Is it a good idea to progress things with my friend, does he like me back?
Question Posted Friday June 21 2013, 4:39 pm
For a while now, I've liked my guy friend as more than a friend, but I'm not sure he likes me back.
He always reads my blog when no one else does, and he talks to me when I sit next to him in lessons. When I sit next to him, he acts comical and does things like take my ruler or swap out pens.
He sometimes leans on me when he's talking to the boy sitting the other side of me, and our elbows will often be touching for minutes at a time (with neither of us moving them).
I sometimes see him looking at me, and when he talks to me when we sit opposite each other, he often looks at me in the eyes.
We like the same things, so he often messages me links about them,, or puts funny things.
What do you think? What should I do to subtly tell him I like him as more than a friend, if I should?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? LaMarionnette answered Sunday June 30 2013, 12:16 pm: The fact that he reads your blog could be because he pays special attentions to you, Could be because you're close as girl friends, Or because he has some interests in you. He could be trying to make you comfortable being with him. His behavior is so similar to one of my friend, 'Puppy-like-boy-friend'.
If you want him to notice that you like him as a Boy/Man. Stare at him more often than you normally do, Avoid direct eye contacts, When he notices you staring at him, Avoid looking at him and smile a lil, When you talk to your other guy friends, Try to 'Peek' at the boy (Your crush) And see what his reactions are, If he starts getting annoyed a lil, That could be a sign of jealousy. Try having skin contacts with other guys, Wait and see his reactions. Careful not to let him notice you, 'Cause if he does, He'll know you're trying to provoke him. If you ever get a chance, While you walk beside each other, Hold his hand. You could try telling him you got a boyfriend, If his behaviors changes, It means he's annoyed/sad/depressed 'cause you're in a relationship. It could mean he likes you.
This worked for my friends, So it'll probably work with you too.
Don't ask him if he likes you, Or tell him your feelings, Try to get him to notice yours.
Only tell him your feelings if you're 80% sure that he likes you. You don't want to ruin your friendship with him. Don't take the risk if you don't want to lose your friend.
Dragonflymagic answered Friday June 21 2013, 8:16 pm: Is this his normal nature? Is he this friendly with others? I am guessing probably not. He is showing you that he likes you in subtle enough ways to not scare you off. He may be afraid to ask if you will be his girl for fear you may reject him. Sometimes, a girl just has to take the first step. Scary isn't it? LOL I know of a young lady on youtube who in one of her video's suggests simply writing a note that says 'Do you like me a lot?' and put two boxes for checking off, one for yes, one for no. You draw a simple heart and smiley face on it. fold it up and slyly hand it to him one day in class. I am sure he will answer and return it. Once he has confirmed with a yes, you should feel free to have conversation about whatever you like, if you haven't yet, then trade phone numbers maybe write and share stuff on facebook. If he hasn't yet, see if its okay for him to come hang out at your house. I am sure you can figure out what to do from this point. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
lightoftruth answered Friday June 21 2013, 6:15 pm: It does sound like he is interested in you as more than a friend. But you can't be totally sure because he could just end up being a really friendly friend. But honestly, it does sound like he likes you or is at least interested in you.
I think you should flirt with him a little bit and see how he reacts. If he takes it well then you know he's into you. You could also invite him to hang out and go somewhere and see how that goes when it's just the two of you.
But definitely flirt. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
xTruthinLovex answered Friday June 21 2013, 5:26 pm: From my perspective of things it seems like he likes you more than a friend as well. But don't get your hopes up because you don't know this as a fact yet. Maybe you should talk to some of his guy friends and ask them if he talks about you a lot. This is one of the signs that he likes you. Another sign is when boys "pick on you." Weather it may be him poking you or jokingly stealing your pens. He's trying to get you attention. Most guys like attention. I think you should tell him how you feel. Most likely he will understand. [ xTruthinLovex's advice column | Ask xTruthinLovex A Question ]
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