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Last Update: June 10, 2007
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My whole life I've been told and thought I'm stupid. Because I'm not school-book smart. I don't get good grades in the "smart subjects" like science, math and so on. I am so sick of believing this. I'm a different type of smart. I know I can make something of myself.
I am especially good at 3 things; public speaking & reaching out to people, languages (I know 4 different languages and intend on learning several more) and I sympathize, more than anything. People always turn to me because of that, I long to help. More than anything.
I've researched at least a hundred different professions in my attempt to find a major that will equip me with the right tools to help save the innocent from the corrupt and ultimatley change the world. I need a profession that will make me come alive. I have a picture of myself speaking infront of thousands of people, touching their hearts, or working at a homless shelter, somehow helping those who have been used, or anything of that kind. But in BIG levels, it wouldn't mean anything to me as a doctor or anything like that. It's not the kind of thing that would make me come alive, it wouldn't matter to me. I don't want to help one person at a time, I want to help thousands.. at once. I want to do something that would end homelessness and stimulate world peace!
I am compassionate and am able to provide stability in people's lives when they are shaken up. I am 16 years old, female, and more than anything.. I want to do something with my life.
No one believes in me, because I am not suited for the typical "good jobs" I will never have the grades to become a Lawyer, Doctor, Journalist or any of the sort.
Help me, what can I become? And how do I get there?
Thank you so much! And please, don't read this and think "what a dreamer, everyone thinks they'll save the world.. this one doesn't even have good enough grades.. she doesn't even know how to spell" Please, I have enough people thinking that way, if you can't help me, fine. But I'm begging you, don't think like that. (link)
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you should be a physchologist. like a shrink. help people kind of like advicenators but in person. you get there if u want it by taking phsycology courses and sociology. or a social worker wud be a good one. you dont have to be book smart for tht. i wish you all the best with your career choices!
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okay, PLEASE bear with me, it will be veryy long.
first off, i want to start with im 13/f.
two years ago, after moving away from my, almost perfect life, i was severely depressed, but i wasnt diagnosed with it.
i wouldnt get out of bed, and i would cry all day, every day.
i felt like everyone hated me and i stopped going to school altogether.
my mom was now "home-schooling" me, so i wouldnt drop out.
that was two years ago of course, i got over it and now, ive been great.
ive gotten alot of friends (again) and im very happy with my amazing boyfriend.
only thing is, he lives where i used to live before i moved (miami).
so i barely ever see him.
unless we go down.
for a while we were going down every week or every other week.
now we barely ever go because my mom says that "we go too often".
now, i havent seen my boyfriend for three weeks.
and tonight i was supposed to go to miami.
and i was going to stay at his house.
im a major christian and i have very high morals.
i believe true love waits.
and i would never do anything more than kiss until im married.
so, my mom knows this.
and she said, ok, you cant stay at his house.
(this was last week, when i asked her)
so tonight around 8, my brother was going to drive me down when he got off work.
all of the sudden, my mom tells me that i cant go.
she says that she doesnt want me to make any mistakes that i might regret in the future.
shes practically blaming HER mistakes on me.
which is something i wouldnt do.
she, changed her mind out of the blue.
and so i had to call my boyfriend and tell him that i cant see him.
on our anniversary, btw.
and then i had to call my friends and cancel all of our plans, basically ruining their weekend as well.
and so, i was crying.
and i dont want to sound like a baby, i was just really excited about it all week.
and she let me down the HOUR i was supposed to go.
i havent cried this hard, since 6th grade, when i was depressed.
and i dont want to go back to depression.
im tired of it, but i feel like crying alot.
i feel like i could cry forever.
and i dont feel like leaving my bed, again.
so i was wondering.
what are ways that i can get my mom to trust me more.
and how can i keep from becoming depressed again?
thank you so much, in advance.
i could use prayer, and advice.
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wow. ok to keep from being depressed you should try not to think down on yourself. dont blame yourself or complain about things. just remember everyone has problems like this and times wen they get dissapointed. try not to get your hopes about going to miami. dont expect your gonna go so you wont get dissapointed. talk to your mom about going down more often to see your boyfriend.
tell her you really miss him and its hard to keed a long distance relationship. also if you want your mom to trust you dont ask to stay over his house.
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i have had 1.5 boyfriends so far (im 13/F) and both have treated me like a princess. they have both been so nice to me and told me i was nice and everything. with the first boy, i dont think i liked him, i liked the attention. at the time i thought i really liked him though. but it didnt work out. now, im talking with this other boy and hes being so nice to me. we hung out so much on sunday and i really started to like him, and that was when we were hanging out just as friends. now, i really really like him, and we cant stop texting eachother. but now im wondering if i like him or just the compliments or the idea of having a boyfriend. whenever he says anything im a little unsure if he really means it because of my last boyfriend who was all talk and didnt mean a thing he said to me. my mom wont let me go out with this boy because our parents are friends and she dosent wan t it to be awkward when we brake up, and ive told him this. he still tells me he loves me. i love him back. i know its like puppy love not real love. how do i getover this feeling that he is just talking? how do i act around him because i like him so much but i cant go out with him? how can i show him that i like him? what can i say to him? and do you think hes just saying this stuff or that he realy means it? dont be afraid to be harsh i know i deserve a slap in the face right now but thanx! (link)
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ask if he really means it. be like do you really mean that or you just being nice.
i think he does mean it. why wud he make stuff up he has no reason to.
tell your mom you should be allowed to go out with him and she shouldn't interfere. who cares that your parents are friends. tell her you really really like him. she should understand.
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Is it wrong to want a lot of affection from my boyfriend? He was never really into being all touchy and stuff but he's changed a lot since he fell in love for the first time- me being the one.
I get cuddles and kisses, but I feel like i'm constantly giving him every possible moment I can to make him feel good. Head jobs are ALWAYS on my mind coz I like that he blows. (sorry to be gross.)
I just want anything sexual from him all the time. I cant get enough of my own boyfriend who's 19 and im 20. He' so good looking. I always touch myself over him. Is that bad? (link)
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no it just means you like him!
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So I kind of secretly like this one boy.
He has a girlfriend, but we had a past.
Not neccasarrily a relationship past,more of like a friendship and sex past,[yeah i know,dumb idea]
Well we both kinda act like we dont like eachother, he's kinda mean to me but not as much as he used to.
Im not really mean to him , i just act like I dont care about him,when i do.
His best best friend told me that he DOES like me and wants me to think he hates me.
I cant really talk to him because he still has a girlfriend but how can I tell if he likes me or not??!
Just by seeing him around, i see him alot.
Sometimes I see him staring and If we have to be together for school reasons, he usually messes around with me and stuff.
I need help! (link)
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i think you should like someone else since he is mean AND has a girlfriend!!!
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ok, i put my bra in the wash and it got out into the dryer and when it came out part of the bra is like caving in a little. i tried putting it back in the wash w/out putting it in the dryer but it really didn't help, is my bra ruined? or is there something i can do to fix it? (link)
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yes its ruined. you cant put a bra in the dryer you have to let it air dry.
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Are strapless dresses made for girls with only big breats to fit at the top? I'm flat but I want to wear one but I'm scared anything bad or embarrassing might happen.. (link)
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use tape to keep it up.
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14/f
Ok well yesterday I got the courage to ask my mom if I could use tampons instead of pads, cuz well I play volleyball and so she said yeah i could, so we bought the Playtex Sport Tampons Regular.
Is that a good brand to start off with?
Well anyways, I think i got the main idea of how to put a tampon in... so correct me if i'm wrong
first you put the first part into the vagina, and then push in the second part inside of the first part, then take out the first/second part (they are inside of each other) and the string should be coming out of your body.
is that correct? tell me if thats wrong and how to do it.
Also another question is... (might be really stupid) Where do you put the tampon in?
like I know theres the butt hole where you poop, and then theres like a flab of skin where the pee comes out... but where do you put the tampon in?
like i can't bend down and see the hole, so how do i know if i'm putting the tampon in the right spot? I read the directions and they say i have to insert it 45 degrees angle, so how would it look like? Like would the back of the tampon be closer to your front? or back?
IDK i'm so confused... I had the courage to ask my mom if i could use tampons.. but I am REALLY uncomfortable to ask her how. and like ask her to show me.
plz help me!!!
thanks soo much!
Oh and how long are you supposed to keep tampons in maximum? 8 hours is ok?? (link)
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there is only one hole it will fit into so you dont have to worry about tht. just put in at angle.
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im so upset and deppressed right now..... i was dateing my ex for nine months we got in an arguement and he told me we needed to take a break and i was fine, now he doesnt want to be with me anymore and he keeps telling me if things get better than it might change what can i do to make him love me again, p.s dont tell me to get over him cause i cant, i really love him and i lost my virgenity to him please help (link)
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you should try to leave him alone for a while. he might feel like your crowding him that can be annoying. you can still think about him and miss him but things might just fall into place and you'll move on. and then like next year you might get back together. who knows but try to stay strong for yourself. don't put all your focus on him. focus on your friends. and fun things. just put him on the back burner for now.
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A little less than a year ago I was diagnosed with having anxiety and depression. The thing that bugs me, though, is that every single time you hear about this sort of thing, the only advice you are ever given is "get help, and that will make you better." But it only has to a certain extent. I mean, I guess this year I'm getting out of bed in the morning; I'm going to school when I used to stay in bed all day without being able to get up. But I still feel like such a failure. I worked so hard before I got depression. I was part of a really challenging private school (I left this year) and put every effort I had into doing well so I could get into a good university or whatever for five straight years, never had any friends over, even because we were all working so hard (and maybe that's why I became depressed :/). Lately I can't even bring myself to do any of my homework, and I space out a lot in class. It's like I just don't care. I'll stay up at night without caring about school the next day and then skip first period. Today I just stayed home the entire day. I hate myself for it and really just want to be functioning and normal and not so lost and worried and depressed. At the same time I've given up, like the whole depression thing is this black mark on me and I'm not good enough to be functional, if that even makes any sense (or if any of this makes sense)
Does anyone have any advice on how I can get through this(ei, what can I do besides "get help")? AM I even going to get "better" in the end, or is this something that's going to haunt me forever? (link)
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NO it definitly wont for sure. maybe you just need to get motivated about something. since everything in your life is like blah. try watching inspirational movies like disney! Pay it forward its sad though. or even funny movies. spend time with your family it helps. dont worry about the homework for now. just get yourself back to you. then worry about the school work. try talking to your friends again just break the ice. be like do u wanna do something over the weekend. GET MORE SLEEP. it can solve basically half your problems litterally. go to bed at like 8:30 or 9:30. it will really help your mood and everything espeacially your health. youll start to love going to bed early lol.
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Well, my problem is that about 5-7 guys have asked me out since, like, october, and when you think about it, that's a lot. in december, i asked out the guy i liked, but he didn't really "like me like that." naturally, i was kinda upset, and it's been distressing me even more ever since i've been getting asked out, because i'm still trying to impress the guy who wouldn't go out with me, but it doesn't seem to be working, and i want to make sure he really is never ever going to really like me before i go out with anyone again. i'm also worried that i'll never get over it.
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you will get over him. who knows someone way better might come along and sweep you off your feet. just kind of put this guy on the side for now. if you cant tell him that you really like him and dont see anyother guy but him. try being friends with him too.
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15/f
I've been seeing a therapist for a year now after I was diagnosed with depression. The problem is, after I stopped taking my medecine, I haven't been improving. I'm wondering if, besides therapy, there is any other way to "get help"... they say depression doesn't go away on it's own, and I'm feeling pretty "alone" with the system right now. I'm not going to feel this way forever, am I?
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no. i sort of had depression. it went away and now im happy! just thing about the areas in your life that make you sad or just frustrated and thats what you need to work on. dont be negative about your life. take it one day at a time. you'll get through this time. try to spend a lot of time with your loved ones they can truly make you feel better.
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Well my school play is tonight and we are going to be backstage a lot of the time, and not allowed to talk or make noise (so we don't disrupt the play) They said we can bring something to do backstage to keep us busy. We can't have anything like iPods or MP3's or handheld games that make noise...but we can have small things like a deck of cards and stuff. Is there any other things I could bring to do instead, since I'm not into cards much? (link)
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lol. bring a magazine or a book. food. thats all i can think of sry. but i dont see how your waiting tht long wen ur in the play.
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anyone know of some places in south florida that hire 15-year olds? (link)
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Burger king, dairy queen, subway, and mcdonalds.
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Okay. So there's this guy at school, who's in tenth grade. His name is Tyler, and I'm in ninth grade. We both know we like each other, but I only met him 2 weeks ago. And he was telling my best friend that he wants to ask me out TONIGHT! But the problem is, I like him and all but I feel like things are moving way too fast. So how do I let him down easily without shoving him away? (link)
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just tell him straight up. can we take things slow? you wont shove him away. he just needs to know your not an easy girl and he will respect you more.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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DONT COMMIT SUICIDE!!! your life IS worth living whether it is right now or not is different. but things change. wat if things are about to get better. everyone goes through hard times.
i dont know if you believe in God but you will go to hell if you commit suicide. im not kidding it says it in the bible.
i think you shud get counseling it will really help.
please write back to me and tell me u didnt commit suicide! PLEASE DONT!
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I know the two go hand in hand, which explains why I feel so low at the moment. There's so much going wrong with my family life, my work like and my health right now and it's affecting everything. Even my relationship with my boyfriend.
The question is, what do I do about it?? I can't keep going the way I am or I SWEAR I am going to have a meltdown.
Please help and if you can, I would appreciate natural help, rather than counselling or therapy. (link)
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Whatever your doing you need to slow down and take a break. im not sure how you can do that cause i dont really know the whole situation. but go shopping with your friends that makes everyone feel better. unless your a boy i guess. lol but yea. wen you feel like too many things are happening at once you need to change some things.
change your way of thinking. be positive about work make it like a game im serious it works. with your family just talk to them about your difference tell them whats bothering you. AND spend time with them!!!
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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
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well i think you should ask Nate what he thinks about going out officially. if he is intrested then you should go out with him! you have better sex. haha. you know you can try out other guys but dont do this side thing with both of them if your gonna keep blake. so basically you have to pick. dont worry about hurting blake he will move on just do it nicely.
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Ok, so I am 17/f and I was with this guy from 8th grade until April of last year, so for 2 and a half years we were together. When we broke up it broke my heart, we continued talking and I have a strong bond with his mother and his siblings, so we have remained in touch. Well the other night we were hanging out and he we were driving and he said to me the 3 reasons why we never lasted as a couple, he said because I play around too much, I ask too many questions and because I hit him once. So I was thinking that maybe if I stop doing those things he would take me back, because he was saying all kinds of things to me last night that he hasn't said to me since we were dating, like he kept calling me beautiful and pretty and gorgeous so I was wondering, does it sound to you like I have a chance if I change my ways a little??? Also he decided just to start telling me all kinds of things he likes, and what he doesn't like. It was very random, but he kept telling me like what he likes when girls do and what he doesn't like, what do you guys think???? (link)
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this is a strange situation. it sounds like he is telling u a lot of information so yeah i think he likes you again. he just wants it to be differnent this time. ask him online if he likes u again. then see wat happens.
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