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Hi everyone. My name is Tamera. I live in Albany, New York and am 23 years old. I stumbled upon this site when looking for joke advice for my pre-school class and found a gold mine. I have a wonderful husband that i have been married to for 2 years and we have a beautiful 3 week old daughter. Since i will be home from work a lot because of the baby, i will be able to give advice as much as possible. I have 2 teenage siblings (twins- a brother AND a sister!) so teens come to me for advice as well.
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My girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago (reason cited: my arrogance was getting in the way of our relationship). We are involved in a lot of the same clubs (both officers) and so forth at school and so somehow or another, we will need to get along.

Recently I IMed her just to ask how she was doing and what she's been up to. (Have to start somewhere, right?) "I'd rather not talk about it with you," was her reply. Ouch. Cold.

So anyway, ideas? I really don't want to fight her on commitees and such all year. I mean should I just ask her how she's doing until she answers? Should I give her (some more?) space?

Well obviously you are much more mature than your ex. Right now, give her time. Once all of your clubs start and you need to be face to face with her then simply go up to her (or write her a note...whichever is easier for you) and tell her that you realize what was in the past, but now this is the present and that she needs to stop being distant from you when you two HAVE to get along. And that you hope that you will. If she still wants to be cold about everything, then you be the bigger person and keep your cool. Don't freak out on her, dont stoop to her level. Be friendly still but do NOT crowd her. Hope everything works out for you.
Tamera

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Me and my boyfriend have been deeply in love for a year. All we've ever made it to is 2nd base. Yesterday I was talking to him and he asked if I was a virgin,I said I was and he did too. He then proceded to tell me that even if our relationship didn't work out in the long run he'd like to lose it to me. I had been thinking this for months. We both want to make love, not just have sex. The problem is we are NEVER alone. He still lives with his parents and the don't trust us to be alone. Neither does my mom... And if they left us alone he still has a little brother that follows him around every where. I need sugesstions, *sigh* I don't want a 2 minute quickie in the bathroom...

You reminded me of how my husband and i were when we were just dating. We had the same problem. He had an older sister who wouldn't leave us alone for the life of her. We always would tell our parents we were going to a friends house and then he would pick me up or his friend would pick me up from the house i was supposed to be staying at, and we would get a hotel room or even just go to a friends house. I believe that everything happens for a reason, though, so if for some reason no matter how hard you try to make love, it doesn't work out- that just means its not time. Good luck.
Tamera

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What are some good tips or tricks to make making out for fun without being sexual? I don't like using tongue, so what could I do?

Well, making out means using tongue but you could try to bit his/her lips... not hard, don't chomp on them. But grab them lightly with your teeth and pull on them a little bit. The more intensely you do this, the more sexual. So if you dont want to be sexual just take it easy. Do it in a flirtatious way.
Tamera

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My boyfreind has had sex with 30 other girls and he prbably has alot of STDS and he cheats on everyone.its just in his nature. He cheated on my friend he cheated on all his other grilfriends. He tried to finger my friend when they were going out and my frined dint want him to and he wouldn't stop trying to do it. He's a man hore. He's only 16 too and he already had sex with 30 girls. And to top it all off, hes arrested right now I forgot what he did. I think hes too much truble for me because I'm not a good girl but I'm not that bad. hes already wanted sex with me the first day we were going out. I think i should dump him. Hes a bad kid and he will only cause more trouble to me. What do yuo think?

Honey, you need to let him go!!
30 girls at 16 years old? That's ridiculous. I understand everyone makes mistakes, people get caught up in trouble (arrested) but at 16 years old hes ruining his life. I hope all works out well with you and you make a good decision but personally, i think your best bet is to just let him go.

Tamera

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