I am a 44yr old Mom and wife of 20yrs. I am a 3 year suvivior of open heart surgery w/a valve replacement and on my second defibulator/pacemaker installation. And to add to the survivor part I now am a reciant of a Heart Mate II heart pump it has been nearly 6 months sense I have been out of the hospital. And come the first of the year I will be activated at the top of the National Heart Transplant list.
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Hi I'm a 16 year old babysitter for a 4 year old boy. I love him to death and there is definently no way that I will leave him, but I have a problem. His parents are going through a divorce, and ever since it all started his mom has been having me do more and more housework. It started out with the usual things; clean her son's room, clean the kitchen, empty the dishwasher, and clean the family room. I had no problem with these chores seeing as I used the things that I was cleaning. Then it got to even more; vacume the house, wash and dry the clothes(3 loads), fold and put away the clothes(4 loads), make the beds(3), sweep the garage, vacume the stairs, clean up dog and cat pee and puke, clean the bathroom, etc. And I'm not getting anything extra for it either, if I don't do it, she threatens that I can't babysit for her anymore. Should I just continue doing these chores, or should I do something about it, I don't know what to do. (link)
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Wow, when I was a babysitter at 16 I just watched the kids. I didn't do any house work. I think she is using you for her own gain, I know that you are close to the kid. But I doubt you even do that much at your own house. I would demand more pay if you want to continue to babysit for them.
I would just tell the Mom that if she wants you to do that much she would need to pay you more. Or you will just babysit and thats all.
That is what I am thinking. Good Luck
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well we both agreed to do r&b (link)
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See it was easy to talk about it wasnt it? Now you both are on the right page. This makes you look and sound more orginized. And mature.
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Hi i am a 16 year old female babysitter. the family i am currently babysitting for have a 4 year old son and they are getting divorced. this is not only changing when and how long i babysit for them but it is also affecting me on a personal level. the father knows that i am also really good friends with the mom, so he is using me as the mddle man so to speak by telling me mean and negative things about the mom, fully knowing that i am going to turn around and tell the mom everything he has said. i don't know how much longer i can deal with him being so negative about her all the time. i am on the verge of dropping his end of the job.
What should i do?!?! (link)
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Well,
I feel that you shouldnt get drug into the middle of their situation. This may sound a little rude to do but for your sanity...next time he begins the mud slinging just put your hand up in a stop motion and say " Please STOP!"..."I don't think this is any of my business." and just walk a way. It will be a shock to both of you but it will stop him from making you feel uncomfortable.
Hope it helps.
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I love my boyfriend. with all i have. we have been together for 9 months and i know, i KNOW i love him. but he and i are a really close couple. our lives kinda suck so we stick to each other. we are very dependent, we are each others best friends, each others everything. he used to have a ton of friends though and now hes not close to a lot of people. i know its because of me. i kind of stole him away from all of them. he REALLY wants close friendships with guys again and i can tell its really bothering him. he doesnt blame me, but i do. ive been thinking maybe its best if i let him go. like that saying if you really care about someone you have to let them go. because i really think hed be happier and healthier if he went out and was on his own. hed make friends and do what made him happy and live his life. right now i feel like i really hold him back and it kills me but im so selfish because hes like all i have. but honestly, should i let him go?
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You do need to talk to him. If you are bestfriends as you say then you can talk about anything. He needs to know what's bothering you and you need to know if this situation is bothering him. If he is longing to have some guy friends then tell him its ok. Cause he needs to get that out of his system now and not when you are married...if it comes to that.
It will be worse later if he doesent get it out of his system.
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I have this talent show coming up and this I like asked me to do a duet with him and I have NO IDEA of what song to do. Any ideas? I like r&b. Songs like My boo by Alicia Keys and stuff. Nothing to old please! I'll rate. (link)
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Maybe you should find out what kinda singing voice this other person has...For R&B it takes a certin kinda voice to be able to pullit off. You dont want to have a country singer singing R&B....LOL Get my gest?
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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WOW! I wouldnt have her to see them at all. Now, by law I think if she gave up parental rights then that's it you dont have to allow her to see them. And most defenitlly not allow your daughter to go live with her. If you do you will probably never see her again. As squarally she has been during their lives you just never know what she might do. Now, on the other hand, I think by law if she didnt give up parental rights and then she should have been paying child support. If no child support then no kids. I know my oppenion is very stern. But, being a child of a single parent I am very suspisous of the "leaving parent" and wanting to see of get back into the childs life.
I hope this helps....
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I'm 17/m
All of a sudden, I realized that I had feelings for my really good friend (17/f). I'm pretty sure she likes me too, there's a lot of touching and ass grabbing and stuff like that. However, I don't know if
a) I SHOULD make a move and
b) if I should, then how
She goes to my school and normally I make it a policy not to date or hook up with girls from my school but I can't seem to get her out of my head. (link)
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You know I didnt date when I was your age. I waited until I was in collage. But, I have been married for 20 years now and before we married we dated a lot but only as friends and it escelated from there I think that dating your marring your best friend is a good thing. I will last longer and be more meaningful.
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Ok. I'm in my early 30's. I'm a single father. My mother is recently widowed. I own and operate a multi-location company. I also manage a handful of celebrity clients as well. So I guess you could say I have alot on my plate. Given I'm an earner alot of people outside of myself call on me for financial support. I'm in a different city everyweek and I spend my days working in my offices and my nights at the studio or scheduled functions with my clients. Recently the woman I love and wish to spend my life with came her for advice on our relationship and to my dismay perfect strangers who have met me have passed judgement on me. Allow me to explain. I met this woman about 4 years ago and at that time I was knee deep in work as usual and I was coming out of failing relationship but for some reason God decided to bring this woman my way. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, determined, loving, caring and did I mention beautiful? Nevertheless we met and instantly hit it off. I actually felt so comfortable with her that I took my daughter along with me on our first date. To me I had nothing to hide and I wanted her to know exactly who I am. My breakup drug on...like some relationships do and I found myself in the middle of a love triangle. On top of that I had infidelity issues. Yes I said it. I'm not here to lie to you. She also had her friends too. So the poor you is not what it seems. Most importantly the first love of her life seem to always be a compared me and I didnt seem to measure up to him. She loved to party. Party all the time til I had to ask her to slow down. On top of that she ran with a crew of serial seducing ladies who had relationships with some of my friends and clients. We had fun. Alot fun. So to me it was what it was. We loved hanging out but we never talked of the future. Anyways enough about that. The other relationship is finally over. It has been for awhile. I'm not saying it was right or wrong but I am being honest. My biggest problem is people tend to comment on the very same thing that they themselves have been through. Life's not a scripted journey. Every chapter is different. Moving on. Did I mention I run with entertainers and athletes? So that means woman are throwing themselves at you from every angle and because of this I find myself in some sticky situations to say the least. I've learned that I love her. That came to me like a dead weight dropped on my head. I love her deeply. The problem is she cant let go of the past and I cant change the past. If I could I would in a heartbeat because I'm ready to move on with my life. My mother and father were married 54 years when my father died so I tend to think that theyre relationship was a successful one. So thats who I look to for advice and what I found is that even my father had his ways. No ones perfect. But for everyone to say "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not fair. Love doesnt give you a heads up and most men dont get it til its too late. I've since then changed my ways. I stay out the club. I only go out with her. I keep the female traffic off my phone. Basically I'm at a place where I just want to be with her. However, since I'm really busy she takes that as cheating and I dont think thats fair. For example she may call me or text me and I'll respond clearly that I'm in a production meeting or with an attorney or maybe even in rehearsal for a show. Once I say that she begins to ask me a series of questions that I cant answer at the time since our atty is $425.00 an hour. But then she goes into a tantrum and turns me and evil towards me and I just dont think thats fair. I dont deal with any other women. She hasnt heard about me being around any women for quite some time now but she still wont let the past be the past and I love her. Deeply. We both discussed counseling but my issue was I felt that we should pay 50/50 so we both have vested interest in the sessions but that never happen. Normally when she tells her side and they get around to my side people come to a split decision for lack of better words. Now with the response from this site coupled with the past against my fight she's decided to leave me? Are you guys happy now? I mean you've never met me. Dont know my struggle. Most of you sound like you've had your own struggle with the opposite sex. What makes you an expert? I love her. Now she's gone away from me and I dont know what to do about it. I am not cheating on her. I asked her to take the next step and move in together and/or get married. I have no problem with committment to her. I admit. I was wrong in the beginning. But thats not where we are now. I've stepped up and changed my ways. I'm not the evil person she lead you out to believe. I want her back. I miss her. I need her to understand that I've grown. My life has changed. Yes people do make changes. They dont change completely but people make changes. Have you never made a mistake or had a regret on an something you did? I ask you. Is my relationship salvagable? Is their way for her to see that I'm here for her? I would never hurt her again. She mean to much to me. Can you help me? Thanks. (link)
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Wow, I understand your situation completely. People as total stranger for advice because maybe some one out there may have gone through the same situation in their life. We as resposible adults, should take what people say or advise with a grain of salt. From what you have discribed to me is, it sure sounds like this girl you love is quite immature. And if there is no trust then there cant be a strong relationship. I have been married for 19 years my only marraige. We dated for almost 5 years before we married. He and I are really good friends. I am not jealous and neither is he. Plus, neither of us give the other a reason to be jealous. When you marry you need to leave your old ways and become as one with your spouce. That means if you party or have a bunch of friends then you need to stop parting or party with the one you want to spend your life with. If you have a lot of friends then you should have mutual couple friends. No hanging around with singles....thats what gets you into trouble. I understand that about your work. But work belongs at the office and is not brought home. Work is left at the front door. We are human...and we make mistakes we need to understand that of each other. Also one person may take the actions of another differently then what was intened by the other. I hope this makes sense. If you feel that this girl is your soul mate. Then fight for her. But, please bear in mind that if she took the advise of a stranger and left you then maybe her feelings are not the same as yours. A relationship is alway a work in progress. We always have to make comprimises. You have to say sorry even is your not at fault...just to end the disagreement...we some times have to bite our tongues just to make pease. This is very hard to do. It takes a lot of work. Now you might need to set limits with your clients. When your not in the office it is your time. No one calls turn your phone off and let your clients leave a message and you will deal with it when you are back in the office. Maybe get a different cell phone for your personal use only. Like your mother I am sure she had to bite her tongue many times just to keep pease in the family. You do things to keep the pease. I hope this helps... This is just what I personally have had to do and experienced that is all I know.
Pam
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I am 42 and I just recently got married to a woman I have known my entire life but we both got married to other people shortly after high school. She has three teenage daughters Sam is 19 Meagan is 18 and Audree is 16. Their father left them shortly after my wife had her youngest daughter and so she has raised them all by herself. They have always been pretty affluent because my wife's family has quite a bit of money and she is a magazine editor. She lets the girls get away with murder and they get everything rthey could possibly even dream of wanting. I have a very big issue with this since my three sons (19 18 aand 17) are expected to follow very strict rules. I was in the army for several years and my children are expected to abide by my rules or face the consequences.
The girls however are completely out of control, especially the youngest one, Audree. My wife and i both agreed on a curfew for the all six kids when they moved in. She convinced me to change the curfew of my sons to be midnight for all of the kids. I agreed but with hesitation. Like always before my kids have always gotten here on time or before their curfew while her daughters completely disregard the rules. For example, Audree was late for curfew 4 times out of the 7 days last week. My wife didn't even talk to her about it. When i confronted her al she said was "She is only 16. I think we should just let her live her life." I found out the other day that her girls have never been grounded, never had acurfew, and are very open about teh fact that they go to parties and drink. Sam has gotten in 4 accidents since she has lived here, and Meagan has her boyrfriend over all the time without supervision, all things i dont tolerate from my own kids. Audree came home in tears the other night because she got a ticket for driving 19 MILES OVER THE SPEED LIMIT! My wife just hugged her and tried to calm ehr down the entire night and i never heard a single word about the ticket, which i had to pay for sicne none of her kids have jobs. I almost feel as if she is condoning this outrageous behavior since she never repremands her kids. I don't know how to explain to my kids about thsi double standard in our house but i feel like i can't interfere quite yet with her disiplining (or lack there of)since i am not their real father and have only been in their lives for 3 years. I just don't know how much more of this disrepect i can take from them. They are beautiful girlsand i love them like my own. I wish i could treat them this way though. I feel like i owe it to them to lay down the law and punsih them for things like curfew and partying and bad grades but i dont know if it will just put more stress on our relationship that could eventually cause tension between my wife and I. How should i handle this? (link)
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wow, as I read through your question I just thought about those rich movie star kids. I know you feel being strict is the way but you need to understand that the girls have been put through changes too. Maybe you should sit your kids down and be frank with them. And then as your wife if you could speak with your new daughters. And if she agrees then sit them down and be frank with them also, explain to them that you know that you are not their father and dont want to replace him.
But you would like to be apart of their lives and explain to them how you are. What rules you feel will help keep them safe. And that you would like for them to come to you if they have any problems you will listen and try to help them work things out. And then you need to sit your wife down and talk to her. Explain to her how your ways are and that you dont want to be an iron hand but a loving part of her daughters lives and you two need to work together in keeping them safe. I dont know if this will help but give it a shot.
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in order to get your GED, do you have to take all the classes that your high school requires for graduation ? or do you just have to pass a test ? &who do you talk to about it ? (link)
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now it has been a long time sense I took my GED test. But, you can take classes so you can pass the GED test. But, from what I understand now you can gon on line and study the test for free also, I think you can check out the guide lines at your local library. I took my GED test at the Adult educatin center in my town. I think if you call your local unemployement office they have that info also.
Good Luck!
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i am a 15 year old girl. I have liked this one guy for about like since 6th grade and now i am going to be a freshmen...so about 4 years. well we always flirt and like hold hands or are really close to each other. he was a girlfriend but he wants to do IT with me. We meet at his locker all the time during class to talk about it. So friday i went to his locker like he told me. I was nervous even though i realy would love to kiss him. he was saying how he thought i like him and i told him i do but what about your gf, he told me that she didnt have to know. We were standing there and i a thinking what if i made the first move? He didnt think i was enthusiastic this time, because this has happened before him asking me to hook up with him. should i make the first move? if so where, how should i tell him that i want to hook up. should i call him and ask him to meet me somewhere?
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He does have a girlfriend. If you want to hurt her go ahead. You know she will find out. Unless she lives on another planet. Guys talk(Brag) and she may have a friend the is gf to one of his friends and there you go. If they cheat once it gets easier the second, third or fourth times.
So if he is willing to flirt with you while he has a gf then he is probably pretty experienced at cheating.
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My dog has a trouble with biting,he is just a puppy, and he is only play biting but i dont want him to get used to biting, so what do i do? (link)
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What has always worked for me was if it is a large dog and he has his mouth around your arm just gently hold your arm in his mouth and push back slightly towards his throught and he will pull his mouth off your arm. Now, a small dog it's kinda hard to do that so I have learned if a small dog is biting, during mid bite take your other hand and grap it's top lip on the side and squeeze it alittle just enough to get it's attention you dont have to squeeze to hard. It may take a couple of times but it will work. Oh, you also need to make a sound that kind like dissapprovement.
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Hi.
I'm 14/F.
To start off, I hate my life.
My parents hate me and they say I should die.
I don't enjoy life. I cut myself all the time to take a way the pain. My mom won't take me to see a doctor since she hates me.
School is rough. I'm called names everywhere I walk. I'm made fun of for no reason. I feel hated.
I feel like I don't belong. I feel like if I committed suicide, I would definitely be happier. People would be happier.
I know you probably either want to say "Suicide Isn't the way out!" Or "Your parents really love you!"
They don't my parents don't. They told me they don't.
I feel like I don't belong. I've had so many breakdowns. I sit alone at lunch. I don't have any friends. What should I do? Whats a good way to commit suicide?
Please help.
I need it. (link)
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Reading you statement just broke my heart. Do me a favor... call the 800 # and see if they can help if not maybe some one you can talk to.
1-800-448-4663 it's a teen help line. I you have access to the internet try www.teenhopeline.com this web sit is an interactive site. Do you attend church? If not you should. You know God gave you life and you should talk to him about it and see what he says. I will be praying for you. If neither of these work write to me and I'll give you my phone # so you can call me I dont know if I can do any thing but I am a really good listner.
God Bless
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how do i turn on my guy without having sex?
m 17yrs old,female,from malaysia (link)
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I dont have alot of experience with guys but I have been married for 17 years and this always works. Guys seem to like touch. Expecially around their ears and neck area. Kissing, licking and blowing on their ears and neck area really gets mine going.
Good Luck
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My boyfriend's gone for the weekend, and I want to make him a really nice dinner tomorrow night when he gets back.
Thing is, I can't think of a good dessert to make for him. He doesn't like cheesecake, and I don't want to make a cake, because we'll never eat it all before it goes bad.
Any ideas for a really nice dessert for two? (link)
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A strawberry short cake. Strawberrys are very sentual. And if you have extra whipped cream.....
It's really easy at the store you can find either a angle food cake or short cake cups, get some fresh strawberries and some whipped topping. Easy light and very sentual.
Good luck
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15/f hey guys.. so heres the problem: im always awkward when im around people im not really close with. like when imeet new people i'll be really quiet and i wont have anything to say and i'll like move alot but when im like with my friends or whatever im really mellow. do you have any tips on like being more calm and chill? and more outgoing??? thanks! (link)
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I used to be like that at your age. Now that I am in my 40's I have realized that it doesnt matter what other people think about me. I am myself and if thay dont like it it's their problem. The thought is still in the back of my mind but I just go on and live every day they way I want to.
Now, you always need to remember to use manners when speaking to your elders, Yes, Ma'am No Sir.
also to your parents. I hope this helps let me know.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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Have you spoken with God about this? You some people have it worse than you do. If you dont go to church regularlly you should. You will find a solution.
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