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baby maybe?
16/f
i really want a baby really bad. like i dont want one for "love" like most of those other girls out there but i think i can really do it and raise a child. ive been having dreams for monthes and ive wanted a baby since i was little but down its been driving over the edge. every night i dream about being pregnant and i want it to be real so badly! im not worried about the money or anything like that but mostly how my parents will react. i think i can haddle it and my parents say i am always great with children and i really feel like god wants me to do this or something.
what should i do?
ps i have no man and the father just wont be anyone so im def gonna wait till i atleast find someone but i have to have a baby in hs
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Well, you should be worried about the money because there is practically no way you'll be able to support a child on your own at that age.
"i really feel like god wants me to do this"
That's interesting.
"...or something."
Well, you sound so sure of yourself.
If anything, God would want you to have a stable relationship and for you and your spouse to be educated and each have a job that is not only paying bills, but is generating enough cash flow that you can safely store money away for the future. Why would God want to be this picky? Because God would want the very best mother and father for every child born. Any less is depriving a helpless child of opportunity.
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first of all if all the girls that were just like you got pregnant and had babies this world would come to an end.
You think your ready but i bet you a billion your not. You have no idea what your talking about. seriously someone needs to get you some serious help and now.!
You say your not worried about the money. You Prob think that your parents are going to pay for everything for you. What are you trying to put your parents in dept.(sp?) Your parents prob cannot afford to raide another kid. If the did they would have another kid themselves. You have to be able to afford diapers, bottles, clothes, bed, formula, meds, toys, diaper bags, and many many more things. You have to be able to keep a job going and be able to stay in school all at the same time.
Yea your great around kids. ( almost everyone is believe it or not) Thats not your kid and you have to treat that kid good you do not have to supply that kid with everything he/she needs.
Your parents will not be happy that you want to have a kid. If you get Pregnant your parnets will prob think that your grown-up enough to go live on your own. your not and thats what you will have to tell them.
This is what gets on my nerves. You do not have a husband, boyfriend. You do not go and have sex with the first guy you freaking get with after this have sex with him and have him get you pregnant. changes are he will leave you and wil lhave to let the baby grow up without the Male-figure to help him become a man some day.
Being pregnant in high school does not make you any better then anyone else it gives you a bad name to some people. its harder for you and you miss alot of school. Don't say you wont.
I'm done now and you got what i thought. thanks
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well just wait sooner or later you will find the right guy the guy of your dreams and some one you love. then when yall are ready both of yall. then you can try for a baby. and get married. hope i helped. sry i can't do any better.
Andie
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First plan to sit down and talk to your parents about this. Tell them you feel you are ready to rasie a child of your own. If they go for this great, if not explain to them what you've told us here. Next step is finding a man to be the father. It's good you don't want it to be just anyone. You should be dating a while and have really known him first. Also respect his wishes if he is not ready for sex. But it's great that you are planning to have a baby. Just make sure you know all the facts that you need to know before you get pregnant.
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That's great you want a baby, but you should wait. Babies cost alot, even ask your parents if you want an average monthly amount. So you're going to need a job to support the child, which you'll need a highschool diploma to obtain (unless you want to work at McDonalds).
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Well, I know how you feel. It just means that you're a sensitive person and that you're very in touch with a fertility Goddess. But I'm telling you--wait until after high school. Babies cost a lot of money to take care of, you will need to work full time which you can't do while in school. And being pregnant during school hours will basically just suck. There are a lot of really gross aspects to pregnancy too and it'll be hard dealing with that on top of the normal pressures of school. If you love your future child you will wait until the right time. I know it seems like the right time now, but if you get pregnant and then find you can't handle it? Just a few months ago I felt the exact same way that you do, and now I feel completely different and am I ever glad I didn't get myself knocked up. When you have a baby, your life is no longer your own. Are you really ready to sacrifice EVERYTHING for a child?
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i really really think you should wait. you're only 16 & once you have a baby you can't go back. you don't want to regret it & you might think you're ready but you aren't. even if a guy has sex with you, he probably isn't ready for a baby & if he says he is he's probably lying. you can't even afford it. you're only 16. i don't wanna sound mean, but the childs life would be in your hands & you can't mess that up. i'm not saying you wouldn't be a good mother. you're juss too young. you should at least wait until you're married er 18ish. not 16. you need your hs education so you can support your children. maybe you can juss become a really good babysitter & be with kids instead of actually having your own. think about it. God might want you to have a child but i don't think he means at age 16. you should really finish your hs career & then see what you want.
-hope that helped!♥
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Well, first find a guy that you like. Once you find someone who you feel most comfortable with, and he feels comfortable with you, talk it over with him and see how he feels. But definitely, after you find someone, ask your parents how they feel about it. I think it'd be worse if you just got pregnant and they found out & assumed it was because you were just being careless and had sex. Explain to them beforehand that you did it because you wanted a baby, and everything you said up there. Say you feel like you'll be really good with taking care of the baby, etc. They'll hopefully understand. Good luck! <33
ariel :)
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