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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up
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I can't technically answer for God, whether he would forgive suicide or not. But I can tell you that suicide is said to be a mortal sin, and that you cannot be forgiven through repentance. By the definition of "mortal sin," then no, you wouldn't go to heaven if you killed yourself. You would go to hell.
I almost committed suicide a few years ago. The only thing that stopped me from doing it was seeing the family of a friend whose son had killed himself. They had lose a part of themselves...it's like the pain and confusion that had come with loving someone who took their own life had also taken a part of their heart. They'll never be whole again. I knew then, that if I had taken my own life, it wouldn't solve my own problems...it would just cause more for the ones I loved. Even people who didn't love me and only knew me...they'd always question if they could have done something. They'd never be the same, and they would be a little bit less okay for the rest of their lives. I couldn't allow my own choices to have that effect on everyone I'd ever met.
I pray that you don't kill yourself. Sometimes it's difficult to see options when we're overwhelmed and we feel that everything is going wrong. Sometimes so many things go wrong at once that we can't accept it and we want it to just all end at once. But it's important to remember that our actions have consequences for everyone we touch, not just ourselves. I pray that you'll know that this one person, typing feverishly and hoping to make a difference, is rooting for you to keep on keeping on.
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Please do not kill yourself, sweetie. God has a plan for you in this life. Right now, you just need to pray about your situation and God will get you through it. Don't try to put it in your own hands. Think about the loved ones, family, and friends you will leave behind. They will miss you. So please do not commit suicide. Ill be praying for you.
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God will forgive you he forgives everyone yes you will go to heaven. Please do not kill yourself take your time in jail and come out it the best thing to do. Yeah you will be a bit unhappy but it's better you still get to live your life afterwards.
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Hi there. Look, I don't give advice like this, but please don't commit suicide. I know life is bad now, but later it will be better. But, if I can't convince you, you do need to know God will always forgive you for mistakes. He let's things happen to people for a reason. This is why you should stay because God maybe might open a new door for you. You might have to wait a while, but it will happen. Just pray to God for forgiveness. He doesn't hold a grudge. You will go to heaven. You have never killed or moral sinned against God right? If so, you will go to heaven like all the other good people. But please, just live a little longer. This door might be locked now, but it's open for a change. I hope this helped. Ask me anything else on my page if you need any advice.
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Don't do it. It's times like these where life should seem valuable. You made it out of that accident with your life. Surely you have things to be grateful for. You have God to thank for your life. My advice to you is to turn your life around. Just like old buildings and ships can be renovated, improved, and ultimately repurposed, people can too. Instead of focusing on what's wrong, focus on what's right and wait for clarity. Happiness isn't where you live. It's not about your abilities. It's not about your knowledge, your money, your house, or any of your possessions. But it is about something. It's about what you do with them. You may not be able to walk, but you can surely use your hands for the better of the world, even in prison.
"Christ has no body but yours,
No hands, no feet on earth but yours,
Yours are the eyes with which he looks
Compassion on this world,
Yours are the feet with which he walks to do good,
Yours are the hands, with which he blesses all the world.
Yours are the hands, yours are the feet,
Yours are the eyes, you are his body.
Christ has no body now on earth but yours."
It's not my choice what you do with your life. It's yours. If you're asking me, I say that you have many possible positive things in your life. You could turn to Christ and start over. He is always there. I know it feels like the government is always pushing against you (probably because they actually are), but Jesus is always there. You can always turn to Him. He listens to everything, He protects you, He gave you life. He controls everything that happens. I know it seems like he's against you, but really, truly, EVERYTHING has to have SOME good come out of it. EVERYTHING. "When God pushes you to the edge of difficulty, Trust Him fully, because two things could happen: Either He'll catch you when you fall, or He will teach you to fly." I wish you nothing but the best and you can always ask me for help.
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Please don't go through with suicide. I know that right now you have a lot going on,but I can promise you that suicide isn't the answer. It won't solve any of your problems. Sometimes us losing everything is a way for us to start over fresh and new
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So you'll go to jail, it's not the end of the world (depending where you live as different countries give different sentences).
If you're religious (you've mentioned God), then only by serving the jail sentence (your punishment) he will know that you are sorry for what you've done. You see you want to run from your problems-if you choose to do that then god will know that you gave up your life and he's putting you through a test and it's up to you if you'll pass it. You see I believe that everything happens for a reason and that god had a plan for each of us.
Of course the final decision is yours but I wouldn't advice taking your life-that's what cowards do.
If you wish to talk to me, then email me at:
Natka143@hotmail.co.uk
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Well, I have my opinions on the religious aspect of your question but those are just opinions and I'm not sure any of us can honestly answer that question with accuracy. That being the case I am only going to address the rest of your concerns.
This is coming from both a place of sympathy as well as one of tough love.
There is nothing, I repeat, nothing worth taking your own life.
Ok, you where driving with a suspended licence. Sure that's a crime but even if there is jail time involved I'm sure the sentence is pretty minimal and it's not like you'd be in with people convicted of major crimes like murder or rape.
You're in a wheelchair. Ok, so are millions of other people and they survive. Many of them thrive as professionals, athletes, entertainers and more. There's no reason you can't do the same.
I could be wrong but I hope I'm right in that I think if you already had your mind made up, there would have been no reason for you to post this question in the first place. I think you have you mind made up, but about the fact that you want someone to help you out and get you through this tough time.
While it is your responsibility to own up to what you did and take whatever legal penalty comes your way, I can't imagine any reason why that would make you loose everything. Sure, it might be bad for a while but even so it's an opportunity for personal growth.
Please see a professional counselor and hang in there, you can make it through this.
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I think a better question is will you forgive yourself? Will your friends and family and people that love you be able to forgive you? Life is long and you will have many different high and low points but you don't know that you'll get another chance. Can you forgive yourself if you choose to throw your experience away like that? If you choose to hurt everyone that cares so much about you?
Hard things happen to everyone and we are all in this together. Driving under suspension is not a major crime and you probably wont get that much jail time. If you go to jail think about how you want to use that time? Some of the greatest writers in the world got their best stories in Jail. For many people it can be an opportunity to turn your life around if you don't like the way it's going. Yes it's a harsh environment in there, but your going to be housed and fed and have time to reflect on your life. What is it that you don't like? Are there things you would like to be doing differently? Do you have connections in your life that you can reach out to? Are there people/ places you can go for support?
It sounds to me like you need to take some time and let yourself heal. I don't know if your wheelchair is a permanent or temporary circumstance but it sounds like you could use a little healing, adjusting and accepting. Remember just because times are hard it doesn't mean your experience is not valid. Suffering is part of life, it's human and it builds character and makes us who we are. Some of the greatest films of all time are about struggling through hard times. Billions upon billions of people relate to these stories all over the world. You are not alone my friend. The world may look different fro a wheel chair but difference is not always bad. Your experience is unique, your life matters. Even when it's hard and you feel like giving up, know that you are beautiful and your life matters.
If it's any consolation I am interested in hearing your story. I hope you stick around to tell it or at least to live it. May you stay with us my friend. In or out of jail all is never lost this is just one small piece of your journey.
Good Luck honey.
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Don't do it. Find counselling or talk to somebody who will listen, but ending your life is permanent and unlike what some people think, it is not the solution. Because you can't run away from your problems and if you believe in afterlife, then maybe you will feel unfinished business or regret and that is not something you want to do permanently. Remember, problems are temporary but suicide is permanent. Please don't do it.
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I say dont do it. Theres always a solution and death ill be the easy wayout and makes it even more tragic. Im hoping everything will comeout perfect .pls keeP me posted.
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Well, everyone has different beliefs and I don't want to tell you about my belief to sadden you or make it worse. I believe that suicide is bad. My belief is that it's one of the most unforgivable sins because suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem... Everyone experiences hardship in many different ways. What seems like the world ending can in fact be a bad situation or it might not be.
I think that as an adult, you have to confront your mistakes and do what you can to make it better. You did make a mistake and unfortunately you have to take account of your actions. If you have a lawyer or an adviser, anyone you can go to for advice talk to them. You don't know exactly what will result but perhaps you can negotiate terms that are more suitable for you.
Thinks may seem bleak now, but remember...in order to shoot an arrow far and high you have to draw it back on the bow first. Sometimes life takes you a step back, but you never know if what's coming forward will be worse. Do you best in every way possible...
I'm sorry if this post isn't helpful. I know things are difficult now, but you never know for sure if they're going to get worse. Have faith in your future and actively try to pursue a better one.
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According to many people if you commit suicide you go to hell for eternity. The only people who don't believe that is 1. the ones that don't know 2. the ones that have heard and choose not to believe it or 3. the people who have no to very little spiritual insight. So in answer to your first question no you will not go to heaven if you commit suicide. And if that isn't reason enough to stop you then think on this. If you believe there is a God why don't you try to get to really know him? If you truly believe and repent he will make it alright for you. (not saying you won't lose you disability or go to jail or have any other "test" in life but what I am saying is in the end he will make it alright.) And if you do that God will take you home in HIS own time and you will know in your heart 100% that you will be going to heaven. And who knows? If you repent and give your life to him he might just "show himself" to you
and move on that judge's heart so you won't have to go to jail. And I am really sorry about your motorcycle accident but look at it this way.. at least you don't have cancer! :)But talking about cancer I can think of some people with cancer that have more hope for themselves/ for life than you do. I do understand though you might be worried about what is like going to jail and being wheelchair bound and I will be praying for you and your safety and your peace of mind if you do go to jail. I myself have been close to committing suicide but I feel like God won't let me. Really I am not some super spiritual person lying (or stretching the truth about what really happened) .EVERY single time I was about to commit suicide something happened that stopped me. For real. Every fucking time. It actually became annoying. I live in a house with no peace and my future is not (statistically) that good looing but I some how know there will be a brighter day. I do (every now and then) think about suicide when things get "unbearable" but I don't even try now. Why? Something would only happen to keep me from going through with it. We all have a place on this earth. We just have to find it. And WHEN the time comes we will all die. That's the way it goes. I wish you the best! :)
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I don't see how I can help you, you have already made up your mind. Just keep in mind that there's always a way, there's always something more you can do to solve your problems. I bet there's someone in your life who cares about you and who would help you somehow. Suicide might seem like ''an easy way'' to put an end to your problems, but it's never a solution in my opinion.
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Hey there, sweet cheeks. Unfortunately, I don't know what happens after we pass away, whether it be by suicide or something else. But this is just my opinion and my belief: I believe that God love us all equally and will welcome us into heaven with open arms. Jesus experienced some dark times to, y'know. He has gone through temptations and whatnot, but has proven that like us, he had human wants, needs, and desires. And through his triumphs and tribulations, God loved him and forgave him.
Please, OP I strongly suggest that you seek help. We all have challenges and with will power and resilience, we can have the possibility to grow, rise above and conquer. There is a suicide hotline on the side of my column. You are in control of this situation and I think you should ask for help. Well all experience shitty situations; we are only human. :) Hang in there. xx
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Do not do it you have more to live for in life than you know, & whether you did major stuff in your life that might get you in trouble you'll get through those problems "God gives the toughest battles to the strongest soldiers" which means god wouldn't put things in your life that you couldn't get through. God forgives people no matter what it is & if god can forgive you for all the things you did than you can forgive yourself. Change your life & turn yourself over to god & things will be a whole lot better.
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My first instinct is to say "NO DON'T DO IT! ITS A SELFISH ACT AND CONSIDERED A SIN IF YOU ARE RELIGIOUS!" But after giving it some thought, I would like to change my answer to this: I really hope after you've given it some thought like you said you were going to do, you choose to not do so. My personal opinion is that God gives us the gift of life and yes, it is considered a sin.
I was diagnosed with Major Depression Recurrent at the beginning of this year. I would say for 10+ years I've been "battling" it or hiding it even from myself. While life is still rough for me, I feel like I have a sense of freedom now that I didn't have before. A lot of people commit suicide to finally be free from depression. I could ramble on, and on, and on about how to go about it and how much you're worth and ALL the good you would be giving up along with the bad. I just read an article the other day which summed up depression. You are not alone. I can't give an exact percentage or number to how many people in this world are battling the same thing you are but believe me, its more than you would think. Why don't you try getting some help first? I guarantee you, you would feel even a little better. I (along with everyone else) still have good days and bad days. You take it one step at a time. Some days I'm so pumped and motivated and others I just want to crawl in a shell and sleep for days because its the only way to make the pain go away. Its one day at a time. If you have any more questions please ask me. I'll leave you with this: 1-800-273-8255, National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Please use it if needed and I hope to talk to you later.
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Please take time to think about what you are saying! Suicide is not the answer it is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. I understand where you are coming from. I myself have attempted several times and thank god I survived. If you believe in god then you know that suicide is an unforgivable sin and you surely will go to hell. You dont want this. I know jail sucks but not as much as burning for eternity. If you need help please call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255
or message me again and I will give you my personal email. You can alwaays talk to me. Just please dont do this! It doesnt seem like it now but someday things will be better and all you will be left with are the memories of what you have overcome.
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I can't tell you wether or not your god will forgive you. That's your decision to make. But with suicide your going to effect alot of people that care about you. As some one who struggles with simalar things that you do I'm not going to tell you not to do it because its going to most likely not work but just think about this before following through. Think about your family and freinds and if you think its worth it for them to loose you. In the end the decision is yours but just try to think about the reactions of your actions.
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Please don't it's not the answer there are support groups out there people to talk to. Try that first please
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Oh dear I hope this won't be too late. Suicide is not an answer to your problem! And God will never forgive you if you'll cut your own life and you won't be able to get into heaven. God made us so he is the only who has the right to take our life from us.
I know what you feel. Suicide is not the right way. Think of the solution instead of thinking about suicide. First, think about what would possibly happens when you're already dead. Think about your family-your mom and dad, siblings and own family if you have. Think about how they would feel. They would be totally devastated if you happen to give up your life. There is a chance in you. Don't lose hope. You may be living in a wheelchair but still you can do a lot of things and you still enjoy life. From driving under suspension, you could be in jail. But wait for the hearing. Hire the best lawyer who will fight for you. Do anything you can while there is time til' the hearing day. Never think of self-pity.
Think of many possibilities that would come further in you. If you decide to give up, your soul won't be satisfied becasue of your unfinished business. Your family and friends would be totally devastated if that happens. You're being too selfish on the people who love you by thinking about suicide. Think that you are still lucky enough than those less fortunate people living in streets and those who were sentenced in jail for life.
It's not too late to think about solution. It's not too late to ask guidance from your friends and family. Plan the most accurate reasons and steps to solve your problem.
This could not be more accurate advise but one thing I know is that I give my whole best in helping you. I hope you still there to read this.
Feel free to ask me. God bless you and may God will enlighten your mind so you can come up with great solution.
'Blueheart'
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I urge you not to kill yourself. I do not know what God would have to say about it if you did commit suicide because I am not God. But, I can promise you that you should trust God enough to keep living. God has a plan for everyone. Think of jail as a place to learn and grow. Learn about yourself, pray, and become a better person.
And in the meantime before your hearing, try your best to enjoy life. Take hot baths, eat cupcakes and see friends. There are so many blessings in life.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Live fast die young is your mentality but its still not as bad as the amazing story of W Mitchell. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Read it and research this amazing man how when was still bad for him he made it.He was in a motorcycle accident and was scared and burned his skin for life but he did not give up.He co founded a company that was worth 64 million.Thats not all he had a later injury in his spinal cord and was weelchaired for life and his wife left him because she didnt want to be around a burned cripple.But what do you think happened he did not give up he went running for mayor in his city and made it.Now he is in love again with his wife. AND WHEN YOU THINK IT IS BAD IN YOUR LIFE THINK OF W MITCHELL . DONT MAKE STUPID THINGS you are in a stupid state now.I can prove it to you think when you were little were you thinking like this.IF you were not you CAN change.
Stay Strong
NICK
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Suicide is never the answer. I encourage you not to go through with it. There is not painless way to do it. You will cause the people you love great pain and sorrow by ending your life.
I know it is hard, but please stay. See if one of your close relatives will take you in.
I also encourage you to participate in therapy. Get your emotions out in the open. IF you talk to someone, a counselor that you can trust, they can help you out of this hard time.
Here is the phone number of the
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Phone Number
1-800-273-8255.
I hope you get the help you need. I hope I helped in any way.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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You need to talk yo a preacher or a priest. Throwing away God's gift of life is not a good way to go.
You might feel like you are going to lose everything, but I believe we all have something good to offer the world. Maybe this is a turning point in your life. I believe everything happens for a reason, and we often don't know the reason for events that lead us down a given path until much later.
Take this as a golden opportunity to change your life for the better and make a positive impact on the world. Just one or two small things can make a small impact on the world around you; and it is truly amazing how the actions of just one individual can impact the entire world!
Do the right thing, suicide is never the correct option.
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Well my friend it seems you have quite a lot going on. As a fellow human being I understand the feeling when life feels so heavy and you just feel as if you can't go on anymore, and the only wait out seems to be giving up and throwing everything away.
All of us here on this site are not doctors, nor are we psychologists. We are merely people who try to give the best advice and information and sometimes even support, to people who need it. That might not seem like much, but sometimes just knowing that someone understands or in the very least is listening to what you have to say and is sympathizing with you/for you..can mean a lot to someone.
As for God forgiving you, well no one can truly known. I personally would believe that yes, he would. He is a God of love is he not? Not to get all that into religious debate or anything, and I don't mean to offend anyone who's views/beliefs might differ from mine; but I would assume he would. Depending what your religious background is..we are told Jesus died for our sins. And once we accept "salvation" i.e. join some religion and attend Church and read The Bible and preach and live to serve him than your sins are forgiven.
This is a delicate topic and thoughts/beliefs/views and facts will vary from person to person. Based on the dogma and moral their religious path carries.
I would think..like any parent, God would be very hurt and sad. The Christian and Catholic Bible state that God gave us the path to choose life or death, between blessing and curses. He created us to live. I'd interpret this in my own way and say he'd want you to live, whether this be spiritually as in serving him in his path of religion or to be physically alive here among the living; I would say both.
I'll include a link that has a very touching story and someone's personal experience on the subject: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Anyways, I honestly thought for an hour about whether or not I should answer this question...because I wouldn't say I'm quite on the "right" path as most religious folk tell me, do to my lifestyle. Because of ways that I was born and personal spiritual paths I have accepted and take into practice; however this does not waver my ability to connect with humans. To want to help and be as good as a person as I can be, to want to understand my fellow man and to get a long with them; despite contrasting beliefs and life choices. This is why I answered.
Because I have felt the same anguish both mental and sentimental and physical, that have made me contemplate suicide before. Yet I am still here, because one way or another I fought it. I do personally believe God is a God of love and forgiveness, and that "rebelling" (such as myself as some think and say) children hurt him. But he wants us to lead our life as we choose to hoping we one day will walk straight hand in hand with His name. That's what I think and I do believe I am still alive because he has put the right people and right scenarios in my life to help prevent me from doing something disgraceful.
I think you should speak to someone, a psychologist or reach out to the people of your Church or family. As much as we want to be alone and deal with things (or not) in our own way, it is important to surround yourself with people you trust and who will support and even motivate you to keep going.
There are many people who have disabilities born with or not, whom go on to have fulfilling lives. Not problem free of course, because conflict is part of everyday life; but at the very least they are happy and they overcome with fearless endeavors.
As for your trial you should speak to your lawyer and speak of possible outcomes and what exactly you are looking at.
I am sorry the weight on your shoulders is much and the pain your are battling with is excruciating; I hope you overcome it and realize your life is valuable. And that you do have a reason for being on this earth. Hope it all works out for you my friend.
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Hello dear.Im truly am sorry for what you are going through.
As far as heaven or hell.
All I can say is,is that you need to pray to God (YAH) that he will forgive you,when we repent,HE does forgive us,and try to have a relationship with HIM.I am spiritual as well.And I do understand where you are coming from.
Please,don't go through with this suicide.Your life is not over.
People who commit suicide do go to hell
Why? Because God says''You shall not kill''
Dont go through with it honey.Your life is not over.And as tough as it is what you are going through,I believe God is giving you a chance and an opportunity in the midst of your trial. It is never over,and it should never ever be too late!!
Please,take time to pray and let God help you,and He can and He will if you trust Him
Be blessed and I hope you will pick life :)
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Honestly, no. God won't forgive you. If god ends up being the Catholic god, you'll go to hell. If god ends up being the Muslim god, you'll go to hell. If god ends up being the Indian incarnations of god, you're still gonna have a horrific afterlife. God never forgives suicide, because god is an unforgiving narcissist that spits on people who take his gift of life for granted...
Or so the legends tell you.
If you really believe in god, you should just take the life you have and live it, because those that suffer are supposed to reach the highest levels of heavenly awesome in the afterlife. The hell you face here will keep you from eternal hell in the afterlife... if you believe in god.
If you don't believe in god, you still shouldn't kill yourself. Not because life is awesome and you just can't see it right now, or something, but because that's a selfish, cop-out, stupid way to go. I know you're sitting there, and you're thinking something along the lines of, "but my life is over, so what's the point?" And... no. Your life is not over. It's just going to be radically different, no matter how your trial turns out. And that's scary and it sucks, and I'm not saying it's going to be at all pleasant, but you made a decision and it came with consequences. That's not your whole life, that's an aspect of your life.
Life is hell. I'll admit that. I've tried to kill myself a number of times over the years, and I'll admit that, too. But here's the thing, guy... Every single time I wake up on the other side of my attempt and think about how stupid that attempt was. Not because the world is suddenly aglow with the epic awesome of epiphany, but because it doesn't solve anything. If I'm not here, nothing got better. I'm just not here.
If you go to jail, your life isn't over... it's just different... and you'll have to deal with that, sure. I know a lot of people in jail, for various reasons. I know people in jail that will never get out. Their lives aren't over. And YOU are not going to go in for life, no matter what the verdict is.
Can I tell you not to do it? No. I can tell you that if you do, it will be the single most ignorant, childish thing you did in your life. But at the end of the day, what do you care about some advice off the internet? You have to face your own demons.
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Your concern about whether God will forgive you, tells me that you know that what you are about to do would not please Him. God's forgiveness is not a license to sin. He loves you with an everlasting love and sees your heart. He wants you to trust him with your circumstances.
This is God's promise for you...Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Seek Him wholeheartedly and believe God's words.
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Look I've dealt with many many people feeling suicdal and my honest opinion is its not the way to go. Loads of people turn to punishing themselves for their lives misfortunes and that's not right either, I'm not religious by any stretch of the imagination and in not even sure if God is entirely real to be honest but I don't discourage religion. If you do commit suicide then you're out of grief and misery but you're not the one who sees the pained parents and family and even mates after, you're not the one who picks up the pieces. I can understand this is a tough time to go through but do not kill yourself. Personally I don't think your God would want you to kill yourself! Do you?
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A workmate tells me this story - so it's third-hand - about a dude who survived a suicide attempt.
It was the usual sort of thing, bills, relationships, shitty circumstances, whatever. I don't know. He jumped off a bridge.
As he was falling down towards the water, he realised in a flash that everything in his life was endurable, everything in his life that had prompted the suicide was fixable.
Except for the thing he had just done.
Like I said - he survived. Sheer luck.
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According to what I've heard,suicide leads you to hell. However bad it is,please don't do it. Nothing is worth it. You have to take consequences for your actions and go through it. That's life. Be strong.
Best wishes,
Luchia94
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I understand that facing the possibility of jail time is frustrating, but every time I've been in traffic court (often as moral support for a friend, but not always) driving on a suspended license gets maybe 30 days. Do you really believe there's no worthy life experience that might be worth 30 days of discomfort? Even if it's 60, or more, this isn't a life sentence. You also seem to be saying your disability payments might in some way be contingent on lawful behavior. If so, then consider this an opportunity. You are in a wheelchair. So what? You can *clearly* drive. You're capable of so many other things, I'm sure of it. This could be the opportunity to find a way to use your skills to help others. There is something you have to offer that can be of use to your community. I can understand why you would feel depressed when you're not being valued for the skills you can undoubtedly develop. You might want to find a support network for other people with similar disabilities. You can get ideas for what you could do for work and ideas on how to improve your life and get around the difficulties you've faced in new ways.
Traditionally, suicide isn't believed to be forgiven because the process for forgiveness requires confession, which can't take place if the suicidal person has already died. I tend to think that's a bit too cut and dried, that God understands what's in our hearts and knows our hurts. God knows what you've been through, and these trials are preparing you for an amazing work. I don't think you're as settled in your decision as you might have thought at first. You don't know what may happen at court and you still care what God thinks. You know that the Bible teaches that you were made by God for a special purpose. You have skills and intelligence and humor that can be a great blessing to someone else. Don't deprive that person of the blessing God has planned for them to receive through you. Please speak to someone who can interact with you as soon as you feel any urge to die, the national suicide hotline number is 800-273-8255. There's so much you can offer, please don't lose hope.
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Jail time seems to be the least of your problems; why aren't you doing anything with your life? A wheel chair is the worst excuse I've ever heard so don't give me that, get your life together. Do your time, get out, and do something with your life that "god" gave you.
I don't believe in god but if I remember correctly suicide is forgivable the only thing that isn't is rejecting god. As for getting to go to heaven that depends on how much good you did in the world
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Life isn't easy, nor fair.. but its worth living. Everyone goes through hard times and tests, but God doesn't put more on us that we can bear. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability. The toughest battles goes to the STRONGEST soldiers. You can get through this its not worth killing yourself. As you said, you don't even know if your jail time is 100%. What if you get the minimum sentence? You can truly be an inspiration to others. Life's what you make it, don't take it away from yourself <3. Best wishes.
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God will not forgive you, because life is to be respected. because we are given a special gift over all animals our mind. The people you are leaving behind will not forgive too. but I will tell you that you can get through this if you use your mind stop hearing from you head is the one that is telling you suicide is the solution while if you hear your mind it will tell you that, you will get through this and become great. in any situation there a way forward but we need to be alive to see it. you too precious to the world and the world can't loose you. as long has you are alive there is hope that you will be that great person we all will learn from just hang on there, the world needs you brother. am promising everything going to work out fine if you just stay alive to see how great you will become. am always here if you want to talk.
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Thanks for sending me a message. This could be complicated. Will God forgive you? Ask yourself would you forgive yourself? If the answer is yes, then why end it now? So you do a few years in jail/prison, well you knew the risks for what you did. Don't feel guilty, just pay for your actions with time like a man and be responsible. Learn from the experience and be a better person while doing time. If the answer is no, then what is the purpose of being alive? We all make mistakes.
Being on disability does not mean life as you know it is over. Being on a wheelchair does not mean life is over. If all you see is negative, then you need to turn that into a positive immediately. I make mistakes all the time and learn from that to never let it happen again. If you see a kid crawl, cause walking is not in the mind, instinct tells the kid to get up and try again. For what? Kids know when they see adults they also want to imitate them as they walk. Our instinct is to keep moving forward and hope for change. Don't loose HOPE AND BELIEVE in yourself even if no one around you believes. I believe you can be a better person. You did send us a message here for some advise and I hope you use it to your advantage no matter in what country you live in. Make positive happen!
ULO
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Since I don't know you and exactly what it is you have to lose I can only guess it must be something really great if it is worth dying for! Suicide is usually a far more complicated matter than just losing some material possessions or even your freedom. I am guessing you are suffering from depression and are possibly under the influence of anti-depressants or some other medication that has your mind pretty messed up right now. Most people who are thinking clearly will not choose suicide as an option. Did you ever stop to think if you could be strong enough to get through this, what a powerful message you could deliver to other young people or people in your situation with a physical disability? As I said I don't know your situation but most people with a disability such as yours qualify for some type of SSI or SSD income so why couldn't you just put your things in storage and get a new place to live when you get out? I don't mean to minimize this but honest to God from where I sit this is not a life or death situation!I know they have to accommodate your disability in jail so I really don't think it would be any worse for you than the other inmates. Perhaps fear of the unknown has caused you to blow this all out of proportion!I have a very dear friend with a son who is quadriplegic. Every time I call and ask him how he doing he always says "I'm wonderful today, how are you?" It is always a humbling experience for me especially if I am griping and complaining about my own aches and pains. Honestly, you are wallowing in self pity right now! Whether you know it or not there are people out there with far worse situations then yours! I don't usually bring religious issues to my column but since you opened that door by telling me you believe in God then why don't you turn to Him for strength and comfort? If you want an example of suicide from the Bible think of Judas Iscariot who betrayed Jesus. All he had to do was ask forgiveness and Jesus would have forgiven him but in his shame he choose suicide and condemned his soul to Hell. I also don't usually mention anything personal in my column but again I am going to make an exception for you. My 22 year old son is in prison right now (because of drugs) and he has served jail time as well. No, it isn't a nice place to be but I don't think it quite the horror story you are imagining it to be either. There are other people just like you in there who have made mistakes.If you have family and people who love you this would be a VERY selfish thing to do! Loved ones always blame themselves in a situation like this(especially parents)and you would be condemning THEM to hell on earth for the rest of their days! I am not trained in suicide prevention so I can only hope something I have said here will cause you to stop and reconsider. Go to the ER, check yourself into the hospital and talk about these issues with a trained Psychologist. You can also call the suicide prevention hotline listed in your local phone book. I really do see how this could look like the end of the world to you but that is because you are in the middle of it. If you could just find the clarity to step back and see it for what it is, a temporary situation, then maybe you could make a different decision.Jail is temporary,death is permanent. And what if you are wrong? What if you deliberately take your own life and God DOESN'T forgive you because you didn't trust Him enough to get you through this? God doesn't have to accommodate YOUR terms!Do you have a pastor or priest who would discuss this with you? Sometimes this type of situation is a good learning experience. It gives you some time to reflect on how you have been living your life and what changes you need to make in order not to keep repeating the same mistakes. Just remember "THIS TOO SHALL PASS"!
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I'm glad you added the last part. Judges are not cold hearted. For someone in a wheelchair sending them to jail for driving on a suspended license is not the only option available to the court. It is not only cruel towards you it is a hardship for the corrections system. One would think you would have to be in violation of driving under suspension multiple times for a judge to take such drastic punishment.
Suicide is not the answer especially to this problem. What you need is a lawyer. If you do not have a lawyer and cannot afford a lawyer the court will appoint one for you. You do not have to wait until you get to court to ask for a lawyer. Call the clerk of the court. The number should be on the back of the summons. Tell the clerk you have a summons to appear in court and cannot afford a lawyer and would like one a pointed for you. Then follow the clerks direction.
I don't know what state you are in but driving under a suspended license if given a summons is generally a misdemeanor offence punishable by a fine. If it is a felony charge and a first offence even a legal aid lawyer given your circumstances should be able to get the prosecutor to lower the charges to a misdemeanor charge with a fine and maybe some type of community service you are capable of doing. The fine can be paid in installments that can be worked out with the clerk of the courts.
I see nothing here to even consider ending one's life. Even if the judge were to want to lock you up it would most likely be in a halfway house. These are not all that bad. There are no cells you basically sleep there and spend your weekends there. During the day you do community service or you are allowed to go to your job. It is not near as bad as prison.
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