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how to tell my parents
so I am only 14 years old.
I've started to talk to this guy, who is a sophomore. Though he goes to a different school that I do.
we don't live to far, and are planning to hang out soon at one of my schools football games.
he told his mom and step dad that we were talking& that he likes me and they said that I'm pretty and they're okay with it.
On our date at the football game which is in like 2 weeks, August 30, I start school August 29. & his school year started last Monday. He was planning on asking me out. I really like this boy, & I want to be in a serious relationship with him
I want him to meet my parent. (Dad) But I'm too scared and don't know how he'll react.
I live with my dad, grandpa and brother. & uncle sorta, so it's alllll guys, and yeah.
I don't live with my mom, but I do visit her at times, and I wanna tell her too.
if anything ill tell my mom first, but I don't know how. and too scared.
another thing, the guy lives not too far from her. So if she wants to meet him, ill tell him or something to go to her house.
how do I tell them????!!!!
I'm so scared and nervous!
though in the past my dad thought I had a boyfriend once and told my mom to ask me about it.
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I think you should start with your mom first. You can tell her that you've been talking to this guy and you really like him. He asked you on a date to the football game. Then she'll probably just ask some questions or you can just ask her for advice. Like what to say or what to wear, even if you already know. It might make her feel a little better that you're coming to her.
As for your dad, probably just go for the same thing. I wouldn't tell him around any of the other guys. Make sure it's clear that you both aren't "dating" yet, like no officially so if your dad starts to get a little weird about it, you can suggest having him over for dinner some time.
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Dad already thought you were dating before, I'd say its a sign that he realizes you are at that age and is expecting it to happen sooner or later.
While, you could tell mom, the one who you live with and has the majority of the parenting responsibility for you is your Dad. So while its nice to tell mom and get her thoughts once you are in the relationship, helpful hints and warning regarding boys and dating, Dad will be the one who really gets to see the guy up close, observe his behavior, how he treats you and whether he acts accepting and friendly towards or has grudges and problems with adults, parents and authority in general. The best way for Dad and the other males at home to observe your guy is by inviting him to come hang at your house a lot. I think it is a wonderful deal that you actually have other males in the home who know you well and care about you so they can balance Dad out if Dad does get too overprotective. However, I don't think Dad will have any issues. Hanging with your guy at school in a public setting is fairly safe. But real dating, Dad may feel more comfortable allowing you to do if he gets to know the guy first so he isn't a virtual stranger. So, yes, you have to tell dad. You may feel awkward at first. It's a natural thing to want to explore how to talk to a guy, get to spend time with them and come to understand the basic differences in characteristics. Thats what dating is about and this is one of the things to learn in life, especially during teen and college years so that you'll know who the right guy is later for a life time committed relationship whether married or not. So there is nothing to fear. Your parents were teens once...they know what its like. If Dad has not yet sat you down and talked about guideline and rules he has for dating for you, then you'll have to ask him. Females are always better at this kind of thing, communicating so Dad might need some prompting. Once he knows you want to know how he feels about you and dating, it will be easier. So just tell him theres a guy
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Okay so you can't really not tell them, so just come out with it and say mum/dad how would you feel if I had a boyfriend and we went on a date after school to a football game. He's really cute and I'm fourteen so you can really tell me that I'm too young. Think of it like a song it cant go into the charts unless you have permission and then people think its really good and you finally get discovered so yes. I hope this advice helps I know it seems hard but it isn't as hard to say it, but it may also help being near a toilet! ;))
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There is no reason to be scared; dating is a natural part of growing up. What you need to be concerned about, there is a difference between being concerned and scared, is the difference in your ages.
I'm guessing that as a sophomore this boy is at least 2 years older than you. Not really a big difference chronologically and if you were 24 and him being 2 years older their would be no reason to even discuss age difference. If you were 18 I don't think there would be reason to discuss age difference but you are 14 and not very knowledgeable in dating or do's and don'ts of dating. The boy being 16 is more dating knowledgeable or more mature or sophisticated in dating.
As a dad and as you dad will be, I would be concerned that you could be placed in a position you are not sure how to handle. If that were to happen you could be hurt, both physically and or emotionally. As dads our job is to try and keep this from happening.
If he were to come and meet me before you were to date that would be a big plus for him in my book and probably in your dads book as well. I might let you meet him at the football game but you would have to come right home afterwards.
As for regular dates with him, probably not you're just too young. You need time to date boys your own age and learn how to date before dating older boys. You learn how to date by going on group dates to the mall, the movies and other activities. Then when you're older and more dating mature, something your parents will have to decide when that happens, you will be allowed to date one on one.
As a dad I know your parents are waiting for you to come to them about dating. I also know that dad in particular is dreading this day for his little girl will always be his little girl even when she is all grown up and has a family of her own. This is just the way dads are with their daughters.
Dad, mom, one or both may say no today though don't get too upset if you do you will only justify their decision. At 14 years of age you may have earned a bit more trust and freedom, that would be your parents call, then you had at 12 years of age. Just how much freedom is based on how much maturity your parents see in you and how much trust you have earned.
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