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Heart Break
OK here goes....I dated this guy for a year and half exactly. I broke up with him bc i basically opened my eyes and seen that i wasnt being treated the right way and i sorta found someone who really cares about me but i really still care about my ex. He was my first love and i dont know how to make the hurt go away. I mean i dont want to get back with him but i do want the hurt and pain to go away. How do i make it go away.
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There really never is a way to move on from your first love... You will most likely carry a little piece of him for the rest of your life. Sad, but true. What you can do though... Is do constructive things... Try to get your mind off of it. It's kind of like, say, when you hurt you leg. The pain is there for a while, but then you do something else and forget about it, and soon you never even knew it was there. That's all I could really say.
~Savanna
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You cant just make it go away. It's hard letting it go. He will always have a special place in your heart. You just have to try and move on. It will pass in time.
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Im going to be straight up and honest and short and sweet, if you truely loved the guy, [which u said u did] it will never fully go away but its very good that you got out of the relationship before it got more deep and then it would of been way harder, trust me Im in the same situation but only I was with my bf for 3 and a half years... my advice to you is stay close to friends, stay busy, and if this new guy is worth it, he'll get you over him... just dont rush take it slow and everything will turn out the way it should... i hope the best for u...
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Hey,
I have read your problem and i understand how you feel and how much it hurts to leave someone who you once loved so much and cared about.
But sometimes, there are relationships which work out and go on for years,and someones there are others which become really obvious in a week or two, that things aren't working out,like when your boyfriend ignores you alot and doesn't give you the attention you seek, and there is just no right communication or love or care,and i am sure you understand what i mean.
Therefore, it was really right for you to break up with him, because if he really did like you,then he would have treated you in the same way he had the first day he dated you.
If someone loves another, than that love between them shouldn't change even if years and years have passed.But your boyfriend, obviously got bored or something and in a day or two, you'll find him with a new girl, and he'll date her for another 2 years, then he'll stop treating her well and he'll let go.
Therefore, to ease the pain that he has caused, try to think of unfair he had treated you lately, and how he practically gave you no love and care at the end of your relationship. And i am sure that by now, you are so sick and tired of the way he used to treat you, that you can't stand him anymore and you don't want to see his face again.
And yet, i understand that a part of you from deep inside of you, still love him and is really hurt to break up with him. Thats why you should occupy your time with something else, and try to give all this love you gave him to someone else, someone worth all this love, someone who loves you back, cares about you, stands beside you when you need him, is there for you , and someone who is willing to treat you right and with respect till the end.And guess what? you have already found this love, and you have already found that person. Therefore, instead of thinking of someone who you have done nothing with but waste your time, think of this other person who cares about you,and take advantage of that, and hold on to him,and love him and show him what a terrific girlfriend you are and what an amazing person you can be and what loads of fun you can bring,because when your ex sees this all, he'll regret that he treated you like shit, and he could even come and talk or apologize or try to be with you by any means,and when that happens, you'll turn your back on him and put your hand your new boyfriend's hands and walk of someone who really cares about you and is willing to treat you right.
You are a great person, and i know it and i am sure of it, and you have just been treated like a shit by your ex, and fortunately, another sweet guy came and wants to be with you, then why don't you be with him, and love him and care about him,and give all your love to him?
I'll ask you a question, why do you still love someone who doesn't love you anymore, and who doesn't care about you anymore, and is practically treating you like shit, when you totally don't deserve this, and when there is someone else who is a much better person than your ex?
so consider what i said, and if you need any further help or advise, and if there are any further problems, or troubles or worries or concerns, please be free to contact me.
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