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why do i have such a horrible life?
i'm 18 years old and i have a lisp, not the kind you usually hear but the kind when you talk and sh and ch sound different, and people always make fun of me. i've never had a boyfriend and i think that it's horrible, i always feel like i want to die because no guys like me. i don't think i'm ugly lots of people tell me i'm pretty some even say i'm beautiful and i do have some very good friends. but why don't guys like me?? i just don't know what is wrong with me besides my lisp.
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Just because you have a lisp does not mean that your life is horrible. First off, think of all the good things you have in life. Start with the fact that you're ALIVE. I'm sure you have a great life, and you shouldn't let your lisp ruin it.
Just because guys are immature and don't accept that you have one flaw doesn't mean it will always be that way. One day, you'll find a guy who loves you and your lisp, I promise. :)
-Laura (17-f)
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theres always that special somebody for someone. theres noting to worry about you dont wanna be stressing anyways with guys..live your life go out, be yourself, && i can garanteed that a guy would start talking to you. **beauty captures the eyes, but personality captures the heart** that is ofcourse my favorite quote i live by it everyday.
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wow you think you have a horrible?
are you in africa?
are you starving to death?
are you homeless?
do you have parents?
are you about to die?
i don't think so.
for people who said yes to those things, THEY have a horrible life.
just because you have a lisp, or no guys like you DOES NOT mean you have a horrible.
get braces.
you have your whole life ahead of you to worry about guys.
they suck anyways. (most).
so don't be so selfish and get over yourself.
be grateful for what you have,
seriously.
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I believe that there is at least one person for everyone in this world. Dont stress about age because everyone is different. There is a person out there for you and that person will not care about a lisp but love you for you. Be confident that you are you.
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There was once a writer who said "Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities". I've always felt it was the same for relationships and love, if you conciously try to find its not going to work because you're trying to force it and force never works. So you shouldn't think about it too much, in fact you shouldn't think about it at all, you're only putting pressure on yourself which theres no need to do. At the end of the day I think most people would rather find one absolutely brilliant relationship than several kind of semi good ones. So maybe your brilliant relationship is on the way you've just got to be patient.
Another thing, you shouldn't think 'whats wrong with me?' its wrong because everyones different, that is who you are and again you shouldn't try to figure out somethin about yourself and force somethin to change so that people will like you,why should you? You are what you are, its like the one thing in life you shouldn't have to worry about because you can guarantee its stable,so why would you change that?
Also, yes I am well aware that we live in a shallow shallow world, but physically obvious things like lisps are not going to stop anyone from liking you, its one of these things that gradually becomes less and less important the more people get to know you. If it does frustrate you then just concentrate on making sure everyone gets to see your personality more to make up for it.
Ultimately,you need to stop worrying because at the end of the day, as harsh as it sounds, it can't possibly change anything, so you just have to say 'right i'm going to be positive' and not let this annoy me.
I think what I have said may sound quite strong or harsh but from talking to other people about these kind of things, I think you need to be in this kinda of situation, so please forgive me.
I hope you feel better
Mike
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First of all, I doubt that "no guys" like you. If you're anything like me, however, you'll dismiss that statement by telling yourself "She has no idea." So, instead, I'll give you advice based on the fact that no one does like you, even though it's probably not true.
Eighteen years old and never had a boyfriend does not mean failure. It may seem like everyone your age has someone, but it isn't true. I myself am 17, and have plenty of friends that have never had significant others. And most of the friends that have had boyfriends are no longer dating them, which tells me that having a boyfriend isn't life-changing: we will all meet that person eventually.
Being single does not mean there's something wrong with you, and as soon as you truly believe that you can move on to bigger and better things. Instead of dwelling on your flaws, you'll be able to ignore them and just enjoy yourself. And who knows, maybe while you're having fun someone special will find you. After all, they say confidence is the key..
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Having a lisp shouldn't be a reason for guys not liking you. Just because guys don't come up to you doesn't mean they don't like you. And maybe your not the best at catching signs we give off? If there's a guy you like or are interested in then you should give him some signs. You shouldn't feel like dying you have good friends and you'll meet somebody
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first off ill give the common answer.. guys are stupid. it happens ya know and i thought i was unattractive for a long time. its not like there is anything wrong with you, its really a people thing. you have to meet the right people. the right guys. some times the friends that are guys are so shy or quiet to say anything and some times we just don't realize people are noticing us.i guarantee you will meet a boy just right for you one day maybe even a couple. you just have to be you're self. i know some guys who love lisps they think they are cute :D. most guys are shallow no offense but they are. and if you are going after the guys that every single super model pretty lots of make up girl is going after... it makes them even more shallow . which sucks but that's why people fall in love :). all this may not be exactly what you like to hear because its kind of vague but i don't want you to feel like there is no hope because there is. as long as you are you're self there will be some one.. always some one better or some one to make you happy
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