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hi
i need some advice on a matter.
ok last year i was very unhappy in my relationship, therefore i sort comfort in other places. i never slept with anyone else but another guy who i was friends with before i met my current boyfriend sent me flowers saying i deserved better and stuff like that.. there were 2 guys and the other we were close but never kissed or anything as well.. just after our 1 year we broke up for a few weeks, then we got bak together and we both had changed as persons. he was much more considerate and nice and i am much more stronger. i told him that i did seek comfort in other places and he understood and was sorry. i didnt tell him everything that happened just that i was unhappy, yet i still feel guilty for leading the other guys on and now that our relationship is perfect i need to forgive myself, i no it was stupid to talk to a guy that says i deserve better because it made my relationship very confusing esp because i was unhappy but i dont talk to them anymore at all.. we are happy again and yet it still bugs me that i spoke to other guys.. should i still be feeling this way even tho it was 6 months ago and i didnt 'cheat'? someone please help me
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Dont think about it so hard. you were going through a rough time and you only needed someone there for comfort. but now that you have your man back you can forget about the other guys. tell them that you didnt like them that much and just be honest with them. tell it like it is. but just forget about the other guys and live your life with your boyfriend. dont worry about it.
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you're thinking about it too much!
look, yeah what you did was stupid, but your bf was being neglegent, correct?
why dont you just explain to these other guys that you werent into them, you just needed a shoulder to cry on. and explain to them that they will still be really good friends with you, but now everything is ok.
but dont make it sound like your being a flake, because thats not cool, either.
you just need to put things straight. the way you think they should be, you know? with your bf and these other guys. it'll feel a little weird at first, but in the long run it will pay off.
and i hope it does. take care!
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Give yourself a break. You were confused, and there was obviously some soul searching that you both needed to sort out. Forgive yourself, and allow happiness in. You may have made a mistake, but this goes to show that you've learned from it.
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