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hey everyone im maria and i love giving advice. im pretty good, at it i must say. so if you have a question just drop it in my inbox. lots of love ♥

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Ok, i recently posted a "get advice" thing because my sister hates me, and wanted to know what to do about it. So i started to talk to my friend, Mel who is REALLY good with advice, and i went on and on on how horrible my life was and she said:
her: NO
her: don't even start on that "my whole life" shit
her: okay!
her: You life has sucked i guess
her: I mean, duh, you've had a family, and money, and you get anything you want. You have both parents who love you
her: My dad died on christmas eve, my family has NO money, my mom is depressed
her: my older brother won't move out
her: don't even start saying that your whole life has sucked
her: because you have NO CLUE what a sucky life is like!
and then she signed off. Now her away messages says "Yeah, pretty pissed right now. Don't feel like talking. Be back on later." and i totally can relate, but i just REALLY hope i dont lose her friendship. Like, she's really the only person who understands me, and has been there for me. I really dont want to lose her. And i thought since we were such good friends i could just sorta cry on her shoulder, when it turns out she was the one who wanted to cry i guess. What do i do? i called her house, but her brother said she was sleeping, although i really dont think she was. What i want to know is, 1. how do i know she'll still be my friend, and 2. what do i do when i need to get this off my chest? cause i obviously need someone to talk to :(

Thanx,

-Daddy's Little Defect

uhh yeah sweety you dont know how sucky life can be, it sounds like your friedns life is the worst it can ever get. and obviously you can cry on her shoulder anymore because you complained about you perfect life to her for the last time. i dont know...it think your just gonna have to deal with you so salled sucky life on your own. with out a friend

14/f here
For New Year's Eve, my family is throwing a party. My job is to entertain the kids and teens. Here are the age/gender of the kids and teens:
14/f (friend of mine)
14/m (friend of mine)
13/f (neighbor)
8/m (neighbor)
4/f (neighbor)
11/f (friend's little sister)
POSSIBLY 15/m (ex boyfriend of mine)

What things can I do to keep everyone occupied?!

get the little kids together (8 11 4) and put on a movie or something, theyll prolly fall asleep. and you know what teens like, you are one. good luck sweets

i'm 5'6 and weigh 140...i feel huge....any ideas on how to get a good body...butin a healty way? i odnt want to have to starve....

thanks

no, your noraml. dont sweat it sweets

My parents are way controling about my life. I am in no way supposed to hang out or talk to boys outside of school. I talk to boys on IM like everday even though i'm not supposed to(screw my parents if u ask me) but i mean i'm not allowed 2 date or even have guy friends! Is there any way that i could get my rents to change their minds? Cause talking to them won't seem to help. Also I need sum ways to sneak out to movies or w/e with my guy friends. Plz help guys! thnx xoxoxoxox
-marsbars

yeah, they have something wrong with them how old are you? tell your parents your going to your GIRL friends house, and go hang out with guys. or say your going to like the movies with your GIRL friends and again, hang out with guys. good luck

Is it right if your little brother and his friend does somthing wrong, and just becuase you are the oldest you get the blame and get grounded?

no

ok so im doing my first audtition ever for a musical in school. i have to sing a portion of a song thats pretty medium paced. also i have to sing "do re mi fa... etc" do you have any tips that will help me do a better audition? oh yeah also i have to do a little speaking.. like not singing.

dont just stand and talk or sing, act with your hands and your expressions, sing a song from the show if your allowed to choose. when you sing dont just stand there walk around and again use your hands. good luck.

p.s. im an expert on this ;-)

ok well this christmas seems like its going to be terrible... because i'm like gettting older, and all i can think about is who my friends are these days.. so it makes me in a terrible mood the whole time. I don't know what to do, because i'm not even excited. Ugh, somebody help please, what can i do to be happy? and i'm sorry if this didn't make sence..i'm just not really in a good mood =\

well listen to some christmas a nd watch some christmas movies and youll feel better. thats what i do. but im sooooo excited for christmas....just think about it, all the fun, family, presents that you dont have any room for. oh i love it! you should too!

My mom caught me smoking weed around three months ago, and I'm STILL grounded, even though she does it.
Well, a little over two months ago my mom came home from a party high and extremely drunk, and piss, and depressed, and, long story short, attempted suicide and spent 5 days in a hospital. I don't know how I stayed grounded though all of that, but I still am. I get random UAs too. I was thinking tonight that I could gather up some money, some stuff, and run away from home. I'd keep in contact with my family, and not come back until they'd stop with the UA stuff, because I don't think it's right that I get my schoolwork done and then smoke responsibly on the side, and she gets drunk and high and does crazy shit and has a crappy job. If I ran away, I would have shelter. should I do it now? wait till after Christmas? Not do it?

stay at home and get as much help as possible, you need rehab!

I know this might sound nasty but it burns down below when i go to the bathroom. and this morning on the way to school it still kinda burned and it felt weird, not normal. i dont know if i have something wrong with me and if its because of sexual activity? does anyone know what this might be? please dont tell me to go to the doctor because i dont want to do it right now. just tell me what you might think it could be! im so scared. please dont leave ride comments im just worried about my health! anything will help!

i rate good! for good answers

&&heaRts; scArEd anD WorrieD!

well if you have had sex before it might be an STD but if you havent or have it might be a urinary track infection (UTI). i suggest you talk to a doctor. good luck!

well my girlfriend and i have been going out for four months now. i was told she wanted to make out with me but we just had our first kiss last night and i dont want to rush it. her dad also hates me and we only see each other at school. should i make out with her and if so, when and where would be the right time?

tell your parents that your going somewhere with your friends and tell her to sat the same thing. then meet her somewhere where your parents wont find you and then wait for the perfect time and make out with her. good luck. surprize her

After you put toothpaste on a pimple, is it supposed to tingle? Does that mean its working?

yeah, tingling means its working

I'm a 17 year old dude. I've got hair growing everywhere on my chest (NOT gross thick like in 40 yr old virgin or anything), just a lot of testosterone.
Anyway, do girls prefer unshaved or shaved chests?
If I shave my chest and stomach, what about my underamrs?
I don't think shaving legs and arms is good idea. I mean, I'm a Texan and shaving my body is hard enough.
What about, down there? That region. Shaved or unshaved. (I'm trying to stay 'young person' friendly with this question).

yeah, im a girl, i prefer shaved chests, unless your like a warewolf id say everything else is fine. good luck with that.

i have horrible grades. and i dont know how. i try hard. but i have to miss a lot of school. our school has a rule about after 11 absents' you may loose class credits. im a sophmore. i try hard and im very smart. i have easy classes. but i think the bad grades are because of the missing school. you know. which most of the time wasnt my fault. i was in a really bad wreck. my car rolled 6 times. and i broke a rib and slightly punctured a lung. adn broke my collar bone. and had 311 stitches in my left arm, and 83 staples in my head. so obviously a bad wreck. my doctor ordered me to stay out of school for a week or two. so i did for a week in a half. and that was 7 school days. then i got really sick. adn missed like 3 days and then sick again and missed a couple more days. my princepal has told me i need to go to school. but i was sick and couldnt even hardly get out of bed. what would you do to get your grades up if you missed a lot of school
ill rate high

Allright sweety, your school is COMPLETELY UNFAIR! They cant blame you for missing school because your seriously injured! My God, thats so unfair! they should give you your work to do at home. this is a matter worth sueing. have one of your parents call the school and tell the principal that you are very injured and you need your school work to do at home. good luck!

My girlfriend and I live togehter and we both believe she is pregnant. She was told by her doctor years ago that she has endometriosis and that she coold not have kids. We had a scare several months back. She took 5 at home pregnancy test. 3 came back positive and 2 were negative. 2 weeks later she had her monthly cycle. She is now late again 2 months. She again has taken at home tests. All 5 have come back positive. We are pretty certain that she is but need a doctors blessing before we tell our families. Problem is that she has no insurance until mid January 06'. We cannot go through the holidays without letting our parents know. Do you know of any places close to or in Geneva IL. where we can get a doctors exam that will not cost us over $100. I have called several OBGYN offices and with no insurance it will cost atleast $135-$175.00.

first of all, you need insurance, i suggest you get it soon. when you get insurance, see a doctor, youll find out soon. good luck

I'm pretty sure i'm a christian. But i sometimes doubt God and if he's there or not. Does this mean that, if i like... died tomorrow, i would go to hell. Am i not allowed to doubt God? It seems like the only people who are considered religious are the ones like "i'm sure he's real b/c i've read his word and i believed it" but... i'm a very doubtfull person and i can't just believe things like that. Does this mean i'm not going to Heaven?

true christains believe in god, no matter what theyve heard. they believe in him and they dont have to see him to believe. you believe in heaven and hell so you pretty much believe in god. stay with your beliefs. no matter what people say.

I was diagnosed with Planters Warts today on both feet. My doctor said that if the cream he prescribed me didn't work, they would have to surgically remove them. My mother had the same thing 40 years ago, and said the shot they give you hurt the most.

If anyone has ever gone through this procedure and could give me a heads up on what to expect, that would be great.

yep the shot thingy hurts the most, everything else is fine.

Im in 7th grade, and my friend in 8th smokes. she isnt a bad person at all. well, at the end of the school day, we hugged and everything, when i came home,my mom smelled smoke on me and i think she thought i was smoking,even though id never do anything like that. she does know abt Jenny and everything, but how do i convince them that im not smoking or anything?

tell the truth. tell her you gave jenny a hug, she knows about it right?

What are some good musicals like Rent and Wicked?

RENT is the best!!!!!!! the movie is the best too. actually i never saw the musical. but the movie is the best one i have ever seen.

I'm going to NYC with my crush and his family this Friday. He's 15 im 13. I was wondering if my outfit sounds okay.

I'm wearing these comfy "yoga pants" from American Eagle. They're grey and have foldover waist. I'm wearing an American Eagle shirt that says Be Bright on it. Since we're going to NYC im wearing a white northface over it with a white knit hat that has a pom pom on it. Any other suggestions would be welcome!

good. :-)

What are signs of a boy liking you??? Cause i like this one boy but i dont know if he feels the same way!!

here are some signs....
1. if he stares at you then when you look he looks away.
2. if he stares at you mouth or your body when you talk to him
3. if he sits as close to you as possible.
4. if he fixes his hair around you.
5. if he compliments you on your clothes.
6. if he alks to you during class even when the teacher tells him to stop.

well thats all i can think of, hun. good luck

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