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HEY GUYS. I figure i know a lot about advice. I have been threw a lot from family violence and growing up in environments with a lot of stress and stuff to relationships and sex questions. i have had my best friends move away, feel the pain of a lost love one, feel the hurt of loving some one so much it kills, and many different levels of love, pain, sorrow, and CONFUSION! so just ask away ill try to helps ya out ;D later

Hey so Its been a while since I have been on here just wanted to update a little.
I have had a few more life experiences. I have a best friend new to my life as of a few years ago now and she is amazing. I couldn't ask for some one better.I lost my first love from stupid choices i made and now am trying things a little differently i won't do the same stupid stuff as before. Hit me up ID LOVE TO HELP!!
Oh and I started college :)

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Hey im 14 i need advice!
My ex asked me if I wanted to make out with me and he is one of my best guy friends. and i aked him why and he said that cause I didnt do it when we were going out so now i wanna. My friends tell me I should. But I find it werid thats all but he doesnt find it werid i Havent answered him yet...
WHAT SHOULD I DO????

the question is do you want to make out? If its not something that you WANT to do I wouldn't no offense but he kind of sounds a bit shallow. It can always go bad and since he is your x i don't think it can progress any where because there had to have been a reason yall broke up in the first place right? And you may have heard this from you parents but NO JOKE kissing gets you no where but in deeper with trouble when it comes to boys. If it is something that sounds exciting to you like you'd wana do it then go for it but know what you are getting your self into and be careful because you don't wana be hurt.It can be quite complicated.

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i like a boy but he thinks i like him as more than firends

have a serious talk with him. be straight up and just tell him. he is a good friend and what not right? and you like having him around? you have to set him straight before he likes you too much and the relationship can't be fixed.

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what does it mean when someone keeps blacking out?
it happens all the time at the most randomest moment. im in a middle of saying something and i just freeze.0.o

some times it can be a variation of epilepsy. other times it is a certain disease that is specific to passing out or blacking out and the name is on the tip of my tongue but you might wanna go talk to a doctor regarding ti so that if there is an issue you can catch it now. It also can happen from not enough potassium.

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Ya he knows he did wrong unless he doesnt.
But we had couple of up and downs ya he never asked me out but it was differnt.So he finally talks to me by texting me what am i doing. I have not replied and its been few days. And my fear is that he already given up on me or not much care. But i love him and miss him and. I just want him to talk to me one more time and i will reply.

Some times we have to go out of our comfort zones and get past things like fear to get what we want. Sometimes that last conversation isn't always a good idea because it can hurt really bad but sometimes it can do good 2. I Have had to grow a lot over the years and learn how to just take a step and jump inot things so maybe you should just text him a small txt saying how you have been busy whats up haven't talked to you in a while. something comfortable and small and simple. just be sure you can hold your self up no matter what because we are all that we have when every one else goes on to live their lives.

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I have talked with my 35 yr old son many times to attend college, and he has not done so as of yet. Is there any thing more I can do to get him to see he needs to attend college to make a better life for himself? He says he going but has not. He is very smart and intelligent and made good grades in school.

some times a little help goes a long way. i know your job as a let me do this for you parent is long over but every so often us kids need a push :) with out my mom and my best friend i would have let the first semester slip right past as well. we have to be sat down to do something or given some papers to sign up and .. money is always scary.Just a thought.

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f/16. so many things are going on especially with this guy I used to "talk" to. we were together for a little over six months. he told me he loved me. everything was great. i didn't want the whole "boyfriend. girlfriend" title because in my head i feel as if it gives him more power to hurt me even though I knew it was possible for him to hurt me because I was emotionally attached to him. recently we've been having problems. we completely stopped talking for a month. we had a talk and now we are i guess acquaintances. we both seem miserable though because we want to be together, we love each other, we just need time.
my best friend who is also friends with him, told me she feels as if she talks to him as more than a friend. she told me this while we were high. I asked her if she liked him and she said "no, I never said that" but due to the fact that I was high I went into deep thinking and somehow convinced myself that she likes him. i started having flashbacks to a few times the three of us hung out and she would try to make me look stupid in front of him. I'm not sure if I'm just over-thinking everything. I've promised to stop smoking weed, and I'm going to stick to it. I'm trying to get my life together but I don't know what to do with the guy I'm in love with. It's so confusing. I love him, he loves me but now we barely talk. I hung out with him and my best friend right after my best friend told me that stuff and we were still high so I stood quiet pretty much the whole time in fear that I would say something I would regret. I left first and I hugged him around three times because part of me kept forgetting I already hugged him and the other part didn't want to leave his side. my best friend made a comment that got me really mad. "damn, stop hugging him." he gave me another hug after the comment.
I'm very self conscious and have a really low self-esteem. I feel like I'm going crazy. I'm completely lost, I feel worthless and I don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to that I trust. My mom passed away and my dad left me a couple of years ago. I live with my grandma but we rarely talk.

You sound like very many people i have seen before.I am very sorry. Your friend.. girls ..well people in general will say stuff to dim down the issue. No one likes to upset any one else so if she does like him she isn't going to be forward with you it seems especially if she knows how u feel, she might try to hint and kinda get you to get it with out saying or admitting it but maybe you should talk to him about that . that will take time thought. to fix any bond or relationship of any type it takes time.Life takes time. You are going to have to rebuild any trust and understanding you have between this guy. things have become distant and broken it has to be healed to get better and faced. Try just having small conversation every so often talk about good times go do stuff just you and him or u and him and some other mutual... nice.. non threatening friends or siblings or something. just talk.. when you can just talk to some one about what ever no stress no awkwardness no worry, it can mean the world and fix so much for 2 people it creates strong bonds and makes it so that people wana do it again. just... give your self time and go slow and don't forget to take care of your self you need to watch your emotions and see from an out side view of whats going on and what your facing. some times our own opinions are altered or blinded. I hope that helped at least a little

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Heres the thing. I really really like my best guy friend. We've been friends for such a long time and he's helped me through so much including a really bad break up last summer.... Over winter break and before he would text me everysingle day and it honestly felt like he liked me but I was too scared to say anything about it. After winter break his friends and mine started to joke with him saying we liked eachther and what not and when I would talk to him about it he'd say stuff like "wow" or "tell them theyre being stupid" never "that's not true". Lately though he doesn't act the same. I have to start the conversation every single day but then later in the conversation if I don't reply he'll get mad. And he always seems really into talkingto me. I felt like I was being annoying though so I apologized to him. What he didnt know was that that ex that was horrible to me is trying to get me back and I knee I cant go back with him but I wanted to! I can't go through all the details just know I CAN'T go back to my ex, I can't put myself through that kind of pain again and it's takn me a long time to realize this... Even though i still want him. And my guy friend is the only person I can talk and not think about or want to talk to my ex... What's up with that?? I told my guy friend this. And I told him I'm not really sure what it means and he just laughed and was like "you're crazy. I havent noticed you being annoying at all. And hun I know you can handle him by yourself you don't need me as much as you think you do" and yeah... I still text him every single day and we hang out every weekend (in a group most of the time). He's so amazing and He makes me so happy and I can't stand not being around him... He asked me last night of it was weird that he danced with this freshman girl at our last dance/thought she was really hot. And it kind of almost broke my heart... Hahaha even though I talk about hot guys with him (and he does get mad about that haha) I felt myself getting sooo jealous. I don know what to do. I know I'm gonna break down today and text him but I can't keep doing this but I can't handle things without him! (guy friend is 16/m ex is 17/m both juniors. I am 15/f sophomore) by the way he HATES my ex boyfriend.

First off I haven't had a guy friend that put that much time and effort into me unless he wanted to be with me. Which might give you insensitive to put your self out there. Some times you just have to go for things and be very blunt.This guy I am dating now,his name is Michael. The only reason i was ok with being with him was because we where such good friends before i could talk to him about what ever and he helped me threw a lot also. a very similar situation with my own ex.i will always love my x but Mchael makes it easier to be ok. Your friend is right that you don't need him as much as you think because people have to learn to handle them selves and things on there own. Internal stuff must be faced and handled as i am assuming you learned threw knowing you can't get back with your ex which i also recently learned.III think that if you have been this close to him for so long and you still have the same feelings and the fact that he can be there for you is sooo good and so clear, meaning he obviously cares, that you should approach him with just talking. Simply he so i dont know if this is what i think it is but you know how important you are to me and i appreciate you so much for helping me with .. everything and ... i think.. i might like you.. type situation and see were he goes with it. DO NOT forget to mention that you love being his friend and that yalls friend ship is more important than anything else because losing a friend like that can be murderous. There is always the chance that he doesn't feel the same but that would surprise me.one bad fact of this is that you guys are so young that sadly some times things don't work out how we want or plan on them 2. i was with my ex for a total of near 3 years.. i would have spent the rest of my life with him but things get messed up and life.. is funny it surprises us and we never really know how it will go.. I think its good that he hates your x though bc it .. kinda gives more comfort in how much he cares for you. If he didn't care about u so much he wouldn't care about hating your x.So in short i say go for it be blunt but be cautious. You will never know unless you put your self out there a little. and getting hurt is a part of life its necessary sadly but you seem strong :) and have gotten threw some stuff apparently so i think you will be ok:) just like i said getting hurt happens in life we just have to learn to handle things best for us and keep whats good and makes us happy, keep it in our lives. GOOD LUCK:)Its good to talk about stuff and have an understand of each other and each others view.. with full understanding of where each other is coming from :)

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if you're using a condom does the guy have to stop and pull out before he cums or can he just cum while he's inside a girl?

He does not have to pull out. The condom catches the cum so that it prevents pregnancy.

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hey neighbor! so yah my parentals are really trying to make me do football but they arent actually MAKING me. they just keep talkin bout it and saying like if i dont wanna do it, i have to call the coach! ugh! i dont know how to convince them that i dont like football :(. i just wanna do music and stuff so i dont know please if you have any ideas, tell me!

♥
Kyle

call up the coach :D tell you're parents you are doing band or what ever makes you happy :p you only go threw high school once ... hopefully and you can only take the classes while it lasts so GO FOR IT. make you're self happy

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i'm 18 years old and i have a lisp, not the kind you usually hear but the kind when you talk and sh and ch sound different, and people always make fun of me. i've never had a boyfriend and i think that it's horrible, i always feel like i want to die because no guys like me. i don't think i'm ugly lots of people tell me i'm pretty some even say i'm beautiful and i do have some very good friends. but why don't guys like me?? i just don't know what is wrong with me besides my lisp.

first off ill give the common answer.. guys are stupid. it happens ya know and i thought i was unattractive for a long time. its not like there is anything wrong with you, its really a people thing. you have to meet the right people. the right guys. some times the friends that are guys are so shy or quiet to say anything and some times we just don't realize people are noticing us.i guarantee you will meet a boy just right for you one day maybe even a couple. you just have to be you're self. i know some guys who love lisps they think they are cute :D. most guys are shallow no offense but they are. and if you are going after the guys that every single super model pretty lots of make up girl is going after... it makes them even more shallow . which sucks but that's why people fall in love :). all this may not be exactly what you like to hear because its kind of vague but i don't want you to feel like there is no hope because there is. as long as you are you're self there will be some one.. always some one better or some one to make you happy

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i have always been a really sexual person, the problem is - my boyfriend isn't. I have values and I am not a whore, but I have always had alot of sexual tensions so when my boyfriend of 2 years suggested we have sex I was more than ready. After we did it I realized how much I really like it and was always up for it but he didn't have the same sex drive. I don't want to pressure him into anything so I don't talk about it much, but I can't help who I am I really love to feel sexy and have fun and who else to do that with than the one I love!

I think the sex is good for him he just told me he just doesn't hve that much of a sex drive - he's 18 so I don't understand why. I am not an unattractive girl, and he loves me I don't doubt that, I just don't know why he doesn't want to have sex? I compliment him all the time so I don't think he is insecure...

I'm a really sexual person, and this is driving me crazy what can I do?

well he may be doing it because its kind of new to him.. but if you know he wasn't a virgin before then it could be cus its a love thing for him ( he waited 2 years) its special to him so he may not want to just have sex alot.. i am the same way sometimes with my bf i want to have sex alot and we just can't or he will wana have sex but its just not hat i want at the moment i would rather jsut lay with him or something sweet and show how much i just wana be with him. it could be a mental thing for him. He loves you but he only wants to do it when he is expressing his love the most being with you alone could be what makes him happy. hope i help figure out some understanding :\

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So... I gave my bf a hickie and his mom found out and she just laughed and thought it was supa' funny.... and she said that she wouldnt tell my mom.... but... i'm still scared..... please please please please HELP ME. p.s. I'm 13..... if that helps any?????

so are u worried that she will tell? well some moms are pretty cool and if she gave that reaction i would suspect she wouldn't tell ur mom.You shouldn't have to worry. if she would have freaked out or been one of those psycho strict parents then maybe but you should be safe also ice or a cold spoon will make hickies go away usually

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Are private school (over public) people more hardcore in terms of drugs, trouble, and sex or is it just a rumor? Any reasons why?

lol i went to a kinda small privet school no drugs till freshman year of high school i go to public school .. drugs every where but this school is alot larger it really depends on the people, the size and the location. but mostly its just rumor

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so my boyfriend wants to finger me
but im not sure
because one, i can only fit one finger in my vagina
is this normal?
two, i shave all my pubic hair off but it grows back
does it bother a guy if theres stubble?
please help

1 if the guy wants it saved then he has to deal with the stubble and i have not heard any complaints about a little stubble any way and 2 one finger is completely normal . your vagina is new at sexual things . so it will stay like that at least till you have sex and after that it goes back unless you have alot of repeated sex.causing it to be loose

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Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them?

no no no ... that just shows they only want one thing. in your pants . you have the right idea. because when you meet the right guy he will under stand and want you happy and respect the fact that that is your choice. keep up the good work hun:D

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im 14 and this guy i really like is 17. 18 soon we wont have sex. i totally trust him and he does not love me because im young to get in my pants. when he saw me he thaught i was 18. altho i look like im 10 but im average size lol. is it illegal if were always cuddleing and hes always holding me but were not dating my friend says it is but why would it be. today is my last day with him after this he will be gone forever. we are at a retreat and ive been with him all weekend i feel like ive known him my whole life but we only met eachother friday. we talk about anything we even talked about us always cuddleing. im just not sure. whats the use if he will be gone forever, this always happens. i fall in loive with a guy we get close and he is ripped away from me. im not sure what i can even do?

what makes 18 and younger illegal is sex. statutory rape they call it. but you guys can still stay in touch but thats up to you 2 get e-mail or im or myspaces. keep it at a friend ship or a constant not dating status. nothing is wrong with cuddling.

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i lost my virginity last night, but it hurt and it was reallllly hard for him to fit. he's pretty huge.. so i guess it's understandable.. but is this normal? im afraid that im just too small now. do you think this is perfectly normal? did other people go through the same thing? thanks

yea so . u where a virgin before. untouched. you are supposed to be tight and it does hurt the first 2 times its better the second time but the first time it hurts . its totally normal. and if he was big, bigger than most it would be really understandable for it to hurt more. anything els i can help you with let me know

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Okay, so i used to think hooking up was sex...most people do. Well some people in my school were saying like "omg jen and bret hooked up this weekend!" (im in 8th grade btw) and i thought wait, its way to early for sex and i asked wait what did they do, they said they made out. So people-boys and girls, of all ages, what in your mind is hooking up?

some times it can just be hanging out. or maybe like they started dating. hung out. whet some where together .. made out.. it has lots of different meanings but probably just means they got to gather in that since. i see hooking up in different contexts so yea it means sex. but it means getting together or meeting up 2

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my boyriend cheat on me , is it possible for a cheater (who wont admit that he did) to not do it again or do you think h will keep cheating

cheating is a person thing. i have simi cheated on guys before but i always told them. it could be a denial thing for him . A self impulsive sort of thing . but i have now been with a guy 1 year and almost 4 months no cheating. so people can change but denial is never a good sign.

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Ok so i just had my period at the end of february but now i have it again at the beginning of march is this unusual?

no it just happens it just your body changing cycles or just a random mix up its ok its ok just your body being stupid i hate when it does that so yea its normal

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