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I need him!
Heres the thing. I really really like my best guy friend. We've been friends for such a long time and he's helped me through so much including a really bad break up last summer.... Over winter break and before he would text me everysingle day and it honestly felt like he liked me but I was too scared to say anything about it. After winter break his friends and mine started to joke with him saying we liked eachther and what not and when I would talk to him about it he'd say stuff like "wow" or "tell them theyre being stupid" never "that's not true". Lately though he doesn't act the same. I have to start the conversation every single day but then later in the conversation if I don't reply he'll get mad. And he always seems really into talkingto me. I felt like I was being annoying though so I apologized to him. What he didnt know was that that ex that was horrible to me is trying to get me back and I knee I cant go back with him but I wanted to! I can't go through all the details just know I CAN'T go back to my ex, I can't put myself through that kind of pain again and it's takn me a long time to realize this... Even though i still want him. And my guy friend is the only person I can talk and not think about or want to talk to my ex... What's up with that?? I told my guy friend this. And I told him I'm not really sure what it means and he just laughed and was like "you're crazy. I havent noticed you being annoying at all. And hun I know you can handle him by yourself you don't need me as much as you think you do" and yeah... I still text him every single day and we hang out every weekend (in a group most of the time). He's so amazing and He makes me so happy and I can't stand not being around him... He asked me last night of it was weird that he danced with this freshman girl at our last dance/thought she was really hot. And it kind of almost broke my heart... Hahaha even though I talk about hot guys with him (and he does get mad about that haha) I felt myself getting sooo jealous. I don know what to do. I know I'm gonna break down today and text him but I can't keep doing this but I can't handle things without him! (guy friend is 16/m ex is 17/m both juniors. I am 15/f sophomore) by the way he HATES my ex boyfriend.
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Honey, I honestly don't see your big problem! Except for the fact that your ex wants you back. Yeah, that must be crappy, but it's your decision. You get to chose whether you want your ex or not! Listen, you've got this real amazing best guy friend, the kind that girls like me just dream of and he cares about you. He takes care of you, you tell each other everything and you have an ex who's dying to have you back. Tell me, wheres the big problem in that? I'm somehow realizing that you keep talking about how your scared that you're annoying, and that you need your friend so much, and how you wanted to go back with your ex although the relationship was bad and that u can't handle things without your best guy friend. It seems to be that you have some serious self worth problems. Your convincing yourself that you are nothing without your best friend, and how you can't do anything without him when you really can! I'm sorry, but what's wrong with you? Even your best friend is telling you that you don't need him as much as you think you do. Stop thinking that you can't do anything or be anything! I mean seriously! I'm not saying stop hanging out with your guy friend, or stop texting, I'm not saying that at all! But girl, you need to learn some self respect. You are a strong and confident woman who can make her own decisions and doesn't need anyone to tell her she's great or not annoying or that she can do things by her self. And you gotta just be happy you got the great guy friend, not every girl has that. so stop with the unnecessary drama! You don't need your ex! And you shouldn't have a best guy friend because you need one, but because you want one. It should be a choice, not a necessity! Your 15 for god sakes, you've got your whole life in front of you. And if you ever want to make it, you've got to believe in yourself. Trust me, you'll do yourself and your guy friend a favor, if you learn to be confident and independent! It's sad to see a woman who thinks so little of herself, it probably hurts your guy friend too! You deserve the best, you can be the best and you've got to believe that!
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First off I haven't had a guy friend that put that much time and effort into me unless he wanted to be with me. Which might give you insensitive to put your self out there. Some times you just have to go for things and be very blunt.This guy I am dating now,his name is Michael. The only reason i was ok with being with him was because we where such good friends before i could talk to him about what ever and he helped me threw a lot also. a very similar situation with my own ex.i will always love my x but Mchael makes it easier to be ok. Your friend is right that you don't need him as much as you think because people have to learn to handle them selves and things on there own. Internal stuff must be faced and handled as i am assuming you learned threw knowing you can't get back with your ex which i also recently learned.III think that if you have been this close to him for so long and you still have the same feelings and the fact that he can be there for you is sooo good and so clear, meaning he obviously cares, that you should approach him with just talking. Simply he so i dont know if this is what i think it is but you know how important you are to me and i appreciate you so much for helping me with .. everything and ... i think.. i might like you.. type situation and see were he goes with it. DO NOT forget to mention that you love being his friend and that yalls friend ship is more important than anything else because losing a friend like that can be murderous. There is always the chance that he doesn't feel the same but that would surprise me.one bad fact of this is that you guys are so young that sadly some times things don't work out how we want or plan on them 2. i was with my ex for a total of near 3 years.. i would have spent the rest of my life with him but things get messed up and life.. is funny it surprises us and we never really know how it will go.. I think its good that he hates your x though bc it .. kinda gives more comfort in how much he cares for you. If he didn't care about u so much he wouldn't care about hating your x.So in short i say go for it be blunt but be cautious. You will never know unless you put your self out there a little. and getting hurt is a part of life its necessary sadly but you seem strong :) and have gotten threw some stuff apparently so i think you will be ok:) just like i said getting hurt happens in life we just have to learn to handle things best for us and keep whats good and makes us happy, keep it in our lives. GOOD LUCK:)Its good to talk about stuff and have an understand of each other and each others view.. with full understanding of where each other is coming from :)
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