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is 14 and soon 18 illegal
im 14 and this guy i really like is 17. 18 soon we wont have sex. i totally trust him and he does not love me because im young to get in my pants. when he saw me he thaught i was 18. altho i look like im 10 but im average size lol. is it illegal if were always cuddleing and hes always holding me but were not dating my friend says it is but why would it be. today is my last day with him after this he will be gone forever. we are at a retreat and ive been with him all weekend i feel like ive known him my whole life but we only met eachother friday. we talk about anything we even talked about us always cuddleing. im just not sure. whats the use if he will be gone forever, this always happens. i fall in loive with a guy we get close and he is ripped away from me. im not sure what i can even do?
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what makes 18 and younger illegal is sex. statutory rape they call it. but you guys can still stay in touch but thats up to you 2 get e-mail or im or myspaces. keep it at a friend ship or a constant not dating status. nothing is wrong with cuddling.
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It's perfectly legal to cuddle.
Honestly though, if you 'fall in love' after knowing someone for three days, you will keep getting your heart broken.
If this 'always happens' to you, then your problem is not that they are getting ripped away from you, your problem is that you are letting things get that intense after knowing someone for less then a week!
You aren't supposed to "fall in love with a guy and we get close and he is ripped away". You get close to someone, and then you fall in love, trust them, are committed to them, and can establish a relationship with them where they wont get ribbed away.
The reason it works that way is because, as you have discovered, the way you are doing it, doesn't work.
If you keep 'falling in love' this readily, I promise you will keep getting disappointed. Set yourself up to met interesting people and enjoy your time with them. Don't set yourself up for a broken heart.
E-mail and chat with this guy from time to time and see if your infautation can grow into something 'real', and not just an obsession. A few days of cuddling at a retreat is just good fun. To build something lasting takes a whole lot more work.
If you want something lasting with any guy, be prepared to work really hard for it, espcailly if you are considering long-distance. If you aren't looking for something lasting, wave goodbye to him, smile foundly at his memory and let it go.
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