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I am 14/f. I am a complex person and believe I am well beyond my years. Anyways I specialise, wait that makes me sound official, am better at talking and giving advice about sexuality confusion etc as a young teen like myself. I will give loads of my questions a try and not afraid to do so but don't blame me if you wanted my opinion and didn't get what you want.
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
Look I've dealt with many many people feeling suicdal and my honest opinion is its not the way to go. Loads of people turn to punishing themselves for their lives misfortunes and that's not right either, I'm not religious by any stretch of the imagination and in not even sure if God is entirely real to be honest but I don't discourage religion. If you do commit suicide then you're out of grief and misery but you're not the one who sees the pained parents and family and even mates after, you're not the one who picks up the pieces. I can understand this is a tough time to go through but do not kill yourself. Personally I don't think your God would want you to kill yourself! Do you?


i get horny alot and i want to get a vibrator but im too young what is something i could use from around the house they would give the same feeling? (link)
pen and an electric toothbrush


Hi! I'm 13, do u think it would be Appropriate for me to get a rabbit vibrator like the one with the rabbit head for clit and the dildo moves around. Should I ask my mom for one or am I too young? Please help!! (link)
Okay so I think this is easy to relate to for me as I'm 13 and female. I went through a stage where it was just either feeling lonely or the complete opposite and being sexually active.
I would say that you should talk to your mum about it but don't ask for one. If you want that feel then just masturbate.
My personal opinion don't tell anyone you masturbate though okay.


young female

Okay so I'm mostly straight (I've only dated guys), but my first kiss was with a girl (I was at most 7 and my older sister kinda...you get the idea.) and I've made out with a female friend a couple of times.

I come from a strict Catholic family, from a homosexuality standpoint. But the times I made out with my friend, well... they were amazing. The first time we were just messing around and pretending that we were going to kiss eachother, but at one point our lips accidentally met. We both looked shocked for a moment, and then pulled in for another, and started to make out quite intensly. I was becoming a bit overwhelmed afterword, because my parents view it as sin and because we both had boyfriends (we were 12 for gods sake), but she reassured me that we were just practicing on one another. The second time, I was feeling aroused and invited her over. We ended up making out, each taking turns to stimulate the other, and eventually dry humping. We both decided then that that was the farthest we'd go, including 'scissoring'. But that was the last time because I freaked out and almost killed myself over shame.

Now I feel kind of bad, because I could tell that both of us were developing crushes.

I guess my questions are:

1. Is this sin? Should I be ashamed?
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2. should I contact her- the friend- and apologize? Its been 2 years, but we're still in contact.


Thanks. (link)
You like this girl a lot if you tried it on then that's serioyus it is not a sin at all you should try contacting her as well coz she may feel the same way you do so if you feel sexually aroused then try it on again don't confront anyone unless you 100% trust them!!!!


I am in high school and we are doing a swim unit. Boys and girls are both in the class. I am a very anxious and nervous person but I find myself not caring at all about being in a swimsuit in front of the class especially girls and yet I have some stretch marks? Why is this? How can this happen when I am usually anxious? I am a 15 year old boy by the way
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Thanks for your advice im actually 15 and sixteen is when i can do it. There is only 2 days between us so would it be bad coz my bday is tomorrow he was sixteen yesterday so is it really that bad


What is the best energy drink to have dureing a tournement ??
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i'd say the normal 35p ones or the monster/rockstar/relentless group avoid any for of red bull or boost as they have steroids in them!


I'm 15 and I love animals my mom said I can have 1 animal of my choice. I've picked three animals and have revised a lot about them I can pick 1 corn snake 2 guinea pig or 3 kitten I know all the information about each animal and how to care for them which One should I choose .. And I have taken into consideration the cost of keeping each animal (link)
I would defiantly say a snake because (and I know this sounds harsh but its from experience 4 times) you don't get as attached and it wont hurt you as much when it dies as you can just pick up another one although and i may a puppy would be best for your age group as you can learn about responsibility as well as having a nice surprise when you get home from school or having to comfort for..... teen purposes!


Hi everyone,

I just want to thank the people who take time out of their day to give advice to others. I really appreciate the advice you guys give . . . it's extremely helpful to me and so many other people!

Thanks again for all you do on Advicenators!

-Athena (link)
You're most welcome. I apreciate people who apreciate people who take time out of their own hands to spen on others i think thats a really kind thing to do!


Hey everyone! Well, here's the thing. I am reading books and I used to not read at all but I do now. I read the genres of horror,cancer related issues, suspense, and teenage bullying stories. If anyone has any book suggestions I would highly appreciate it. Thank you! (link)
Check out the hunger games all three there quite cool and any doctor who book there suspending as well so hope u enjoy and get well into the books


I have an over bite and have had it since I was younger will I need braces ? (link)
yes


so I am only 14 years old.
I've started to talk to this guy, who is a sophomore. Though he goes to a different school that I do.
we don't live to far, and are planning to hang out soon at one of my schools football games.
he told his mom and step dad that we were talking& that he likes me and they said that I'm pretty and they're okay with it.
On our date at the football game which is in like 2 weeks, August 30, I start school August 29. & his school year started last Monday. He was planning on asking me out. I really like this boy, & I want to be in a serious relationship with him
I want him to meet my parent. (Dad) But I'm too scared and don't know how he'll react.
I live with my dad, grandpa and brother. & uncle sorta, so it's alllll guys, and yeah.
I don't live with my mom, but I do visit her at times, and I wanna tell her too.
if anything ill tell my mom first, but I don't know how. and too scared.
another thing, the guy lives not too far from her. So if she wants to meet him, ill tell him or something to go to her house.
how do I tell them????!!!!
I'm so scared and nervous!
though in the past my dad thought I had a boyfriend once and told my mom to ask me about it. (link)
Okay so you can't really not tell them, so just come out with it and say mum/dad how would you feel if I had a boyfriend and we went on a date after school to a football game. He's really cute and I'm fourteen so you can really tell me that I'm too young. Think of it like a song it cant go into the charts unless you have permission and then people think its really good and you finally get discovered so yes. I hope this advice helps I know it seems hard but it isn't as hard to say it, but it may also help being near a toilet! ;))


I want this on my phone and was wondeing the name of the app!!!! (link)
this advicenators app how do i get it on my android or can't i?


Im tired of being hurt and feeling lost I live with my dad and stepmom but I have another family two hours away and in that family I have my stepdad he's horrible he treats my sisters with love and care but I get told I'm worthless and no one would care if I existed I can't do this anymore I usually keep strong but he's tearing down any defense I have two years ago I attempted suiside but my 6 year old sister caught me and stopped me I did it because of him but never told my parents about it they don't even know I attempted it no one knows but my sister she watches me everyday now and its getting worse again his words hurt more than it should I don't know what to do anymore 15f
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Suicide will not solve your problems. Maybe if you tell your mum about the abuse then you won't feel alone and you'd have someone to talk to or say you're going to a friends, but instead go to the police and say you step-dad is discriminating you as he is. No child should go through this and it's unfair that you are.


i have lost my virginity how i can get it back? (link)
If you don't know what virginity s it's where you've had sex. And though you're question seems stupid it does confuse people as to why the can't get it back.
The reason you cant get your virginity back: thats like saying "my house has been burned to the ground how do I get it back" you've had the sex and you can't un have the sex you had it's a physical impossibility!


Hi , Im 13 years old , & Im 5'6 & I weigh 256 pounds . I am WAY over weight . I cannot go to dieting because I have a physical in one month so i NEED to loose weight before I go off the charts and I dont want him to yell at me . I literally just started making myself puke to loose weight . How long will it take for me to be average weight ? (link)
okay so this can come from depression okay so all im gonna say is do some running walk the dog walk instead of drive and dont drink as much crap food and you will soon lose the weight okay!


I am 14 and a virgin but I have been fingered several times... I have a certain odor down there, I'm not sure if it is normal or not and it really worries me. I've tried certain washes, creams, etc and nothing seems to help me. I am very scared to go to a gynecologist, I am just a teen and I'm not sure of my mom's reaction if I were to ask. Should I try asking my regular doctor? Or is it normal? And also, in the days of my ovulation, I have a worse smell and alot of discharge that lasts for a week. I'm not sure what that means, I've came across similar problems with down there and my mom thought I had stds. I never looked into it much further than going to a regular doctor why couldn't tell me anything. I'm very nervous about gynecologists and I'm not quite sure what to do or exactly what, "down there" is supposed to smell like. (link)
This is normal usually when you have your period the question is have you drunk and had it with someone! If so then u might want to get a pregnancy test or something! Even if you are certain u might still want a preggers test


here is my story.im a 13 year old female and have had an obvious attraction for women since a very young age. I would deny it every day and say this cannot be happening your straight you like men.I fell into a habit of self destruction. I had 1 crush on a guy, but I was 8 my parents were fighting and I only liked him because he was girly.Last summer a friend who was also questioning her sexuality came out to me at a fair. I talked to her recently and she says shes straight again.At that moment I realized that maybe I am as well.I always would fantasize about women,men almost never.I have come out to a very few close people including my mother who is very accepting and understanding and a few very close friends.they understand,I live in a tight homophobic racist community and have been made fun of for being a bit if a tomboy and holding hands and even hugging and kissing my 2 best female friends good-bye.my dad is one of those guys who never accepts anything like this.im afraid im in a phase, but am sure i'm not.comments?i have anxiety as well. I have had a crush on a girl for he longest time she's straight and knows I like her its complicated she acts like she likes me all the time and says stuff like o shes my half gf, I'm so lost.im a cutter and bruiser and lost.im made fun of constantly and need support and an answer to my questions in my heart about who I like in that way.thank you and I apologize for thwe length. (link)
First, you seem really nice and don't need to apologize for the length. Heres a little tape about a girl with the same problem ignore the things like the cutting videos around it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEiDyG-POA4. You shouldn't resort to cutting yourself. If it's blatantly obvious you like this girl and she knows it leave it and if she wants you she'll come and get you, she does know where you are after all. My friend is bisexual and I helped her through it and she is now in a happy relationship though , I haven't spoken to her in a while. Don't worry about opening out to you're Dad he's your Dad he'll learn to except it because you're his daughter. If you have liked women for ages but also liked a man because he was girly then you're a lesbian. You're family and neighborhood will learn to except who you are and what/who you like if you come to find yourself to love a man count yourself as a bisexual although leave it a couple of years as you say, it might just be a phase as I know people who thought they were and they weren't and they then grew out of it.


This is an opinionated question; how do YOU know when you're in love? (link)
It's hard to explain and most people cant so just go with the flow. I suppose you know when you're in love when you look and someone and you tend to think that he/she is cute. You can sometimes get butterflies in your stomach or find it hard to bring up topics to talk about and just come out with random things. This is the same if you're gay or think you are but don't know it, if you look at a guy and think ' oh he's kinda cute lets see if he likes me' then talk to him don't hide yourself away, also ask people when they were first in love how did they know it!


OK! I'm a 14/f and I've been talking with my crush who is just a few years older than me (not much and don't talk about age, its not that huge of an age gap) we are both mature and are both in a school activity. Since it's summer we text literally everyday. I love talking to him (its very easy talking to him :D) and lately we are both struggling to find topics. Cause I can tell he likes talking to me just as much as I like talking to him. I want to keep conversation fun and continuous but I need help with ideas. So please give ideas!! We usually talk about the activity we are both in and how our days are. SO PLEASE HELP!!!! :) (link)
Okay so heres the thing! You both like talking right! Maybe tell a joke or play a game or something. Or you could maybe tell him how you feel because then you might have a shot at going out so then you would have a lot to talk about you're fourteen so maybe go to the park or beach and I know because you're fourteen you have a lot on you plate at the moment, like puberty and things so just go with the flow and see where it takes you.




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