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My friend hates me for something stupid i did!! help!!!!!
Ok, i recently posted a "get advice" thing because my sister hates me, and wanted to know what to do about it. So i started to talk to my friend, Mel who is REALLY good with advice, and i went on and on on how horrible my life was and she said:
her: NO
her: don't even start on that "my whole life" shit
her: okay!
her: You life has sucked i guess
her: I mean, duh, you've had a family, and money, and you get anything you want. You have both parents who love you
her: My dad died on christmas eve, my family has NO money, my mom is depressed
her: my older brother won't move out
her: don't even start saying that your whole life has sucked
her: because you have NO CLUE what a sucky life is like!
and then she signed off. Now her away messages says "Yeah, pretty pissed right now. Don't feel like talking. Be back on later." and i totally can relate, but i just REALLY hope i dont lose her friendship. Like, she's really the only person who understands me, and has been there for me. I really dont want to lose her. And i thought since we were such good friends i could just sorta cry on her shoulder, when it turns out she was the one who wanted to cry i guess. What do i do? i called her house, but her brother said she was sleeping, although i really dont think she was. What i want to know is, 1. how do i know she'll still be my friend, and 2. what do i do when i need to get this off my chest? cause i obviously need someone to talk to :(
Thanx,
-Daddy's Little Defect
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Well, i suggest give her some time, a day or two to relax. Then call her or talk to her online and tell her you are sorry, and you didnt realize it, you just wanted somebody to talk to. And tell her your there for her anytime she needs it and tell her that shes a great friend. Hopefully she'll understand.
For someone to talk to, other close friends or a parent or sibling or me would do. Yes, you can talk to me if you would like. (my sn: BreatheIn4Luck81)
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uhh yeah sweety you dont know how sucky life can be, it sounds like your friedns life is the worst it can ever get. and obviously you can cry on her shoulder anymore because you complained about you perfect life to her for the last time. i dont know...it think your just gonna have to deal with you so salled sucky life on your own. with out a friend
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She is going through a hard time right now, but that's not a very good excuse for her to blow up on you. You only asked her for advice. But, then again, maybe you weren't being the friend you should have been. After all, she does need you right now. Apologize to her and tell her that you didn't know how upset she was.
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Okay wait a minute...her dad died on xmas eve, as in 5 days ago?...and you were bitching to her about stuff?! COMMON SENSE! It should be pretty obvious that she can't help other people right now. Wait for things to cool off and then apologize, but don't be angry if she isn't willing to forgive you right away. I honestly wouldn't blame her.
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i think that maybe she is feeling down..and is jealous that to her your life is better..its like when someone so much prettier than you is saying how ugly they are...kinda like that..tell her your sorry and see if maybe she had a bad day... cope with eachothers problems!
good luck sweetie!!
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Well really, all your friend needs is someone who cares right now because she is obviously the couselour of your group and I know how it feels to be like that. Mel is a person who is the "wise" one and she gives advice but sometimes she feels like no one is listening to her, because you probably aren't. It's not really your fault though, you've probably just taken her for granted without realizing it. The important thing is that you know now and you can mend this.
So here are the answers to your questions:
1. You don't know that she will. What you do know is that you need to do something without waiting for her to get over yourself and start letting you dump on her. You need to either write her an e-mail telling her that you're sorry you were being selfish and that you didn't consider her problems and you want her to know that you'll always be there for her and that she should know that she's really special. Or you should go over to her house right now with cookies or chocolate or icecream or a movie or anything and tell her you're sorry and ask her if she wants to have a little girl time where you guys can talk without being bugged, then let her unload on you so you can help her get through her problems (during this time, don't even mention your sister or any other issues of yours even if she asks to hear them, right now is her time). Hopefully, she'll come around and you gusy will be ok again. Just don't make the same mistake of ignoring her again.
2. After a while, Mel will start listening to you again but you have to make sure you don't rant too often because no one wants to hear unpleasantness all the time. I would say that you should keep a diary (or an online journal like livejournal.com or blogger.com). Writing about it will make you feel -a lot- better. If you aren't that type of a person, go talk to a couselor at school or another friend. You can even come on this site and ask for help.
I hope everything turns out alright.
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ok well..first things first..talk to her!! tell her your sry and u didnt realize all these feeling were all bpttled up inside her..let her know your there for her and you would never ever want to give up her friendship..and tell her you love her.. she needs that right now and just let her cry on YOUR shoukder so she can let out her feelings..and trust me.. that will bring u guys together closer than ever!
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I'm guessing she's been bottling everything up, and is used to being Miss Advice Girl, but wants some advice on her own. Tell her that you don't mean to offend her, that you know her life is bad, but you feel comfortable telling her about your life. Explain that your life isn't drastically horrible, but isn't perfect. Also, tell her that if she wants to talk about her problems, you're there for her as well.
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i think you need to apologize for offending her and tell her that you understand and how you wish this wouldnt hurt your friendship and say you just had a bad day. If she doesnt except your apology then thats her loss of a good friend. sorry if i didnt help but i hope i did.
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Wow... that was probably her only way of telling you how her life is and how she feels. Sooner or later, if she dosen't confront you, then keep trying to confront her about it. Apologize for saying your life is bad and tell her you just wanna be friends and that you dont wanna fight or loose touch because she means alot to you. If that dosen't work then give her some space for awhile. If that dosen't work, then it wasn't meant to be. I hope you guys get back together cuz it seems like you were pretty close..good luck ♥
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Hey There,
Your Friend was pretty hard on you. If I were you I wouldn't talk to her. If you ever need anyone to talk to just send me a inbox message and we can talk. Cause my life sucks to.
She didn't have a reason to act the way she did. I'm sure you feel sorry for her about her dad. But she was just probably just having a hard time. She will or might get over it and talk to you again. I've been in Similar situations. Trust me on this. She is probably heart broken about it.
But then again she might want people to feel sorry for her. Which is really mean. Like she's snapping at you and she knows that you will feel guilty and want to be friends with her and feel sorry for her.
Sometimes you just have to look at things in a different angel. They could either turn out good or they could either turn out the worst. But in the end things could end up going good. Just try to explain to her why you were talking like that. And Remember her life sucks alot to.
If you want to talk you know what to do.
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My parents always argue, my school life is even harder. Stress, friend moving away, Grannie died 3 months ago. So yeah My life Sucks
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