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I really don't know what to say about myself. I'm shy, quiet, and the opposite of outgoing. I'm the quiet observer, I guess. I like rock/screamo/alternative music. I don't go out alot, and yes I do drink (I will admit it, not the smartest choice). I don't smoke, don't see the point. I don't do drugs (anymore). I'm in my last year of highschool (well, staying another year, taking extra courses). I plan on going to university (to become a urologist). I've been through alot in my life, which is why I like giving advice. I'm vegan, I was vegetarian for a year and a half.
advice
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
I agree one on part - I doubt a 17yr old knows alot about conceiving a child [however, kids do have kids nowadays, so that pretty much just shoots that down, now doesn't it?].
If you come here thinking you're getting topnotch, certified-guaranteed expert advice, then I think you're the one who needs to stop and think.
By typing your problem, and submiting it on this site, you've pretty much just agreed that you understand that you're getting advice from kids - or maybe adults, who are only saying what they would do in your situation [or what they have done, if they've been there before]. To assume that they're experts is only pure idiocy.
I think you should take another look at your question.
Well , i really like this guy in 7th grade, but the thing is I'm in 8th grade. I don't really know him that well but i really like him.
I know him well enough to like ask him out, but i dont want to yet.
I know some of my friends would give me a hard time about it but i know his friends wouldn't.
Should i ask him out or not?
I rate high for help
x0
>torn
It's only one year, don't worry about it. Plus, if your friends give you a hard time about it, then you'll see how much a friend they really are.
16/f
i really want a baby really bad. like i dont want one for "love" like most of those other girls out there but i think i can really do it and raise a child. ive been having dreams for monthes and ive wanted a baby since i was little but down its been driving over the edge. every night i dream about being pregnant and i want it to be real so badly! im not worried about the money or anything like that but mostly how my parents will react. i think i can haddle it and my parents say i am always great with children and i really feel like god wants me to do this or something.
what should i do?
ps i have no man and the father just wont be anyone so im def gonna wait till i atleast find someone but i have to have a baby in hs
That's great you want a baby, but you should wait. Babies cost alot, even ask your parents if you want an average monthly amount. So you're going to need a job to support the child, which you'll need a highschool diploma to obtain (unless you want to work at McDonalds).
I'm trying to eat healthy, and I wanted to know some foods you recommend for the following catagories that are healthy. Please be specific, I need all the guidelines I can get (and I am pairing it with exercise). Thank you!
Breakfast-
Lunch-
Snack-
Dinner-
I'm a vegetarian, so I can't help you out too much here. Just make sure you include fruits, veggies, and since I assume you eat meat, make it lean. Also, drink 6-8 glasses of water, and have 3-4 servings of milk. Drink one glass of water before meals, so you won't eat as much. And remember, it takes 20 minutes for your body to realize it's full. Hope that helps.
Ok. I recently bought my first pair of Converse. They are Chuck Taylor Premiere All Star, Low, and I was wondering if I am supposed to wear socks with them. If it helps, I'm a girl.
I've seen people who don't wear socks with them, and then there's people who do. So it's your preference, I guess.
okay i like this boy and i used to hang out with him well i invited him 2 my party but im kinda the shy type and i really want to go out with him and just really flirt with him at my party what should i do?
You invited him to your party, that's pretty gutsy (I wouldn't have been able to do that, so that's awesome!). Just talk to the guy, it can't get any simpler than that. If a slow song is put on, ask him to dance. Have fun at your party.
alright well im 13/f and still prude.. and there's this guy i like and thinks im not purde and wants to hookup with me.. but im kinda nervous and idk what about..how can i not be nervous and just do it?? i appreciate any help and i will rate fives
If you're nervous, it might mean you're not ready, which you can't change (not everyone has their first kiss at age 13). Also, it usually just happens. You don't always know when you'll get your first kiss, it's most often a surprise. Is there any specific reason why you're nervous? If it's because you don't know the guy that well, then maybe you'll be less shy when you get to know him. Hope this has helped a bit.
Ok so for new years i want to go to a party but my mom wants to tlak to the parents and its wicked embarresing i dont want her to what can i do. also all the girls are going to someones house afterwards besides me cuz i wasnt invited how do i get them to invite me without inviting myself?
About your mom, there's nothing really you can do. Why is it such a problem? I'd let her - at least she's letting you. As for the other thing, try hinting - tell your friends that you have nothing else to do afterwards, and you don't want to hang with your parents or by yourself. Or, just straight up ask "Do you mind if I come?". You can't exactly get them to invite you, but if you know the person who's holding it, maybe they'll say yes (especially if they didn't invite because they didn't think you'd go).
when i am with my friends i am really outgoing because im like comfortable with them you know? and also im a huge flirt. ok so people tell me that i think im the sh*t and i think im so cool and pretty and all of the boys love me. but thats not the case. what should i do because this is causing me a lot of trouble. it really sucks that people think that of me. please help. thank you ♥
By the sounds it, they're just jealous. You have self-confidence, which is very hard to obtain, but once you do, very worth while. They're obviously jealous that you're outgoing, and they're not. Tell them that you don't think you're "all that", and that you're just happy with yourself. If they don't understand where you're coming from, that's their problem.
I just recently became a vegetarian. The thing is, I really have no desire for meat. However, I feel like I'm eating the same things over and over again. Does anyone know of some good vegetarian foods/meals?
Veggie stirfry. Easiest thing ever, but kind of takes awhile. All you do is chop up vegetables (I used broccoli, green and red peppers, pineapple-yes, a fruit, &mushrooms), fry them, and eat it with rice and pasta, or by itself.
ya see i am an only child and sometimes i get stuck on wat i should do, sometimes i have a friend over but people at my house get on my nerves messing with my stuff always wanting my attention, don't get me wrong i like hanging out but if there out my house in about 2hours i get bored ya see my parents are preety strickt so my friends are boring and imature
so if you can give me advice on some cool things to do like maybe a list or somthing i'd be real happy thanks
and remember i rate 5's to every one who tries
Instead of them going to your house, why don't you go to their house? Possibly watch a movie, or play videogames. You can also be immature once in awhile also, you're still a kid, you're not expected to be an adult. Let go every now and then.
if you want to try doing drugs and its your own decision...is it wrong?
& what do ya do when//if ur parents find out?
your friend the
-XxX-soon 2 b drugy -XxX-
For doing drugs, we all know it's not the wisest. It's not the smartest, but it's like smoking or drinking - if you're going to do it, be sure you can handle the concequences. So to answer your question, it's your choice as to whether it's wrong or not. As for what to do when the parents find out - that's when responsibility kicks in. If you're going to do it, be sure you can deal with whatever punishment they hand out. And chances are, they will find out sooner or later. I'm not telling you not to do it, nor am I telling you to do it. I'm just saying, if you're going to do it, be sure you can handle what's coming afterwards.
hey is there any way to get a "flatter" butt cuz i have as people say a bubble butt.. im 15/f and i just wanted 2 know if there are any exercises or things that i shouldnt eat in order to get a more flatter butt...? thanks alot!
Walking alot actually slims down the butt. There's also what I call, "the butt walk". You sit down with your legs straight in front of you. Then, you "walk", so to speak (move one leg forward, then the other, both still being straight). Hard to explain, if you need further details, ask, I'll try to explain it further. Hope that works for you.
ok i didnt know what category to pick so i just picked one.. ok me and my friends all want to do something on new years eve but we cant figure out what.... help us out..... ps. we are all 15... and i mean there are parties and stuff but i dont wanna go to em...unless its last resort.. any advice????
Perhaps you could get together and watch home movies, or if you guys have a videocamera, videotape the last hour of the year 2005 (11pm-12 midnight). You could also just choose random movies, and watch them. Or, if you live near a skating rink, you could go ice-skating. I hope I've given you a few ideas.
Anyone know some really good pop/rock love songs? 5's for good suggestions.
Crush - Mandy Moore
Don't Wanna Miss A Thing - Aerosmith
Cheap Trick - Want You To Want Me (there's other bands who also sing this song)
That's all I can think of for now.
Ok, i recently posted a "get advice" thing because my sister hates me, and wanted to know what to do about it. So i started to talk to my friend, Mel who is REALLY good with advice, and i went on and on on how horrible my life was and she said:
her: NO
her: don't even start on that "my whole life" shit
her: okay!
her: You life has sucked i guess
her: I mean, duh, you've had a family, and money, and you get anything you want. You have both parents who love you
her: My dad died on christmas eve, my family has NO money, my mom is depressed
her: my older brother won't move out
her: don't even start saying that your whole life has sucked
her: because you have NO CLUE what a sucky life is like!
and then she signed off. Now her away messages says "Yeah, pretty pissed right now. Don't feel like talking. Be back on later." and i totally can relate, but i just REALLY hope i dont lose her friendship. Like, she's really the only person who understands me, and has been there for me. I really dont want to lose her. And i thought since we were such good friends i could just sorta cry on her shoulder, when it turns out she was the one who wanted to cry i guess. What do i do? i called her house, but her brother said she was sleeping, although i really dont think she was. What i want to know is, 1. how do i know she'll still be my friend, and 2. what do i do when i need to get this off my chest? cause i obviously need someone to talk to :(
Thanx,
-Daddy's Little Defect
I'm guessing she's been bottling everything up, and is used to being Miss Advice Girl, but wants some advice on her own. Tell her that you don't mean to offend her, that you know her life is bad, but you feel comfortable telling her about your life. Explain that your life isn't drastically horrible, but isn't perfect. Also, tell her that if she wants to talk about her problems, you're there for her as well.
13/F
okay well me and this guy Jordan dated for 6 months and he dumped me in August. I know I had my chance before and everything but now i realize i still really like him! I really never stopped liking him acctualy. But now my best friend Chelsey is dating him!! What should I do? I can't tell Chelsey that I still like him becauase then She'll hate me forever. Should I try to break them up? Should I talk to Jordan about it or maybe straighten things out with Chelsey (( prefferably not )) ? Please help me. I'll rate 5's unless you're mean.
Sincerley,
Broken-hearted lover
Okay, I can tell you don't want to talk to Chelsey, and talking to Jordan would kind of be a bad idea (since well, Chelsey's your best friend). Usually when people break up, they break up for a reason. Try to think of things that you hate about him, or try to think of other guys you see as potential boyfriends. Just try to think of it this way - who do you value more, Chelsey, or Jordan?
this is what happened..
an hour and 10 minutes ago my phone rang and my caller ID said it was my boyfriend so i was all excited and im like 'hayy' and my 'friend' answers so im like what? She goes 'hey its ***** im at the mall with *my boyfriends name* ahahhaahahhaha ok bye' im like what the hell that was really mean and i start hysterically crying.
so i call my boyfriends phone and she answers nd im crying nd im like 'can i talk to *my boyfriends name*' and shes like 'why are you pist' nd im like 'because you call me and your like 'oh yea were at the mall and im with *my boyfriends name* and your not haha'
Im like 'can you put him on please' shes like no why are you pist' im like 'can you put him on please' nd shes like no nd im like can you just put him on! and she goes YOUR A BITCH and hangs up!!
so now im crying 10x harder
I call one of my good friends for support and when she answers i hear their voices in the backround talking about it so im like OMG SHES WITH THEM! I say 'are you at the mall' nd shes like 'yea why are you mad at *friends name*' nd im like 'is *my boyfriends name* there' shes like yea nd im like can i talk to him shes like r u crying? im like yea and then she screams '*my boyfriends name* YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS CRYING COME HERE NOW AND TALK TO HER!!"
I hear "*my friends' name* screaming NO NO NO DONT TALK TO THAT BITCH and MY BOYFRIEND IS LAUGHING!!!!! and she hangs up on me like taking the phone from him. so now im crying 10x than before
I call him nd hes like 'why is *'my friends' name* so pist at u' nd im like 'howcome when i ask to talk to my boyfriend i get called a bitch' and hes like 'i dont know because your being..nevermind im not gonna say it *our friends name* you say it' and hands the phone to our friend.
So then our friend says "why are you mad at *'my friends' name* nd i told him nd hes like ohh or whatever and my boyfriend gets back on the phone nd im like 'you know what go go be with them because i dont give a shit. go have fun'
He goes 'no' nd im like YES **** BECAUSE I DONT CARE AND NEITHER DO YOU SO HAVE FUN' nd he goes 'sorry bye' nd i hang up! that makes me 305894085940865 times worse because he doesnt even care
i was crying for so long. this is soo horrible! what should i do? and he always says to me 'what are you doing later/tomorrow want to hang out?' and im always like 'yeah' but we never wind up doing anything and now he goes to the mall with my best friends and he doesnt invite me, neither do me so called 'bffs'. im so effing upset right now. any advice? anything at all. oh and if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all'
thanks for reading all of this. xo byee
You call that a friend? She needs a re-course in Friendship 101. I'd be pissed off too, if my friend did that to me. The friend who handed your boyfriend the phone, sounds like she does care about you. The other friend is just...not a friend at all. Oh, and your 'boyfriend'? You can do way better. There are guys out there who will treat you better - there are also friends out there who will treat you better. Nobody deserves to be treated like they treated you.
Let me start here. Before my friend moved here, I didn't have any friends of any kind. My parents were constantly argueing and fighting. I would lock myself in my room for 3-4 hours at a time and turn off the lights and just sit there. Read a boring book or try to do something that would make me a little happier. I don't and didn't do any sports. So then I started wearing black clothes. Then I got into rock and punk music for some unknown reason. I would Cry for no reason untill this girl who is now my friend moved here. Me and her became good friends. We had alot in common. Now I found out that she's moving thousands of Mile's away. I don't want the same thing wrong with me. I can't make any new friends cause I can't trust anyone.. Please Help.
I know it's hard to trust people, but how are you able to if you don't give them a chance? You're not into sports, and that's okay - not everybody is (myself included...unless bowling counts). You're obviously not old enough to work yet, but try joining a club of some type. I know it'll be awkward, but try give it a chance.
Also, by the looks of it, you're suffering from depression. The idea would be to see a doctor, but we all know that's easier said than done. I suggest calling a kid's help phone line.
Hope this has helped a bit.
Hi everyone I am planning to start my own magazine company. I wanted to know from teenagers what do you'll look for in a magazine. If you have any suggestions or comments let me know I will greatly appreciate them. But I don't want comments on celebrities because I already have that covered.
Thank you :)
If you're starting a new magazine, then you'll probably want something nobody else has. A column or something that'll make people think "Oh, I want to read this magazine, because it has this!". Not sure what it could be, maybe something like Hottie Of The Month, Advice Girl, Blush Corner (embarassing stories from staff and readers), or whatever. Hope that helped a bit.