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In a bad situation....
Okay...So sorry if it's terribly long.
Anyways...My best friend and I found out that we weren't invited to one of our friend's parties. Let's call her Mandi. So, that kinda got us mad. Over aim, Mandi, who was having her party had up on her away message,"The fab. 5 are over!" And so, I just imed Mandi and I asked her "Who are the fab. 5?" and she replies, "Not you!" In a mean way. So we get in this huge fight. And Mandi's best friend was over there, and we shall call her Alise. So, my best friend and I are talking, "Okay, 2 of our really great friends are over there, and they aren't even trying to stand up for us, or tell Mandi and Alise that this isn't right." So we got pretty upset, because our 2 great friends told us they do stick up for us when Mandi and Alise talk bad about us.
So, my best friend and I kinda made a little vow saying that we don't need them as friends anymore, because friends don't treat their friends like that. We were never rude to any of the "Fab. 5". But later on, my best friend kinda forgave them because she's going to high school with 2 of them, and she would have to deal with them. I on the other hand, did not forgive untill many weeks later..
So, I went back to being friends with (let's call them Niki and Jane),who were the ones who didn't stick up for us, the ones who were really great friends to my best friend and me.
Well anyways, Mandi one night asked if I was still mad at her, and I told her I don't want to bring up anything bad tonight. But, I did tell her I wasn't mad, just kinda sad about the whole thing.
And then, Alise goes to my other best friend and says "You, Me, Nike, Jane, and Kat(me), need to hang out really soon!" But see, my other best friend hardly knows Alise.
And now, Jane is hanging out with my best friend (mentioned in the beginning), and I'm just so confused. I made up with Jane, but we never really hang out. We went to the movies, but that was it...I just sorta feel like she really doesn't want to be my friend. I'm just not sure.
I told myself, I didnt' want anything to do with the "Fab. 5", but I kinda felt sorry for Niki and Jane, when I've been great friends with them since Kindergarden. Niki never calls me anymore or even talks to me on the computer, but she hasn't been on the computer in forever. But, that doesn't mean she could call my phone and just talk. I just don't know if I really need them anymore. Because, we act like we aren't friends, but we don't act like we are enemys. More like strangers.
Also, Jane moved, so I thought she would have like a little party or something or house warming party since she was moving. To show off new house. But, I wouldn't know, she never talks to me anymore really.. Then of course, she had Mandi over yesterday.. And Jane would always tell my best friend and myself, how she despised Mandi. So I have no idea.
And now, I feel like crying.
Can anyone tell me how I can make this better?
Or should I leave everything how it is?
Help...
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Ok... Not... My Dear Kat... Let's say these people, I believe you called them Mandi, Alice, Jane, and Niki? Correct? Let's say these people didn't control over what was happening... Only one person... Let's say Alice... Had control of the computer, and only one other person... Let's say Mandi... had any clue what was going on? How could you hold everything against the other two... whom I believe you named Jane and Niki, if they had no idea of what was going on? Or, of course, there is the chance that they did... and simply did nothing for that little thing called pier pressure. Now, of course, it is never right to give into pier pressure, but one can see where these two, Jane and Niki, can get stuck between a rock in and a hard place. To friends pressuring from one side, and two more friends pressuring from another... So of course, natural reaction? Back off and let the two friends from each side go at each other. Is it right? No, but it's the easy way out. As much as you would say you wouldn't do that... Sadly, chances are... you would. So you should always look more into a situation before you pass judgement. I would try and reconcile with the two friends, Jane and Niki... but I wouldn't be so willing with the other two, Alice and Mandi... Because they seem not to care either way. But I believe the other two do. So I would say make it a point to get yourself, your best friend, Jane, and Niki together to do something.
~Savanna
*sorry... couldn't resist*
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like kayelen or whatevr said
try to be their friends and if they show no signs of wanting to cooperate then your better of without them you can find a new friend thats not had to do
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well you should try n make it better. Try n get every1 together n talk about the situation or even just try n get every1 together to hangout. Call you friends more often even if they dont call you. Try to be their friend, and if they show no sign of wanting to be your friend then forget them, you tryed but they didnt care so there not worth your time. Hope i helped.
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