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if you could get away with cheating would you? ~.^
last night i was at a party that my girlfriend dropped me off at because she trusts me, but i got really drunk and cheated on her, now she doesnt know anyone that was at that party, and if i dont tell her, shell never know, but i feel guilty because she does trust me, but the whole reason i dont wanna tell her, not so im not the bad guy or not so she dont leave me, but because it will hurt her, and i really do love her so thats the last thing i want to do. overall im not a cheater, i was really drunk and would never have done it sober. should i tell her??
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i find it amusing that you give everyone who told you not to tell her a 5 and those who told you to tell her got 3s.
Let's put it this way. If she somehow finds out about it from someone besides you, she'll be even more devastated. She will be hurt probably, but she will get over it. And it could cause a better understanding and trust to form between you two since you were willing to admit your mistake even in face of losing her trust. Contrary to you not telling her, it will cause a gap to form between you and her, whether unconsciously or not. Buying her a present will make you feel better, not her. It'll only be something nice you did for her and have no real meaning. Seeing that you were drunk, she should understand. People do stupid things when plastered.
On the other hand, you could not tell her and have this dark secret that is always between you and her. She might not know, but you do and it'll eat away at you. She'll love you, trusting you, not knowing that you really betrayed her the one night you got drunk. Too soon, the feeling of guilt will overwhelm you every time you see her laughing unknowing face. You'll end up telling her and she'll become upset that you choose THEN to her and not right after it happened. She'll ask you why. why you couldnt trust her enough to tell her earlier and why you did it and then kept it a secret.
Think about it. If you love her as much as you say you do, then you would tell her. It will hurt, after all betrayal always hurts, but it will save your relationship from shattering if she were to find out later and through different means. Dark secrets are the ban of relationships and your secret can lead to things that you wish never happened.
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TELL HER. keeping things away from her is one of the worst things you can do..and she deserves to know..yes it is going to hurt her but if you apologize and make sure she knows you love her things might be okay..but seriously you need to tell her because relationships need honesty and trust and if she did eventually find out by somebody ELSE, which could very easily happen, she'd be even more hurt then if you had told her because she had to hear it from someone else. so i think you should tell her and let her know that you were drunk and unaware and you would NEVER do that again.
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i wouldnt tell because it sux when girls get hurt because a guy made a mistake. i think the best is to completely forget it. but make SURE it never happens again. if it make you feel better buy her a present and make her feel special. everyone makes mistakes and im sure you've learned your lesson. =) hope i helped
SAM~
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think of it this way. is the same thing happened to her and she cheated on you would you want to know? if you said yes then you should tell her, but make sure to mention how you really love her and that you never meant to hurt her and will never do it again. if you said no then don't tell her but just remember that you did the wrong thing and if she does find out somehow she will be even more mad that you never told her in the first place.
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NO. You feel guilty and thats a good thing. :)
Telling her might ease your guilt but that only helps you. She will be hurt, and if you do not intend it to happen again, she is hurt for no reason.
People make mistakes. Young people make a lot, thats part of learning. I hope your guilty feelings are punishment enough. If you didn't feel guilty, I'd guess you didn't care about your girlfriend and the answer would be different.
So in the future don't get drunk enough you don't know what your doing. And keep the secret. :)
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