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Q: I looked for how to get a bigger butt on yahoo answers but it was a bunch of stupid answers and people making fun of the people that asked for help. So I am asking here cause my friedn says this site is way better than yahoo answers cause people really try to help you and not make fun of you. Can you help me get a bigger butt? Mine is really tiny-tiny and I look like a little boy because of that. :'(

Unfortunately genes are probably the only thing that could help that.
YOU could get butt implants but besides that nothing can 100% work.

Going to the gym (and telling the person that you want to work on/tone your butt) is a good idea, but there's no way it'll magically increase it.

You can, i'm assuming if you don't already, wear clothes that make your butt look bigger. Stretchy skinny jeans with a fitted top can help you do the trick.
THIS may be helpful : http://www.ehow.com/how_2095194_accentuate-small-butt.html

Q: I'm just wondering, is it against the law to hit a girl? Because there is this girl in my class who i wanna smack, would i get in trouble? If it helps i live in Ontario, Canada. Thanks

Yes, battery is a crime.
You may also get into trouble w/ your school, definitely don't do it.

Q: 18 - Eyebrows realy need to be done because they are looking horrendous! It will be my first time and I'm scared because if I go to a salon I'm scared that it will be liek overdone and I dont trust myself doing it. Advice please?

If you have a best friend or cousin or sister who gets theirs done, ask for a recommendation to a place.

TBH, since it's your first time you will look different. Once you get a good place though it should look better and not over done.

...And if you cannot get a recommendation for a place, tell the person who's waxing it that you want something with a good shape, natural and not too thin.

Q: I received a forwarded email from my best friend who would never lie to me about bottled water causing breast cancer. Supposedly Sharon Crow was on the Ellen Show and mentioned that bottled water left in the car has "dioxins" that cause breast cancer. The email said that she told national television this because her doctor told her about these dangers. I have to assume that this must be ANY bottled water though because bottled waters is typically shipped in trucks from place to place. If this is true, should I stop drinking bottled water?

Ok so the thing about that, is the bottled water is LEFT in the car and that's like a few hours AT LEAST.
The heat and plastic is probably the main problem and i don't believe it's untrue.

However no one really knows what can and can't cause cancer, hence the reason we don't have a sure cure yet.

I drink bottled water, and i think alot of people do too....but if you're going to leave the water in the heat for a few hours....don't drink it.

Q: I am looking for a very good NATURAL deodorant to try. I have tried a few different ones but none of them seem to have a good reaction with my body. I also thought about trying chlorophyll tablets to help reduce my body odor but would prefer to try natural deodorant before I start such tablets. What is the best natural deodorant that you're aware of?

Thank you for all your help.

-Stinky.

Best advice would be to go to a nature store or somewhere that sells smelling oils and such, and asking if they have/make.

I'm not aware of any specific names of natural deodorants, but i have tried about 3 or 4 locally made ones from these types of shops.

Goodluck!

Q: How do you know what kind of "skin tone" you have, or what "undertones" your skin has? I've never been quite sure. I think I have pink undertones, but how can I be sure? I always read advice on makeup and hair colors with reference to what kind of undertones your skin has, but it's useless to me if I don't know what mine has. I am pale and tend to freckle AND tan if I stay out in the sun. I have medium brown hair.

You'll never be 100% sure unless you go to the makeup store or makeup aisle and let the people help you out.
I actually don't think someone can tell what skin tone they have unless they've been trained...because you could be one tone off and it'll look completely different.

Just go to the makeup counter and ask for help...it's free and you'll be 100% sure of the results.

Q: So this summer my little sister (11) is going to camp...but she has to fly their. She has never flown by herself before and is very scared. There will be a camp counselor that will meet the campers at the airport but that dosnt calm my sisters nerves. What can we do to help? Will there be someone at the airport to help her out?

The airport normally has people that take care of minors and the sickly/elderly. When you get her checked in, let them know you need assistance with her.

And tell the person checking her in, to get an airhostess to keep an eye on her, and take care of her.

Just talk to the people in the airport, they'll have help ready. I've been under-aged and travelled alone already, and your sister just needs to be brave, and they'll take care of you.

Q: As I was saying before I was with this guy for 11 months and its been about 4 months since we've broken up. I feel as if he was my first true love. He found a new girl now but they aren't dating. He keeps bringing up the past and all the memories we've had... and it's starting to make me fall for him again. I DON'T WANT TO THOUGH. Then he tells me he loves her but he loves me more. Agh he still uses all the nick names we created for each other when we are dating. WHAT DO I DO? What does this mean?
Female, 14.

Boys are stupid and he's just testing you. He'll bring back these memories and stuff to see if you still love him; he's trying to uplift his ego.

DON'T fall for it. You need to be strong. Try to rememver why you guys broke up...and remember he has a 'new girl'. If possible try to ignore him or tell him that you just want to be friends since it didn't work out the first time.

Good luck

Q: I i had my laptop for a wile now its never crashed or had any problems with it. but lately it takes like almost 15min to load up when it starts up so i was to clear it like so its has no memory i dont have any of the CD's that it came with I HAVE NOTHING NO CDS what can i do...i have a Dell Inspiron 2200

since you have no programming software, it'll be your best bet to carry it to someone professional who will normally have these.
If not, you can borrow someone's software if they allow you, REMEMBER you can only use software a few times.
Since I'm not sure of the windows it's running, you should google 'how to clear my windows Xp/vista of all it's files'.

However, I think you should contact someone who is a professional since there may be problems using these sites and reinstalling everything. JUST to be on the safe side.

Good luck!

Q: i got a hair cut & i dont really like it !
i had split ends so you see why i needed one !
x( now it's shoulder length & it does not look
nice ! i dont know how to style it ! even
if it is down ! it looks horriblee ! im sad !
any advice on how to style it ?

It's according to your style. You can put it up, or put a headband on. You can make a bun or straighten it. Curl it...or you can go back to the hairstylist and let him/her redo something that looks better(not cut it shorter but in layers or something).

There are tons of things you can do...but soon it'll grow back! Everyone hates that awkward 'growing out' phase..but it'll soon be over.

Q: http://www.mychemicalromance.com/blog?page=1

on that site, there is a chat box thing on the side that the band members can respond to, assuming they select those posts to say something back to. my question is, how do i post something on there that might get a response? i'm not asking what do i say, i'm asking how do a actually post it? i'm not good with twitter. :P

whoa! that's some complicated stuff there.
Well I believe all the members have their own personal twitter accounts.

Anyway firstly you need to sign up for twitter, which is relatively easy. When you sign up you should go back to that blog and click on each name. Their twitter pages will come up and then you click 'follow' which is a button directly under the picture. REPEAT for each member.

Then when you have them all followed, you can go back to your homepage (just click home on twitter) and in the box where you send messages you type '@gerardway' or '@raytoro' (which is basically an '@' sign and then the username directly after. ALSO if they have a tweet (which is a twitter message) you can place your mouse/cursor on the tweet and you'll see an arrow sign which when your cursor is on it will say 'reply to 'username''. YOU CLICK THE ARROW, and then twitter will automatically put the '@' in the box.

I know it's all confusing, but it's highly addictive at the same time. However, i'm not 100% sure they will reply, since i'm sure they get 10000's of comments daily. GOOD LUCK THOUGH, and if you need futher help, SEND ME A QUESTION!

Q: what are some ways the bank can mishandle you money? from credit cards or debit cards?

the only thing i can think about is if they deduct the money twice, or charge waaay too much for a card transaction. they could also take a heavy interest for credit cards.

Q: Okay, this is going to be a long question but I'd appreciate it if you would help.

Ok,I have a friend her names Taylor...I have a real close guy friend named Tanner. I like Tanner ... umm...a lot more than a friend. I think he doesn't like me though. Well...Taylor told me she liked him. I hid my feelings for him..for her because she's my friend...and I honestly don't think I have a chance with him. Well...my friend told me at lunch ...that she's in Taylor's technolgy class. She over heard her telling people..that she doesn't really like Tanner...she's just saying it to make me jeaolus. I was so MAD when I heard that. So, I told her I am not her friend anymore. So, I wrote Tanner a note telling him about what she said. So, in 8th period....Taylor's in my class and she sits across from me in the back row. She asked me why I wasn't her friend...I wrote her a note telling her why...I told her everything...that I liked him.. and I didn't want her to hurt him. I told her she wasn't a real friend...and so on. Well...she told me that she didn't say that ...and if she didn't like him...why would she talk about him so much.(She talks about other guys more than TANNER) So...I told my other friend...and she said that she said it..for sure. So....at the end of the day...I was so mad...I had a drawing my friend made me taped to my locker...and it was ripped...so bad...it was so pretty to. I think Taylor did it. SO..I was walking with my 2 friends. Than, Tanner walked up beside me ...he said " I read your note". I looked at him and said you did? He said ya ...and the one I wrote to taylor...so that must mean that he knows I like...him...I said in the note...that I really liked..him ...and cared for him. He said " Wow... ". I said..".ya...I was mad.."
At, the end of the note I said screw you...and that's what he said wow about.lol "So...she doesn't like me"? He asked...I think he was real hurt. I told him..".Ya I think...she's lieing to me and everything...but ya ".Now, that he knows how much I care about him...do you think he'll ask me out?? I wrote the note... and I told Taylor everything... not expecting Tanner would read it. Like, he was so nice to me... when he was talking to me about the notes. Usually..he's like rude. Like, when I tell him..." Come back dude...we luv you"!! Jokingly ...as friends...and I am like u like us right...he's like..." I like them...but not you"! So...I don't know if he's being rude to me...because he likes me... but that's sorta like a kindergarten thing..and we are in the 7th grade...were more mature.. So, do you think he's starting to like me? Or, what? I really care for him...and I don't want Taylor to go out with him because...she likes a lot of other guys. She usually dates a guy for about....3 days. Like, she just broke up with her ex boyfriend This wesnday...and they went out for about..like 3 DAYS...so I don't want her to hurt Tanner. So...what do you people think i should do?! I am SOOO confused! Thanks to who ever helps!

that's a little immature don't you think. And i don't mean it in a bad way. you're growing older and you need to sort out who your friends are.

forget about Tanner for a while. He's just a guy, there's a small chance that you two are going to get married. Talk to your friend Taylor. Don't write her notes. TALK TO HER. Tell her you like him and you want to know if she was planning on going out with him or not. Also don't be shy. If you like Tanner tell him. You're old enough to take rejection if he says he doesn't feel the same way.

Also if Taylor is the kind of person to date someone for 3 days and break up with them, she's not a nice person. And if she knows you like Tanner and tried to make you jealous by saying she likes him...she's definately not a friend.

Q: So right now I have medium hair length, a little wavy. And side bangs. But I want my bangs to change. I was thinking the short ones that come up to my eyebrows and they go straight across, not side swept. But the problem is, I play a sport and I don't want my bangs to get in the way. So how do I go about putting them up. And my face is oval so do you think straight across bangs with medium shoulder length hair looks good?

As the person above said, bangs that go straight across are totally in right now.

To keep them out of your face you can either use really cute clips or bobby pins or one of those elastic bands that keep hair out of your face.

http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylephotogalleries/ss/hairgallery_7.htm

Q: Does anyone know how to put a song from youtube onto your ipod? I'm dying to learn how.

Well if it's just the song you want, you can download it from sites like rapidshare or megaupload or programs like limewire.

If it's a song by a youtube artist, you need to ask the artist to post the song on a site like rapidshare so you can download it.

Good luck.
Ps: if it's something else, send me a question if you want.

Q: 16/m
There's a girl in one of my classes that I like. We always talk and she smiles and laughs a lot. We say hi and talk in the halls all the time.
BUT...sometimes I'll message her on facebook and we don't really talk that much. I also heard her say to another girl she doesn't want a relationship at the moment (she just broke up with her bf not that long ago.) So does she like me? Should I ask her out?
I'm really confused!!!

Girls smile and talk to boys alot, but it doesn't always mean they like you.

I smile with guys alot, and most of it is just out of niceness. However you should get to know her more. Talk to her more and learn more about her. The more you guys open up and share things, the more you'll really get the vibes or not.

I wouldn't push too hard though. When girls get out of relationship and don't want to rush into things, it's either because she still likes her ex or she has been hurt by him and needs time for herself.

Just be her friend, and if she likes you, it'll take it's course.
Good luck though!

Q: http://i41.tinypic.com/34tbip5.jpg

Its the one that looks out of place. Its like yellowish on the nail with that one long dark brown streak, and the skin is discolored on my finger from my nail to halfway between the fingernail and the knuckle. Its like the skin has peeled off or something.. its pretty tough too. Like when I touch it, its pretty hard and not bendy like the skin at my other fingers. When its in a normal position its like.. a pale brownish pink, but when I pull my fingers into a fist, that whole area of skin is yellow.. its kinda creepy. It doesnt even hurt or anything. I got it when I was like in 1st or 2nd grade. I played at the monkey bars a lot and got blisters.. but idk if its from that.. or where it came from. I got medicine for it in 4th grade and it seemed to work only a little.. it still looks pretty bad. more discolored than it appears in that scanned pic. I'm 15 now and the problem is still there.

Its annoying cause after a while the doctors say theres nothing really wrong with it but how can 1 finger look so different and stuff and be normal? UGH there has to be some type of fungus or something i am not aware of. and i dont want to wait for my finger half way down to the knuckle to just one day fall off or something. i need the answers that my doctor isnt saying much about. my parents dont know much what to do with it either. and btw the nail grows on that finger like the others, it looks a bit funky now cause occasionally I bite my fingernails but that doesnt do anything really.. I mean the nail just grows back.

I scanned my fingers by pressing them to my scanner so it looks a bit smooshed, but yeah.

I'm not sure if there is a cure for that. Actually my grandma had a toenail like that, cause she had hit it on a rock when she was smaller. She still had it till she died.
It may not be the same thing though, but you should go see a dermatologist. I believe they deal with skin and nails too. It may just be a special fungus or something.

PS: I don't think nail fungus's will make your finger fall off, but if you don't like the look check a dermatologist!

good luck :D

Q: okay im 14 and i usually have vaginal discharge a lot. well, just today i had lots of brown stuff come out... is this my first period? i'm very confused, why is it brown? is it my period?

It's probably your period if you still have it today. I'm not sure why it's brown, but i know the first time i got mine it was brown and i was so confused.

Tell someone and let them show you how to use a pad and stuff. It's better to get someone to teach you than learning from online.

Q: So my head has been really itchy the past month or so. And its just the back part of my head.
My hair is starting to fall out, like crazy.
Do you think its head lice? Or what?
I've checked the sides of my head, and there doesn't seem to be anything there. How do I check properly? Should I go to the doctor? Or what?
Hellppppp.

Well the first thing to consider is how much you wash your hair. If you wash at least 3 times a week then it may be something, but if you wash like 1 time per week, then it just means you need to wash your hair more often.

Another thing is how much hair is falling off. About 100 strands are supposed to fall out/die everyday. If you don't comb your hair daily, then you'll think alot is falling out when really it's just a build up.

It could be stress if none of the above applies. I would go to a doctor. I believe you normally go to a dermatologist for hair problems, so you should go to one.
Good luck!

Q: okay ive been peeing really pale yellow pee. like so pale its almost completely clear. And it doesnt do it all the time, like it will do it then it wont for like the next few times i pee and then it will. Im not dehydrated. Is there something wrong with me? I really dont want to go to the doctors.

Deeply colored pee means you're dehydrated.
Slightly yellow means you're hydrated.

If you still think something is wrong tell an adult. Sometimes things can happen and it seems normal but it's not. it mostly likely means nothing, but if you're still scared tell/ask someone in your house or some family member you trust.