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Q: will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up

Please do not kill yourself, sweetie. God has a plan for you in this life. Right now, you just need to pray about your situation and God will get you through it. Don't try to put it in your own hands. Think about the loved ones, family, and friends you will leave behind. They will miss you. So please do not commit suicide. Ill be praying for you.

Q: My girlfriend of 1 month just recently started abusing me physically and verbally. She really seemed like a cool person at first, but recently she started hitting me with items such as her high heels, purse and back of her hand. She also calls me names such as "FATSO", "LUMPY HEAD", "MUCHO RETARDO", and "HITLER". I really don't know what to do. I work out a lot and people would say I'm pretty good looking, but I just cant see myself without her in my 12 year old life. I cant take my eyes off her when I see her playing kick ball. I know its not right for her to treat me like this, but I think she might be possessed by a demon or something. Seriously, she likes the Dolphins and she used to like the Chargers....something has to be possessing her! anyway...please HELP!

Well it doesn't seem like this girl likes you as much as you like her. If you feel like you are being physically and emotionally abused by her then break up with her. Don't force your self to be with her. I highly doubt that she is possessed. There are plenty of other girls that would probably treat you better.

Q: I'm a female, 16 years old. Me and my boyfriend(who's the same age as me) are both still virgins, we were talking about losing our virginity to each other. We're a little bit scared thou, and nervous, we don't wanna use a condom either Anyways, We love each other very much, we think it's time... I'm just a little nervous it might hurt. Ughh, should I wait ?

Its a personal decision. You must use your own judgement to decide if its the right time and the right person. I would recommend using a condom for safety reasons. You wouldn't want to get pregnant and also you wouldn't want to receive a STD.

I know most teens your age have lost their virginity and you probably want to see what its like. But you need to make sure you are safe while having sexual encounters. You are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your body. You have plenty of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. Good luck :)

Q: recently Disney Channel aded these dumb teen programs im glad they cancelled Hannah Montana Life with Derek So Random and hopefully they cancelled My Babysitters a Vampire but i think they must cancel Ant Farm Austin and Ally and Shake It Up so how can you get it done

I don't think you can do anything about that. Usually the producers and creators of the show make the decision to cancel the show. Some other reasons are: The cast is getting too old or wants to move on from the show, There aren't many viewers that watch the show, Or a lack of money to continue filming the show.

Q: I'm 13 and in the U.S. I have been liking this one boy for almost a year. And everyone keeps telling me that I am too young for a boyfriend. What age is too young??? And how do I avoid the comments like you're to young???

I had this same problem. I was 11 and this guy kept asking me out. So I said yes. I told my parents and they thought of it as a joke. Anyway, most relationships that happen with kids 13 and under don't last long. But if you really love this guy and truly care for him then go for it. And just ignore the people who say that you're too young. Mostly everyone has had "crushes" and "young love." The age for dating depends on the person. But I would say that 13 is a good age to handle the break ups.

Q: For a while now, I've liked my guy friend as more than a friend, but I'm not sure he likes me back.
He always reads my blog when no one else does, and he talks to me when I sit next to him in lessons. When I sit next to him, he acts comical and does things like take my ruler or swap out pens.
He sometimes leans on me when he's talking to the boy sitting the other side of me, and our elbows will often be touching for minutes at a time (with neither of us moving them).
I sometimes see him looking at me, and when he talks to me when we sit opposite each other, he often looks at me in the eyes.
We like the same things, so he often messages me links about them,, or puts funny things.

What do you think? What should I do to subtly tell him I like him as more than a friend, if I should?

Thanks :)

From my perspective of things it seems like he likes you more than a friend as well. But don't get your hopes up because you don't know this as a fact yet. Maybe you should talk to some of his guy friends and ask them if he talks about you a lot. This is one of the signs that he likes you. Another sign is when boys "pick on you." Weather it may be him poking you or jokingly stealing your pens. He's trying to get you attention. Most guys like attention. I think you should tell him how you feel. Most likely he will understand.

Q: 15/f this guy 17/m we have been talking for like two months now he goes to my school. we talk all the time and its not awkward or anything we are really good friends and we talk about anything and everything. he'll usually always text me first and he'll say he thinks im a cool person and a cool person to talk to, im attractive, im really down to earth, nice and everything. and the other day we were talking about how when we both at a party I was drunk and that was the first we were talking really and he wasn't drinking and I wanted to hook up (make out) with him just because it was a spontaneous thing but he was like I cant im talking to this girl they had like a thing or whatever but now that's over I was telling him how that night I didn't like him and he was like was it because I didn't hook up with you and I said I think that had something to do with it and he said did you want to hook up and I said yeah I think so and then he asked if I still wanted to and I said yeah I would. and by this point he had been asking me to hangout for a while so I said oh this is why you wanna hangout and he said no if I just wanted to hook up with you I would've just asked and never talked to you again I actually really wanna hangout with you because I like talking to you. so I am so confused if hes just "beating around the bush" with I like this about and I like that about you, he wont come out and say I like you but I have no idea. I asked my friend whos in his grade if hes really talking to anyone and she said no hes not. his best friend that im friends with told me he was talking about me saying that he thinks im a cool girl and about the hook up thing and how hes not really looking for a relationship. but I don't even know if I am either I just want to know how he feels about me only because If I hook up with another guy I don't want him to think like he doesn't mean anything to me or whatever so im just confused

In your mind it may seem like he's totally into you. In his mind he may think of you as a girl-friend. Here are some questions you should ask yourself: Do I really like this boy? Is he the right one for me? Or does he just want to get in my pants? You have to be carful with boys. Some of them may not even like you for you but for your looks or body. From what you've said in your paragraph in which you described you problem it seems that in fact he does like you. But you might want to take this relationship slow if he was recently talking to another girl.

Q: I have really large, almost buggy eyes that everyone makes fun of. they are big and they practically bulge. they're not that bad, but there's like a line under my eyes. they are blue. I have middle length blond hair that is really thin.. its light blonde and has a purple streak. I'm a girl, 13, and 88 lbs. , and 5 foot 2 and my breasts are 36B I'm not like stick skinny, though. I'm just skin, bones and muscle.

my best friends say I'm gorgeous and they wish they looked like me, but other people like some guys and girls say I'm ugly and weird. I get depressed about this, and one time I carved ugly into my arm with a pointy stick...

Do I sound ugly? I'm in middle school, also.

Just block out the haters. They probably feel insecure about themselves as well. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. It may take some time for you to see your own beauty. Beauty on the outside doesn't matter anyway. Your inner beauty is all that matters. No one is ugly. You are beautiful no matter what they say. Words can't bring you down. Good luck :)

Q: My daughter just started her period and the month after that she didn't have one and it's been 3 months since then. I know FOR SURE it's not pregnancy but I have no idea what it could be.

I had the same problem. I started having periods when I was twelve. I would see blood for one day and then it would stop. And then in about two or three months I would bleed for one day and it would stop. So my mom took me to the doctor and she said that she had the same problem as well. In fact, she started her actual period at eighteen! She also told me that these symptoms are normal and will happen a while until your daughter starts having a normal cycle.