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i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but he is a couple years older then me and definitely way more experienced then i am. i am afraid that if i have sex with him then thats all our relationship will be about. and i dont want that. so should i just wait to have sex with him?
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*I believe you should wait to have sex with him, because if you're having some concerns -- you shouldn't go through with it right now. I think you should confront him, and talk to him about how you're feeling. If he's a good boyfriend, he'll understand, etc.
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I think you should wait, because it seems that you're having some trust issues with him -- that are completely understandable. I've been through something like this before, and do believe it's best to wait.
However, I think it's a really good idea to talk to him about this, and how you're feeling. Communication is key in a relationship. So I would definitely have a talk with him, and tell him that when you're ready, you don't want your relationship to only consist of sex, etc.
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From all that you have said and told us, you want to have sex with your boyfriend. Nevertheless, it seems as if you really don't trust him. If you truly trusted him, then you wouldn't ponder the possibility of your relationship ending up to be all about sex. I'm glad that you don't want that. But to truly decide if you want to have sex with this guy, you have to find out how you feel about this guy. Will he stay with you in a relationship with sex, or will he only stay in a relationship with sex? From what you know, do you think he is the type to allow a relationship to become all about sex? You have to find these things out and KNOW them for CERTAIN, AND IT WILL TAKE TIME TO DEFINE THEM. I think that you need to think and analyze his character from your viewpoint only. Darling, don't rush yourself, you have all the time in the world. And you can see what kind of guy he truly is if he doesn't support your decision to wait further. Don't rush yourself and analyze your b/f to find out if you think he'll allow a relationship to be based totally on sex.
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i think that you should wait for somebody you truly love and possibly wanna spend the rest of your life with and feel completely comfortable with because its a HUGE decision and you should wait until youre completely ready and know that the relationship wouldnt be based off of that if it happened.
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Age isn't the issue; whether or not you're ready is. You need to be honest with yourself- ask yourself whether or not you're ready for sex. If you're having any doubts, then you may not be. It seems to me that the best thing to do is get to know each other better. Once you establish a trusting relationship and really care about each other, then what you have won't revolve around having sex. I think that you should wait to know him better. You'll know when and if you're ready to have sex with him.
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Ok first of all you need to think about this a lot before you have sex with him. You are able to say no and wait for as long as you want. If your boy can't understand that and leaves you.. then he's not worth it!
You need to talk to him about this, let him know that you do want to have sex and you feel ready but you don't want sex to over rule your relationship with him because it's not what you want.
The good side of it is that he is experienced, he can guide you but it is totally up to you! Don't feel embarrased, tell him that you want it to be special! Hugs and kisses are just as important too, make sure that he makes it passionate for you and not uncomfortable!
But at the same time ask yourself if you really are ready..! Don't just have sex with him because he got it else were and you feel like you have to give it to him because he's had it before!!!
Just remember to be safe! Wear protection!
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out of curiousity, how long have you guys been going out? but regardless, I really suggest you wait. Just rushing into the physical part of a relationship is generally not a good idea. You want to wait till there is a strong bond of trust between you two and you feel like you are ready to do it, not to mention the fact that you are sure that, even without having sex with him, your boyfriend will still love you. And that even after having sex, his feelings for you wont change. Also, consider the fact that you have a high chance of ending up in a position that you will really regret, because once you do it, you can't wish it never happened.
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Tell him your concerns. He's your boyfriend, and if he loves you, he'll understand where you're coming from. Tell him you don't want the relationship to be about sex.
If you're questioning sex, or doubting it, then you shouldn't go through with it. Wait until you're completely ready. And also, when you do have sex, always use protection. Preferably a condom & birth control.
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