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unprotected sex
im 14.and ive been with my boyfriend for about a year&& 4 months.when we have sex he just pulls out.we havent been using protection for about 7months.i really dont like the sex with condoms.should i start using protection.do you think its safe?
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I don't think you are mature enough to be in a sexual relationship. You clearly don't know even the very basics of birth control.
And, no, it is not safe at all. You are very, very likely to get pregnant.
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no you shouldnt be using protection...your 14!!! you shouldnt be having sex at all...thats CRAZY. but if you're going to do it....then yes use protection. its not safe to use the pull out method...tons have girls have gotten pregnant because they thought that would be good enough...
not even using a condom is completly effective, but 99% is definitly better.
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do you want to be pregnant at 14? if not i suggest protection. and you dont like sex w/ condoms?? well do you wanna have unprotected sex and be crying when you find out your gonna have a kid??
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UH DUH, of COURSE you should be using protection?
You're kidding, right?
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hi- i know people who have been in situations like yours. and they got pregnant. and they had to get an abortion. please, dont stop using condoms. because your only 14, and i know im only 15, but your only 14 you have your whole life ahead of you, a baby or an abortion could mess things up badly. so those sayings like "pulling out works" or "do it in water" ... they dont work. none of them. well kind of pulling out but there is still a 85% of pregnancy... we learned that in health a couple days ago. please use protection. i hope i helped.
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I would definatly use protection every time you have sex, especially at your age. you dont want to run the risk of getting pregnant.
even if you dont like it as much with a condom, it is still better than living with a baby inside of you for nine months while your parents lecture you everyday about how to take care of it. and they are a BIG responsibility. Do you want that? hopefully not. someday maybe.
just be safe... whatever you do. :)
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I personally think you're WAY too young to be having sex in the first place, but it's your life and I'm not here to lecture you.
Any time you DO choose to have sex, you SHOULD be using protection. I don't understand why you don't think it would be safe. If you haven't started using protection, it's better to start now than before it's too late.
-Laura. (15-f)
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Of course it isn't safe not to use protection. Pulling out doesn't matter. You can get pregnant just as easily with him pulling out as you can with him not. Pre-Cum can get you pregnant just as easily as regular ejaculation. Besides, pulling out doesn't protect you from any STDs which may not be a problem now with him (though, you can't know if you haven't had both of yourselves checked yet), but STDs will be a problem in the future with future partners.
You are 14 years old. The last thing you want to do is go home and tell your mother that you're pregnant or have a doctor tell you that you have genital herpes (or any of the other MANY STDs out there).
Be careful. I know schools are only aloud to teach abstinence and can't properly teach sex-education, but you have to find your information before going through with sexual acts.
If you aren't careful, you will regret the decision later.
So, to answer your question, NO I do not think what you are doing is safe. It's plain stupid. The least you can do is go on the pill or something. Your doctor isn't allowed to tell your mother if you're sexually active. If you go on birth control you can always tell your parents that it's because of your period (I don't like lying, but if it will assist you in preventing pregnancy, it's worth it), but that still won't help protect you against STDs. As of right now, condoms are the only way to protect yourself against STDs and that's only if they're used properly, and they only have a 98% (or somewhere around there) working rate.
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Hi, I'm 19/m,
me and my gf have been going out for about 2 and a half years now, from experience, use protection, we were supposed to have a child but it miscarried, its probably one of the most depressing things ever. The younger you are the higher the chance of a miscarriage. What we do now is I supply her the money for whats called a Nuva Ring and that gets put in every month (about $26) and releases hormones that make it so you won't get pregnant but you wont have to use a condom (it is recommended, but she's been on for about a year and nothing)
Hope I could help o^-^o
& good luck
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Well, at your age, yes I think you should use protection. It may feel weird, but at least you won't get pregnant. I mean, if you're honostly ready for a baby, then do it how you want. Just be ready for the consequences, because the pullout method actually doesn't work. It's just a myth. Like I said, it's your choice, but just be ready for any consequences! Goodluck!
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