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Concerned Or Jealous?
Ok, so my best friend is with her second boyfriend ever. The first one only lasted a couple weeks and it wasn't really serious. She has been with the one she's with now since December. Well, they are wicked, wicked serious about each other and I've come to accept that and even be happy for her because she's finally happy again. But this has kinda started to get too far. Her boyfriend asked her to marry him when they become of age and she pretty much said yes. I guess I'm kinda concerned that she's throwing her life away over her second boyfriend. But the major problem with me comes from the age. I'm only 14/f, she's same as me, and he's 15/m. It freaks out alotof our friends because true love at this age is so rare. Do I talk to her or just stay out of it? Am I just jealous?
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im pretty sure you wouldnt be jealous of your best freind and want whats best for her.just leave her alone and let her do what she wants,even if she DOES throw her life away on this dude just let her do what she wants.
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I'm sure it is only concern. You know what though? If it isn't meant to be it will fizzle out way before they are "of age".
So, to keep the friendship in good shape just don't bring it up. If she does, just say thats nice and change the subject whenever possible. It will all take care of itself. You never know what might happen. :)
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Honey you are not jealous you are just really concerned and that's ok in my opinion she is way to young to be discussing marriage I don't think they are truly in love it sounds to me it is just puppy love there is a big diffrence she has her whole life ahead of her like you said I think she needs to take a step back from her life and look at all the things she will be loosing she is too young to be even thinking about marriage I was in a relationship at her age and it lasted for umm 4 yrs damn near and we talked about marriage but I am so glad I decided not to marry him because he became really abusive have your friend read this copmment and if she wants to know anything else write back I hope this helped
<3 Heather
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Love isn't that rare when your young. I would stay out of it for now, she has 4 years until she's the marrying age so they could always break up and there wont be a problem anymore. You could be jealous that they love eachother, but your more concerened that she's throwing her life away.
Let me know if you need more help!
xoxo
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no ok ur just worried about her your not jealous im sure you will find someone...if they desided to get married now..you should be worried but she still has many many years to give it some thought...and if they trusely love eachother they will go through with marriage but most highskool sweethearts dont last...so don worry just stay out of it or she will think you jealous and not supporting her and she will feel alone alright well good luck
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im 13 and im in a seroius relationship, im 13 n im in love. so let her do her own thing
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To be honest I'd leave it. Pound to penny they won't do it anyway- 2 years (4 without their parents' consent) is a long time and they'll most likely either end or grow mature enough to make a sensible decision by that time. So for now don't wax lyrical about it but don't criticise either- it'll just make her more determined to prove everybody wrong and so make her reluctant to break up with him if things do start to go wrong.
On the other hand, who knows? Maybe it's meant to be, but again I think you'll all be more comfortable if they still feel this way a few years down the line as it'll show they're really good together and might make it.
Possibly there's a little bit of jealousy on your part but I think you have genuine concerns about your friend. Just sleep easy in the knowledge that what they're talking about doing is impossible right now and they've plenty of time to figure things out for themselves. x
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Hey!
Alright, first of all I don't think you are jealous... but on the other hand, do you think you might be? It is possible that you are a LITTLE jealous, which is totally ok! Who doesn't get jealous of other people and what they have every now and then? Don't worry about that.
As far as your friend's relationship goes, I wouldn't worry about it if I was you. It is her business, and if she is happy with this guy then let them be, and see if things change over time. Even if she stays with this guy for the rest of her life (which is not very likely), it doesn't mean she is throwing her life away. You don't have to have 100 boyfriends to have a good life... you just need to find the right one. Some people find that person on the first try, and others never do... it just depends. I have a friend that has been with her boyfriend for 7 years... since she was 13 years old! And they are very very happy together!
Those two are not getting married any time soon. It is all just talk. My bf and I always talk about that, and we are 20... just because we talk about it, it doesn't mean we are going to do it any time soon. Things like that take time. Every couple always says they will get married. Your friend has been in this relationship for a few months... that's not long at all. Their relationship is still in the easy stage... things will get harder. If they can make it through, then great, and if not then it wasn't meant to be. If she is happy though, let her be. Unless he is abusive or unless she has changed in a bad way because of him, I wouldn't say anything to her about it. There is no need, and she might get mad and take it the wrong way. :) Let me know if you need more help!
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No. You're not jealous. I honestly wouldn't say that, and I can see where your doubts come from. One of my current co-workers, who is now twenty, has been dating this guy since she was 15, and I think they are planning on getting married soon. If she has found true love, then great for her. But, if she hasn't, I wouldn't worry. They might end like every other teen relationship. You know, it's kind of like when everybody were kids. The little boy would have the crush on the little girl and ask her to marry him, they would giggle and skip off, then get in a fight next day and hate each other. If you want to say something, you can. Just make sure she knows its only your OPINION, because telling her how you feel can cause problems, trust me for this I know. I would just watch, chances are that they will probably break up before then... And I wouldn't worry about it. Hope that helped!
~Savanna
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