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Stress and Depression
I know the two go hand in hand, which explains why I feel so low at the moment. There's so much going wrong with my family life, my work like and my health right now and it's affecting everything. Even my relationship with my boyfriend.
The question is, what do I do about it?? I can't keep going the way I am or I SWEAR I am going to have a meltdown.
Please help and if you can, I would appreciate natural help, rather than counselling or therapy.
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I think what you need is a break. If you can, take a few days off of work, and eaither check into a hotel, or stay home, and just relax. DOnt bring your boyfriend along, that way you can be all alone, and just calm down. Try and get some more sleep, and eat healthy to help get some more energy. If you cant take time off of work, try relaxing after work, just take some time for yourself. Some that ALWAYS helps me is to watch a movie or tv. Sit down on your couch (or on your bed) or somewhere comfortable, and watch your favorite movie, and get a snack and just try to forget about all of your problems, and then take a hot shower, and go to sleep early. I really think that would help you.
Good luck!! And i hope that you feel better!!!
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Ways to combat stress...
1.) Sleep. The less you sleep, the more stressed out you're going to be. Your body needs approximately eight hours of sleep every night. If you are having a problem falling asleep... Try doing something that will allow you to unwind a little bit before going to bed. For example, take a long, hot bath... Drink some hot tea or milk... Read a book.
2.) Diet. Your diet can also affect your level of stress. I'm not suggesting you go on a diet, but try drinking more water and cutting down on the junk food. Taking a vitamin wouldn't hurt either.
3.) Exercise. When you exercise, your body actually releases hormones that make you feel good. You don't have to do anything fancy, like join a gym or start lifting weights. Try taking a fifteen to twenty minute walk every day after dinner.
4.) Hobbies. Most people underestimate the benefit of having a hobby. But really... They're great. When you're doing something that you enjoy, you tend to focus on the activity alone, and temporarily forget your anxieties. For example, I love to draw... I'm not the best at it, but when I'm drawing I'm so wrapped up in what I'm doing that I can't think about anything else.
5.) Meditate. This might sound like a weird suggestion... But if you think about it, all you're doing is setting aside maybe fifteen to twenty minutes every day to just be still and be quiet. You don't have to bend your legs into a lotus position or chant. Just try to get comforbale, whether you're sitting on the couch, or laying on the floor... whatever. Then either try to clear your mind, or focus on something positive. For example, a good exercise is... "Fifty things I'm grateful for." If you're having trouble thinking of things to be grateful for, I'll start you off with a big one... "I'm grateful... To be alive."
6.) Keep a journal. Sometimes writing down your feelings helps you to sort out your emotions and put the situation into a proper perspective. Especially if you are a woman. One of the differences between the way men and women solve problems (as pointed out by Dr. John Gray) is that women tend to talk about their problems a lot. We aren't whining, we're trying to figure out how we feel about our problems, and to draw our own conclusions. Writing is a good outlet for emotions because it gives us time to really think about what we are feeling before we even put it into words.
7.) Remember that happiness is a state of mind. Happiness is not the result of good circustances. Because in life, circumstances are never perfect, even when at their best. There will always be something to worry about, some problem that needs to be solved. That's just the way life is. Getting that new car will not make you happy. Neither will a new job, new house, or a marriage proposal, etc. All these things may result in temporary joy, but not lasting happiness.
Happiness is not something that anyone can give you... Except for yourself. Your boyfriend is not the key to your happiness, neither are your friends or family. Your happiness depends only one person... YOU! And be glad... There's nothing better than knowing that you alone are in control of your emotional state.
Happiness is the result of a postive perspective. Being happy means saying, "My life is good and I don't want to be anyone else. I'm not perfect, but I love myself the way that I am, and while everything might not be perfect, I have a lot to be grateful for." Being happy means that when things go wrong, or you make a mistake, instead of dwelling on the negative... You look for the postive. You are able to say, " I made a mistake, but this is what I learned from my mistake. And now that I know, next time around I will do better." Happy people still have problems and experience sadness... The difference between a happy person and the sad person is that the happy person knows that they will be happy again. They know that the hurt will fade, things will pass, and in the long run, they'll be just fine.
And lastly... It sounds to me that you are pretty self-aware amd know that you are experiencing a temporary case of the blues. However, if you ever suspect that your case of the blues is turning in a serious case of depression, don't hestitate to seek professional help. Don't walk, RUN to the nearest doctor!
I hope things get better for you. My thoughts are with you, good luck... Adieu ;)
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Just a thought. Take a break from reality. When you get back from your small vacation, you'll feel more relaxed and your problems will just melt away instead of you having a melt down.
If you can't take a vacation, just take a day off and do something fun. Something you haven't done in a while. Have a best friend go with you.
After your day or dayS of fun, talk about your problems with your family, boyfriend, and friend. It will make you feel better.
Look at the positive sides of things. Think of the glass half full then half empty.
After this, your life will fall right into place!
FOR SURE!
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I think the person below was right by saying you need to take a break, if you can.
There's lots of herbal and aromatherapy remedies you can do without going down the therapy route just yet.
There's some tablets called Kalms that my grandma swaers by, they are herbal and she says if you take 2 they help you sleep too. They are for stress and just help to make you feel calmer.
You could also try relaxing baths, expecially before bed, with lavander in the water and maybe some lavander scented candles around the bath too.
I suffer with depression too, even though i try to avoid going to bed it does sometimes help just to snuggle up in bed and watch a dvd and relax, Friends is the one i always watch because it's just easy watching, no deep dramas, just something light hearted.
You could try a form of art therapy too if you have time, painting or even making cards and jewellry, being creative helps us to express ourselves and de-stress, i know alot of people on a forum i'm involved with are much more creative when then are going through bouts of depression, it also keeps us occupied which can be good in combatting depression.
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Whatever your doing you need to slow down and take a break. im not sure how you can do that cause i dont really know the whole situation. but go shopping with your friends that makes everyone feel better. unless your a boy i guess. lol but yea. wen you feel like too many things are happening at once you need to change some things.
change your way of thinking. be positive about work make it like a game im serious it works. with your family just talk to them about your difference tell them whats bothering you. AND spend time with them!!!
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