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I'm in love with this guyy who doesnt seem to want me:/
18/f 18/m
Okayy so i met michael on Myspace and we talked for a while. So about two weeks later we actually met face to face and that same nighht he asked if i got sneak him in so i did. We had sex about three times with a condom but the 4th time we didnt use one and he got scared that i might get pregnant so he bought me the "plan b". And we never spoke to each other again.
So now 5 months later he texted saying he wanted to see me and me being so stupid i said yes and we had sex again and he told me he loved mee but that he didnt wanna be with me because he's leaving to the marines and i said i'd wait for him and all he said was that it wasn't gonna work out that wayy and walked out the door:(
what do i do to make him realize we're right for each other and that it'll work out when he leaves...
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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HONESTLY?????You actually think you guys are meant for each other?I'm not trying to offend you or anything but im just letting you know what I think.Look hunn,if he really loved you or cared for you the way you think he does, he wouldnt have done sex with you before he left.Actually when a guy is really in to you they do their best to make you happy and not to hurt you, and HUNN you are HURT here.I can tell.By what Im reading he just used you for a while to have a good time.But ok,lets act smart now...If you really believe he is the one and that you all are meant for each other, next time you see him avoid having relationships,..keep your distance.Its then when you will realize if he really respects your decision or not.If he does he loves you if he doesnt and he gets all but hurt then you know what he wants.Try not to contact him for a while...if its meant to be he will come back by himself.
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lely
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If he doesnt feel like youre worth it, then why is he? If you really want to see if it will work out, then take it slow, when he comes back, hang out with each other to see if the chemestry is still there. But remember that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Maybe stay on break and hang out with other guys while he is away to see if anything works out. If not, you can always see him again when he returns.
Good luck!
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Before I get into anything, I recommend you get screened for common STD's. You can have an STD and not know it-- you can go to a clinic or planned parenthood and get checked out. It is nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about; gynos and nurse practitioners deal with these things on a daily basis. You did have unprotected sex with him once, and not knowing who he may have been with before is a reason to get checked, for your own sake.
Now, regarding your question...it may not be what you want to hear, but I honestly think that you should not continue seeing this guy. It took him a whole 5 months to text you- if he really loved you, he would have kept in touch. Trust me. He says that he does not want to be with you because of the marines. I'm sorry to say this, but that is an excuse. I had a roommate who dated a guy in the marines, even while he was at war, and now they are married with a baby. So if he really wanted to be with you, nothing would get in his way- not even the marines.
My advice to you is to move on. It is not going to be easy- you may find yourself thinking about him and getting sad, but you have to remind yourself that doing the right thing is never really easy. Just remember, guys will do a lot for you IF they really like/love you. Otherwise, they do not really care..they might not keep in touch a lot, see how you are doing, and might bring up excuses as to why you shouldn't see each other....all the things that this guy already did and/or did not do. Take his word for it- he does not want to be in a relationship with you. It will be difficult for you to move on, but you will. Do not look back into what already happened- move on with your life and find somebody who really values you.
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I know this probably won't be what you want to hear, but hun, think about it ... if he wanted to be with you, he would make it work .. actually he would have MADE it work by now, but it seems to me as if he's just using you for sex. and you are SO much better than that, you deserve someone who wants what you want. I mean, when you had the pregnancy scare, he ditched you .. what kind of guy does that ? guys that don't care and who are insignificant assholes. Obviously, he doesn't know a great girl when he sees one, because he's losing you, and you're a great person ! His loss. I just think that you should consider not going after him, or beggin for him to believe that you guys are right for eachother, because i believe that you can do 100% better than him. It's guys like him who keep you hanging around for when they want you ..
But okay, if you REALLY want to try to get him to believe tat you guys have something real and that you are meant for eachother and can make it work, go after him. call him and tell him that you won't let him just leave like that because you actually have strong feelings that aren't just going to go away when he walks out of the door .. you have to take charge and show him whos boss. maybe even write to him while hes gone .. but the only thing you can do is try to talk to him to get him to know how you feel .. and if he doesn't agree, you did all you could .. and should just let him go because you deserve better and there IS better out there.
good luck girl :/ I really wish guys didn't suck so much, I'm sorry. this isn't your fault and you'll be okay, I promise. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me anytime, hope i helped ! xxo.
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