, and don't rush things like this.
(It also sounds like he is desperate if he is 16 and is going out with a 13 year old. But eh, that's just what I think.)
-Kutt
Ok, well, my internet is being slow, it takes longer than usual for sites to load (The fastest site is myspace, and it's slow enough already.) , and when I click on a folder in the favorites section, it freezes 80% of the time. I checked for viruses, but, after I destroy them its still slow.
Well, one of the causes to make your computer slower, is that you have way too many programs on your computer. Or, if you have alot of documents you save and never delete, that can make your computer slow. Or maybe you have an old computer, that could be it too.
Maybe you need your computer cleaned out too. I had to send my computer to the shop, because it was all dirty inside.
Hope I helped!
-Kutt